On last year's National Day, we married the girl our son liked, Tiantian.
Tian Tian and her son are college classmates, they started falling in love in their junior year, and after two years of getting along and getting to know each other, they finally achieved positive results.
Tian Tian's full name is Fang Tian, she is not tall, about less than one meter six, her face is thin, ** white, her figure is slim, and there are two cute dimples on both sides of her mouth, and she looks good when she smiles. The eyes are not big, and she looks like a gentle and kind girl.
My son's name is Yao Dong, 1.82 meters, with good facial features, sunny and handsome, especially those watery eyes and long eyelashes, and his sister often sighs why such a pair of beautiful eyes did not grow on her face.
Son Dongdong brought back Tiantian for the first time, watching them walk together, there is too much difference in height, and it doesn't feel like a good match, who knows that the son said proudly: Mom, you don't understand, this is called the cutest height difference.
I said worriedly: If you can really walk together in the future and have children, it is very likely that you will inherit Fang Tian's height, if it is a boy, our people here call this kind of short child a third-class cripple. Can you stand it?
The son rolled his eyes: Mom, you can really do it, we are not married yet, you can actually show the height of your grandson. You see that my dad doesn't have 1.75 meters, I can grow 1.82 meters, it's not the result of good nutrition, I like to exercise, and I stand in front of me, you are not a little old lady, at most 1.5 meters, I haven't inherited your fine tradition, right?
I was speechless by what my son said, and I thought about it too much, but how could I be sloppy about my son's marriage? But from the sweet movements and words, the girl is very clever.
Looking at my son, who usually doesn't help when the oil bottle is poured, following behind Fang Tian, peeling apples, pouring water, and peeling pine nuts, I feel happy and sad in my heart. I am happy that my son also knows how to take care of people, but I am sad that my son is not taking care of himself.
I don't know, mother-in-law in the world is the same as me, with such careful thinking.
The children stayed for two days and went back to school, and I knew that this girl was my daughter-in-law-to-be.
Fang Tian's home and we are a city, but not a district. So I found a way to inquire about her family situation and the behavior of her parents.
I have seen and heard in my life that too many girls are empathetic on the surface, harmless to humans and animals, but actually short-tempered, spend money lavishly, and basically do not reach out for housework. If Fang Tian is also such a person, with my son who didn't take a step forward when the oil pot overflowed, how would he live!
After a round of inquiry, my worries disappeared. Fang Tian's parents are ordinary personnel in public institutions, a younger brother is in high school, his parents have a good temper and character, and the two children are polite to people, do their duty, and have strong self-care skills, they all say that their parents are very good at educating their children.
With the bottom of my mind, I happily prepared for their engagement. As soon as they graduated, they got engaged, and chose the date of marriage, and married Fang Tian into the house lively.
Although I have done my homework, I am still worried that the children now have very individual personalities, and there will be conflicts with mother-in-law like me.
In the unit, my colleagues call me a strong woman; At home, my husband calls me a tigress, and my son calls me tiger mom. I also know that I have a straight personality and some are unforgiving. Especially with the bad old man who has a hot temper, rectum, and can't speak, he often fights, and the war of words starts at any time.
I know I'm not a good daughter-in-law.
The bad old man smoked and drank, a pack of cigarettes a day, starting from opening his eyes in the morning, crawling into the bed and smoking to his satisfaction. The house was full of smoke, and he himself soared into the clouds and fog as a fairy, causing me to cough and suffer from pharyngitis. For this reason, how many times I quarreled with him, how many times I fought, but it had little effect, and even intensified.
Drinking is a little drunk for three days, a big drunk for five days, and the reason for being drunk is attributed to me, blaming me for not letting him drink usually, and when he goes out to drink, I beat him to urge him to go home, which makes him lose face and ......Anyway, those drunken words can just me off. I beat him and scolded him, but it didn't work, I had poor protection skills and had nothing to do.
I'm also not a good mother.
When my son was a child, no one helped me pull him, I was the one who pulled him up day and night, with a handful of and urine. After going to school, from the night and night of elementary school to accompany him to do homework, junior high school to save time to deliver him food every day, to the college entrance examination anxiety so much that I can't wait to take the exam for him.
That's how I didn't fall behind, disgusted with my nagging, as soon as I opened my mouth he came back, and as soon as I opened my mouth to speak, he stepped into the bedroom and slammed the door shut.
It's okay if you don't deal with me, and his dad is even more black-eyed chicken, it's okay for two straight men to not talk when they meet, and it's okay to talk when they talk, what they say, how to hurt people, it's okay if I don't participate, I'll persuade you to fight, good guy, all the firepower is coming to me. I figured it out, and as soon as I slammed the door and left, the intensity of the quarrel waned.
For the two men in my family, one old and one young, I have a headache and liver pain. I don't have a good solution** these two guys who are blocking me.
I never dreamed that as soon as the new daughter-in-law entered the door, the bad old man and the stubborn son miraculously changed.
Let's start with my precious son. The daughter-in-law will do whatever she wants, and let her do whatever she wants. Fang Tian is not as loud as me, her voice is soft, and she called sweetly: Dong'er, come and do me a favor. The son passed by. Even if she is in a hurry, her tone is always so unhurried, and after saying something, can she add a sentence at the end?
