is not as smart as Mrs. Xu, and her pension method is the most down to earth

Mondo Entertainment Updated on 2024-02-09

Mrs. Xu, whose full name is Xu Xiuzhen, is 79 years old and has four children, two boys and two girls.

The eldest is 60 years old and a dentist at a local hospital.

The second is 58 years old and is the vice principal of a local school.

The eldest daughter, 56, is a teacher at a local primary school.

The second daughter is 52 years old, in Chengdu, a company employee.

All four children have their own fixed occupations, except for the youngest daughter, who is not around, the other three are local.

Mrs. Xu lives downstairs from my house, and we get along very well. The old man is kind and kind and very good at talking, we young people, who quarrel with each other, as long as Mrs. Xu comes out, I am sure that the two of us will not quarrel again.

When she was young, Mrs. Xu was the director of political education in a primary school, and she was best at doing ideological work. We, a few young couples, are often convinced by her.

Mrs. Xu always uses her own stories to educate us, husbands and wives should be considerate and respect each other, and don't leave regrets in a lifetime.

According to the old lady, she was born in a poor peasant family in the north, with six brothers and sisters, crammed into two dilapidated caves, with little food and no clothing, except for her youngest sister and her older sister who finished primary school, the rest of the four brothers are blind.

The third and fourth brothers have attended literacy classes and can write their own names, while the eldest brother and second brother can't even write their own names. But they are hardworking and willing to work, and since the package production has arrived at the household, the situation has become stronger day by day.

Mrs. Xu's father is the team leader of the village production team, and his task is to urge people to go to work on time every day, and he also has to record the work points of those who go to work every day. I also often go to the brigade headquarters to receive tasks and hold meetings. One year, when there was a shortage of teachers in the village primary school, the brigade director mentioned it to his father, and his father kept an eye on it, and went home to ask her if she would like to be a primary school teacher.

As soon as her father said this, she said happily that she was willing, lest she miss the opportunity. She is 18 years old, a few years after graduating from high school, she naturally likes to read, admires cultured people, and is so happy to be able to teach the village dolls with her teachers.

When she arrived at school, she learned that she was teaching a duplex class. A classroom has two grade children, one in the first grade, with a third grade, and there are about seven or eight people in each grade.

She teaches all the subjects by herself. After finishing the first grade class, settling the children to do their homework, and then teaching the third grade children, I went to Chinese and math, physical education class is play, and ** class is to teach the children to sing the songs she can sing.

Later, she changed from a temporary substitute teacher to a private teacher, with an income of more than ten yuan a month. Compared with the girls who work with the production team leader every day in the village, she is much stronger, the wind does not blow, the sun does not shine, the rain does not get wet, and her face is clean, she is very satisfied.

In 89, she was fortunate to catch the last train of the civilian teacher to become a regular teacher, and became a regular teacher at the age of 40, she has been fighting on the education front for 22 years, and finally got what she wanted.

She is also already a mother of four. Her husband works in the township, and often runs to the countryside from village to village, and the family can't count on anything. For this, they often quarrel.

One day, the youngest daughter had a high fever, and her husband went to the countryside in Liang Village, so she took the child to the township clinic alone, and after infusion, the fever still could not go away. She was worried that the child would burn out his head, so she asked her husband to come back.

The face of the summer monkey changes when it is said. Unexpectedly, it rained heavily in the evening, and her husband rushed to the township health center in a hurry, without rain gear, and was drenched by the heavy rain from top to bottom.

The child's fever subsided, but her husband became ill and caused pneumonia, and then when the day changed, he coughed.

For this reason, they went to the provincial hospital several times and felt better, but the husband always caught a cold, and his body's immunity was extremely poor, and he fell ill.

Later, she entered the city, and her husband was promoted to deputy township chief, thinking that life had embarked on a broad road from then on, but she did not expect that in the fifth year of her entering the city, she and her husband could not take care of each other in life, and her husband fell down in a cold morning and never woke up.

Mrs. Xu was 48 years old that year. She cried out to the heavens and the earth, crying to death, without the help of her other half, how could she take on the responsibility of educating and raising four children!

Mrs. Xu, who has no support, has become an Iron Man and an Iron Lady, under her strict requirements, the four children are studying well, and after the eldest is admitted to medical school, the remaining three children are naturally admitted to a good university without her discipline.

