Recently, while having dinner with friends, I heard her complain about a funny thing:
The day before the National Day holiday, a friend and her colleague stayed in the office overtime because a project was not completed.
At 8 p.m. that night, they submitted their proposals, went out for supper together, and then went home around 11 p.m.
Just when they were just separated, she saw a post from a colleague in her circle of friends.
* It's a colleague's desk, with the text: It's really hard, working overtime until now.
My friend thought it was funny, he got off work at 8 o'clock, but he pretended to work overtime until late at night in the circle of friends.
I've been in a similar situation.
When I was in college, I had a friend and we used to study together on our own.
I remember very clearly that the average time of each self-study was 3 hours, and she would spend 2 hours playing with her mobile phone, eating snacks for half an hour, and finally reading a book for half an hour, and taking a photo of the ** punch card.
After returning to the dormitory, she will post a news in the circle of friends, attaching a ** in the study room, showing that she is very motivated and very hard-working.
However, after the exam, she was still very anxious and complained: I study so hard every day, why do I still fail the exam.
Friend, you're just pretending to be working hard in your circle of friends.
bought a book, took a photo of ** and sent it to the circle of friends to check in, as if I had read it;
Insomnia in the middle of the night, take a picture of the ** outside the window: Have you ever seen Beijing at 4 o'clock in the morning? I thought I was working late at night;
Once in a while, run 5 kilometers, take a picture of a sweaty vest, and think of yourself as a fitness expert.
Real effort is not for others to see. It's easy to deceive others, but it's too hard to deceive yourself.
During my internship, I worked for a Japanese company.
The company's employees go out early and return late every day, wear suits, and look elite.
But in reality, many people just waste their time in the company, doing inefficient work.
They are reluctant to adopt more efficient working methods and like to hold meaningless meetings and sort out outdated materials.
Even when it's time to leave work, in order to make a good impression on their superiors, they will sit in their seats, wipe the table or tap a few times on the keyboard, just to show that they are diligent.
There is a very important principle in the rigid "seniority" Japanese corporate culture: no matter how well you do your job, as long as you keep doing it, you are a good employee.
In fact, this is an "ineffective effort".
The real effort is not about who spends more time, who works late, who abuses themselves more, but who dedicates oneself wholeheartedly and continues to work hard with focus and enthusiasm.
In addition to those who pretend to work hard, there is another type of person who does work hard but lacks the right approach.
I still remember that there was a girl in my college class who was very serious about her studies, and she was determined to go to graduate school from the beginning of her admission.
She is the first to come to the classroom and the last to leave every day.
During class, most of the students listened absent-mindedly, only her eyes flashed with curiosity.
She takes notes very carefully, does not let go of any knowledge points, and will chase after the teacher after class to ask countless whys.
She will copy all the courseware from the teacher's computer home, and will also listen to the lectures recommended by the teacher, and never miss an opportunity.
Her daily life is spent shuttling between the library and the study room.
But the strange thing is that her academic performance has always been at the bottom, and an ordinary scumbag can easily surpass her as long as she works hard for a few days.
After every exam, she always broke down and cried: I have worked so hard, why has no effect at all.
In fact, it's not that she doesn't work hard, it's just that she's going in the wrong direction.
The direction is wrong, and the harder you try, the more you will only deviate from the right path.
In retrospect, she only took notes in class and missed the time to think and interact.
She just mechanically copied the knowledge points on the courseware into her notes, and even if she took notes, she never thought about the reasons.
She does work hard, her books and notes are full of labels and annotations of different colors, but if you ask her a random question about a textbook, she will only be at a loss.
As Teacher Yue Xin once said: "A low level of diligence does not need to use their brains, and after exhaustion, they are moved, resulting in their impossibility of improving themselves and making themselves more valuable." ”
Without effort in the right direction, it is a low level of diligence.
Last year, with the encouragement of a friend, I got a fitness card.
I've found that in the gym, the highest percentage of people sweat the most on the treadmill, but they are generally overweight.
People who are really in good shape prefer to stay in the equipment area.
And they usually don't exercise for too long. After warming up, they will concentrate on the area they want to work on, then stretch properly and leave.
The people who spend the most time in the gym tend to be the ones who like to run.
I have a friend who is a fitness instructor and he told me:
People who like to run usually give themselves chicken blood, and this type of motivation often only lasts for three to five days, and after a while, the motivation will disappear.
Throughout the gym, the people who seem to work hardest tend to be the ones who run, but they are the slowest to get results.
Because if you want to lose fat, you can do strength training first, and then run, and the results will be better.
When I was a student, the people who studied best were never the ones who spent all day in the study room, but those who were able to arrange their lives in a variety of ways.
Because people who work at a high level will spend more time thinking and choosing what they really deserve to do.
Once they've set their direction, they'll put their time and energy into doing their best.
And low-level diligent people work hard for the sake of hard work, and they often don't understand why they do it after thinking about it.
It's not that they're too lazy to do it, it's that they're unwilling to use their brains.
Lei Jun once said, "Never try to cover up strategic laziness with tactical diligence." ”
People who really work hard never stop at the surface. They are diligent in thinking and finding the direction they are committed to, so that they can achieve twice the result with half the effort.