As long as I see my son playing games, I don't get angry, but my daughter-in-law laughs and plays with my son. Seeing that his son finished fighting, he rubbed his hands and praised him for his quick thinking and neat shots. The son touched his head and smiled stupidly, and then no matter what task his daughter-in-law assigned, the son happily completed it.
From the bottom of my heart, I admire my daughter-in-law's clever means, she not only has a high IQ, a good university, and a higher emotional intelligence, but also enjoys my son who is dressed to reach out and open his mouth.
I don't know why, what my daughter-in-law sees in her eyes is the advantages of her son, and her praise for her son is even more fanfare, for fear that his father and I will not hear it. Our old couple were surprised, why haven't we found that our son has so many advantages after more than 30 years?
My son goes to and from work happily every day, full of confidence and spirit. I had less and less time to play games, and after two years, I was actually promoted. The boy who used to be ignorant has become a responsible man under the training of his daughter-in-law.
The way my son speaks and does things is constantly changing. Talking to me is obviously more patient, no longer merciless, without hesitation to scold me, and what surprises me even more is that he and his hot-tempered father have not bombarded each other for a long time.
On Sunday, when the interest came, the two men actually picked up their wine and touched their glasses. There are more words, at home and abroad, all over the world, all over the world, you can talk together!
No wonder people say that women are good schools for men. Whether a man is good or not depends on how the woman is trained.
My failed mother has not yet been able to come out of her frustration, and I am surprised to find that the bad old man in my family looks at his daughter-in-law with a doting eye, not full of disgust like me!
The daughter-in-law called "Dad", and he couldn't find the north. The daughter-in-law's discerning eye doesn't know how to find it, and she can always find the good things of the bad old man, the furniture and electrical appliances are a little problematic, and the old man repairs them himself, but I didn't expect the daughter-in-law to be shocked, as if she had discovered a new world, and shouted "Mom, look at my dad, it's amazing, I can repair electrical appliances?" Dad's intelligence and hands-on ability are really a blessing to our family. The old man pursed his lips and smiled, his pride overflowing.
I glanced at him fiercely, to see what you can, I used to repair this and that by myself, I have never seen you so proud!
But I secretly admired my daughter-in-law in my heart, the old man rarely showed such a confident and smug smile in front of me, always like I owed him 200 yuan, a zombie face.
A casual compliment, the old man is very useful, range hood, sweeper, electric baking pan is slightly wrong, as long as I say, the old man will take the lead, volunteered to repair it, no need to be like before, I have to grind many times, in order to please move his big driver!
I was really convinced, from the bottom of my heart. No wonder it is said that marrying a good daughter-in-law is equivalent to stopping a good grave. My ancestral grave is smoking, and I have married such a wise daughter-in-law.
On the other hand, in the past 30 years or so, my own attitude towards the old man and the old man towards me has made me ashamed and ashamed!
We have been with each other for more than 30 years, there is no intimate title, whoever speaks to whom is shouting loudly, if the answer is not timely, they will say that the other party is "deaf", whoever can't find something will say that the other party is "blind", and whoever accidentally does something wrong will say that the other party is a "pig brain" ......I can't see the advantages of the other party, blindly attack, and don't know how to respect and love.
The birthdays of our old couple are often my own must be celebrated, whether he likes it or not, so his love can't be over.
Occasionally, when the mood is good, the old man celebrates his birthday, he makes something delicious, without a word of blessing, I say the simplest "happy birthday" to the old man, he feels that I am sick, and thinks that I speak "tooth numb" (hypocritical).
For my own birthday, I also made a delicious meal by myself, my son bought a cake, my daughter gave me gifts and bought things, and the old man did not forget to offer a sentence: But the birthday can be a year older, and the spirit is in vain.
After the daughter-in-law entered the door, she celebrated the old man's birthday with great fanfare for the first time, and she almost waved the flag and shouted. There are a lot of cakes, red envelopes, and gifts, and when he lit candles and made wishes, the old man trembled his lips, and he was so excited that he couldn't speak. Later, he quietly muttered to me that this birthday was the most solemn and unforgettable in his life. One night, he told me a lot of good things about his daughter-in-law.
The daughter-in-law rarely loses her temper and occasionally gets unhappy, but she also communicates face-to-face with her son until she explains things clearly and thoroughly. She showed us from the face that she was always kind to me, a tenacious mother-in-law, enlightening and dredging to express her understanding and eliminate the unhappiness in our hearts. That patience, that love, let me sincerely admire.
Do things quickly, don't drag mud and water, she can take care of her at home and outside. Relatives and friends also envy us for marrying a good daughter-in-law.
She rarely shops online and spends her money sparingly. I like to go shopping, always impulsively spending, and she never buys things that she doesn't use at the moment. When buying things, you always have to shop around and buy carefully, which I admire even more as a woman.
I have to take three couriers if I don't take five couriers a week, and I can't help but place an order in the live broadcast room. If you buy it back, you will regret it, and it will be troublesome to return it, and you won't like it when you buy back a lot of silver for nothing.
Seeing that my daughter-in-law can spend rationally as a young person, I am embarrassed that this old woman spends money like this. I made up my mind not to buy anything again.
A daughter-in-law, let our whole family slowly change the bad problems, the family is happy, harmonious and beautiful, and move towards a better life.