Almost all of the young people that the master met were mentally exhausted and anxious about their careers.
The urging of reading, the urging of work, the urging of singles, and the birth of marriage.
It seems that no matter what stage you are in, there is always an internal friction and anxiety waiting for you.
Kankan is that happy lives are all similar, and unhappy lives have their own misfortunes.
Many people are curious, Master, why don't you middle-aged people be anxious and have internal friction?
The master smiled bitterly, mainly because he didn't have time.
Every day, when I open my eyes, there are old and young, car loans and housing loans are indispensable, and I really want to emo internal friction and anxiety, but the strength and conditions do not allow it.
The whip of life has been raised high, and if you don't whip it quickly, the whip will fall heavily.
Some young people are really anxious.
As an uncompiling contract worker, I took the salary of Weibo and endured the fear of PUA and unemployment in the workplace.
But there are also young people who are anxious about happiness.
After graduation, I took the exam easily, and I accidentally went ashore, and I made up the left-handed civil servant and the right-handed, and I didn't know how to choose.
Regarding anxiety, constant gain can only be alleviated, and only the fear of loss can be completely **.
Master's advice to many people who ask for help seems to be conservative, but there is no way, the era you imagined has quietly come to an end.
In the past two years, housing prices and car prices have been falling, and Pinduoduo also intimately reminds you that it is not that Tmall and Jingdong can't afford it, but that Duoduo is more cost-effective.
The money in his pocket was originally small, but his purchasing power was increased in a daze.
The Master has been in Europe for more than a year, and he has been shocked to find that their jobs can be sold for money.
Housing prices here have not soared significantly, and a solid job is the foundation of a family's life.
The stories of wealth freedom that you can imagine by buying and buying a house casually have all been scattered in that era with the wind.
If you are an ordinary person, the most popular option of all the options is to resign nakedly.
There are two sources of occupational anxiety: either you don't have enough money, or you feel wronged.
If you are wronged, just give more money.
More than ten years ago, when the master first worked, his monthly salary was more than 2,000 yuan, and he was in a tourist city with extremely high consumption.
In terms of this income alone, the moon is light and the moon is panicked.
Therefore, every time the unit has a business trip arrangement, the master enthusiastically signs up, and the room is 350 for a business trip, 50 for the car, and 50 for the meal.
The master always stayed in a youth hostel for 50 nights, and as long as he was not in a hurry, he tried to take the bus, and ate either egg scones or leek boxes.
Every time I go on a business trip, I can save at least 300 yuan, and in the face of the big problem of survival, other morals and face are small problems.
Before economic independence, blindly talking about personality independence was actually quite pale.
Some people are anxious because they have already come up with it easily, and they have not yet experienced loss.
When you work hard and go through many hardships to have something, anxiety will be invisibly **.
It's like that little monk and old monk in the temple.
The little monk said that he always had anxiety in his heart and couldn't let go, so the old monk asked him to take a cup of tea, and then poured hot water into it until the hot water overflowed.
The little monk was so hot that he immediately let go of his hand.
The old monk said, "There is nothing in this world that cannot be let go." When it hurts, it will naturally be put down. ”
If it hurts, it's all over. Thinking about anxiety clearly, the reason is also the same.
At the beginning of the year, Master wrote an article.
Believe in yourself, you are the only possibility for yourself to change your life.
Your core competitiveness is yourself, and it can only be yourself.
Although anxious, most people do not have core competencies and do not care about core competencies.
The countless injuries experienced by the master have proved that without core competitiveness, no matter how much he achieves, he will only help others make wedding dresses.
If you don't believe it, if you look around, less than 20 percent are pragmatic and more than 80 percent are in retreat.
Don't let your anxiety drift around, either lie flat or be anxious to the point of despair.
Despair to the extreme is the only way to truly usher in hope.
Just like in the workplace, you may seem to have no choice, but one of the biggest ways to alleviate occupational anxiety is to do the job in front of you well.
When the state of work changes, so does the spirit of the person.
As you build up your self-confidence, you have your own energy field.
The master walked from a small mountain village at the foot of the Yimeng Mountains on the easternmost side of the Eurasian continent to the Iberian Peninsula, the westernmost part of the Eurasian continent, to study for a doctorate.
Thirty-six years have passed.
Along the way, Master was hardly qualified to choose the best choice every time, but he tried to make sure that every choice was the most suitable.
The greatest anxiety of anxiety is anxiety itself.
It's like Zeng Guofan once talked about:
In the world, shouting and discussing outside the bureau is always useless, and we must bow down to the game, stand up and be responsible, and there is hope for success.
Most of the anxiety comes from the "social clock": each age has its own social yardstick, and each age has its own things that must be done.
When you have this social yardstick in your heart, external pressure and self-pressure are bound to make you overly anxious.
There is no standard answer in your life, you can use it as a multiple-choice question or as a question and answer question.
But you can only answer each question once, just like your life.
When others force you to choose right or wrong, the Master advises you to answer with your heart.
All your life dilemmas are nothing more than a shackle of time set by yourself.
The answer and the key are in your hands.
Instead of always thinking about changing others, it is better to face up to reality and adjust yourself.
All your anxieties in the present stem from worries about the future and regrets about the past.
Sometimes, put aside your anxiety first, try to bow down and enter the game, and combine knowledge and action.
Down-to-earth and living in the moment, you will truly accept life and yourself.