Later, the children fell in love freely, found the object of their hearts, got married and had children, and lived a prosperous life.

Therefore, whenever Mrs. Xu talks about the relationship between husband and wife, she is very moved, and always persuades us to cherish each other. She emphasized that the words she scolded during the quarrel hurt her feelings, and her feelings should not be hurt, and if she was hurt, there would be cracks.

She often said that if she could turn back time, she wouldn't have quarreled with her husband so many times. So much so that after her husband left, she couldn't let go of herself for a long time.

After her husband left, Mrs. Xu only relieved herself after three years, she devoted herself to teaching, and her teaching performance was recognized by the school and parents.

She retired at the age of 55, and after retirement, she received a pension of more than 6,000 yuan per month, and more than 500,000 yuan in savings. Today's eldest son comes, tomorrow's second son comes, the day after tomorrow the eldest daughter accompanies her, the house is always lively, and the old lady's house is not deserted all year round.

This scene lasted for four or five years, and then the children were not as diligent as before, and the old lady went out and went in alone, without much movement, and obviously felt that the old lady's house was much more deserted.

In the summer evening, I always saw the old lady sitting in the gazebo in the courtyard to enjoy the shade, beckoning people to come and sit, and people knew that the old lady was lonely, so they went to talk to her.

More often, Mrs. Xu is very busy, practicing Tai Chi in the morning, square dancing at night, participating in the model team, singing team, and Yangge team during the day.

We all know that Mrs. Xu doesn't like to go home, seeing that it is noon, the women are busy going home to cook, and she is always unsatisfied.

Her own story, other people's stories, she always has a topic, and there is no time to chat with her.

When a teacher tells a story, it's different. Sometimes she is depressed, sometimes she paints her voice and color, and when it comes to emotion, her hands and feet dance, and her eyebrows dance.

When the children were messing around in the yard, she changed her identity as the director of political education and gave the children examples and reasoned. When the children saw her in the yard, they all became obedient, no longer rampage, no longer disrespectful.

She is articulate, quick-witted, and nearly 70 years old, not easy to fool at all. Right and wrong, clear and clear, not old and confused at all.

When it comes to pension, she never shy away from it. Her mantra is: how comfortable you are. People asked her which child she would care for in the future, she said that the children are all old and young, and the living habits of the elderly can't keep up with the young people.

Don't go. Nobody is going! No one is as comfortable as their own home. Sleep when you want, sit when you want, no one dislikes it.

Summary: The golden nest and the silver nest are not as good as their own grass nests.

We all envy Mrs. Xu for not only being physically tough, but also not confused, and being wise and sober in the matter of pension.

But to say that, I haven't seen Mrs. Xu for three days, it turns out that I have a cold. The three children came, and she had to go to the hospital to hang water, but the old lady said that she would not go, saying that she could take medicine and drink more water. He also took away three children.

As a result, I got up in the middle of the night to drink water and fell, but fortunately there was no fracture, and my knee was broken, so it was not in the way.

Now the old lady's children were alert, and said nothing to leave her alone. The three brothers and sisters stayed in rotation for a week, and the old lady was able to move herself, so she shouted for the children not to come, they were busy with work, and they couldn't delay their work because of their own little problems.

With the lesson of the previous time, the three children no longer listened to her. The problem of the old lady's pension is imminent, and it can't be delayed for a day.

After all, the old lady is old, and she lives at home alone, and no one knows if she bumps and falls. Drinking saliva at night and waking up all night are potentially dangerous. Besides, the old lady lives alone all the year round, and eating is always dealt with, which is not good for her health.

After the three brothers and sisters discussed, they came up with five plans to solicit the old lady's opinion:

First, let the old lady choose for herself, see which children's home, and live with them.

The second is to select a child and move to the old lady's house to take care of the old lady's life.

The third is that the old lady lives in the children's house in turns, and the old lady makes her own decisions about the specific time.

Fourth, hire a live-in nanny, who will take care of the old lady with three meals a day.

Fifth, find a better nursing home and see if the old lady is willing to go to the nursing home.

In the end, the three brothers and sisters were afraid that the old lady would be sad, so they said that it was for the record, so they could not consider it.

After listening to the children's suggestions, the old lady was silent for a long time before she said slowly: Children, Mom can move now, I have my own home, you don't have to worry about me, my own body knows by itself, I won't go anywhere.

