Shen Congwen said: "Love or not, the feeling is the clearest, and there is no need to say it with your mouth." This sentence speaks a truth, love is a feeling, not a rhetoric. When a man loves you, you can feel his love, and when a man doesn't love you, you can also feel his love. So, what does a man who doesn't love you always say? The answer is: these two words - "it doesn't matter".
When he loves you, his eyes and actions will express his emotions. He will look at you with tender eyes, take care of you with thoughtful gestures, comfort you with sincere words, and surprise you with romantic ways. He will laugh with you when you are happy, cry with you when you are sad, think with you when you are confused, and walk with you when you are confused. He will do a lot of things for you, and even without speaking, you can feel that he cares and cares.
When he doesn't love you, his attitude and words can become cold and perfunctory. He will avoid you with indifferent gazes, ignore you with indifferent actions, deceive you with false words, and reject you with excuses. He will dismiss you when you're happy, ignore you when you're sad, ignore when you're confused, and ignore you when you're confused. He will do very little for you, and even when he speaks, you can feel his disregard and indifference.
Why did he go from loving you to not loving you? It may be because of the passage of time, the fading of passion, or other triggers. Maybe he's met someone more suitable, maybe he's tired of your habits, maybe he feels like you're no longer attractive to him, maybe he just wants a fresh feeling. Whatever the reason, he has lost his affection for you, and he no longer sees you as his lover, but as a stranger or even a burden.
What should you do when you find out that he doesn't love you? Do you continue to endure and wait, or do you decisively turn around and let go and give yourself a new chance? It's a hard choice because you still love him, you don't want to lose him, you want him to change his mind, and you expect a miracle to happen. However, you must know that love is a matter for both parties, not a one-sided effort. If he doesn't love you, no matter how hard you try, you won't be able to win back his heart. You're only going to sink deeper and deeper, the more painful you get, the more tired you get.
So, I advise you that when you find out that he doesn't love you, be brave enough to let go and stop wasting your time and affection. You have to believe that you are worthy of being loved, that you will meet someone who truly loves you, who will prove his love with his actions, who will take care of your feelings with his heart, and who will spend his life with you. You have to love yourself, don't let yourself be hurt unnecessarily, don't let yourself lose your self-esteem and self-confidence, don't let yourself become pessimistic and hopeless.
In short, men who don't love you always say these 2 words - "it doesn't matter". This is the greatest harm he can do to you, and it is also his greatest contempt for you. Don't shed tears for him anymore, don't sacrifice for him anymore, don't wait for him anymore, don't hope for him anymore. You have to love soberly, not lose yourself, maintain your self-esteem, and at the same time bless him and hope that he can find his happiness. You also have to work hard to find your happiness, don't give up on your dreams, don't forget your original intention, and don't stop your pace. I believe that you have worked hard all your life and been loved all your life.