After a pause, she continued: "I don't plan to live with any of your three brothers and sisters, you have your own living habits, and I also have my own set of life concepts, if you can't integrate, there will be contradictions, and I don't want to burden you." ”

The old lady looked around at the three brothers and sisters, and said: I don't want any of you to move over to live with me, because I am old and have little sleep time, and you and I are together, and the work and rest time are different, and we will not be suitable for a long time."

When the eldest girl heard that the old lady couldn't do this, she couldn't do that, so she said anxiously, "Then which one do you say you agree with?"

The old lady said unhurriedly, "Don't worry, girl. It is not necessary to hire a 24-hour live-in nanny. How much can I do alone, don't waste resources. Besides, my mother is not used to an outsider getting along with me day and night every day, and her living habits may not be acceptable to my mother. What do you say? ”

The eldest looked at the second child and felt that the old lady was also reasonable.

So, the old lady smiled and said, "You really don't worry about me, so hire me an hourly worker to cook a lunch meal and clean the house." ”

The old lady said emotionally, "Children, you all have families and your own jobs, as long as your mother can move for a day, I don't want to add a little trouble to you."

I'm lonely, no one listens to what I want to say, and I can't do anything if I want to, but no matter how difficult it is to be a mother, I don't want your family to have conflicts because of me. ”

However, if I insist on living alone, there are really three longs and two shorts, others will accuse you of being unfilial. Your filial piety mother doesn't want to live up to it, I have a way to get the best of both worlds, do you think it's okay?

The second child smiled and said, "Mom, you don't have to sell it, this is not a story, and there is still a suspense?" , hurry up and say. ”

The old lady said solemnly, "I only need you, and I can come back often when I have time."

However, I have a way to play: no matter who comes back to see me, each child will have a red envelope of 100 yuan each time, and a grandchild will have a red envelope of 50 yuan each time.

Mom has both a salary, a deposit, and a monthly salary, and the red envelopes I give you are called filial piety fees, and the red envelopes I give to your children are called respect for the elderly, so that no matter which of you comes to see me, you will get a salary. Both paid filial piety and took money. Best of both worlds. ”

The three siblings couldn't resist the old lady, so they agreed with a smile. The boss also teased that the old lady was going to be their boss again.

In this way, in addition to the 2,000 yuan hourly salary of the old lady every month, the remaining salary, whoever comes to see her, she will give a 100 yuan red envelope.

No wonder, we always see the old lady's children or grandchildren, all happy when they go out, not because of the hundred-dollar bill in their hands, but because of the cuteness of the old lady.

Once in a chat, we asked about it, and the old lady smiled weirdly and said: A person will get tired of doing one thing repeatedly for a long time, and if there is stimulation, it will be different, just like the Mazu game we play.

Her purpose in doing this is, first, to stimulate the children's filial piety and come back to accompany her more. Second, I want to give my salary to the children in this way.

She also added with a smile: I don't want to be like people say, the third person is not expensive: greedy for money and afraid of death will not sleep! I'm not afraid of death, it's true that I don't sleep much, but I can decide if I'm not greedy for money.

Not to mention, the old lady's trick is really high, and her children and grandchildren are happy to come and return satisfied. When you come to vegetables and fruits, when you go, you carry a hundred yuan bills, and you have a lot of fun.

The old lady also told the children: In case she gets a terminal illness in the future, she will not enter the ICU, intubation, or rescue. She wants to be decent and walk happily.

As for the house she lives in, after she is a hundred years old, her four children will be divided equally.

As for the 500,000 savings, keep it for now, and when she can't take care of herself, she will see a doctor, buy medicine, and hire a nurse. If there is a surplus, the four children will be divided equally.

I have to admire that an old lady lives so transparently, she should be sober in the world.

Treat children, know that there is a sense of boundaries, do not want not to disturb the children's lives, and understand the sense of boundaries.

Treat money and maximize the value of money. It not only solves the problems of life with money, grasps the inertia of human nature, and uses the incentive mechanism to stimulate the filial piety of children.

Treat life and death, life, with dignity, do not drag down the children, die, treat it indifferently, and do not make trouble for the children.

Mrs. Xu's shrewdness and transparency make the elderly care seem easy and interesting, but it is actually full of wisdom.

What do you think? Is this kind of pension advisable?

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