"Behind a happy marriage, there is a hidden tempering of the years.
Wilde: "Life is a series of stupid things, and love is two hearts chasing each other."
In this world, no one is destined to be accompanied, and all encounters and love each other need to be maintained by the joint efforts of both parties. The relationship between lovers is the most delicate, the appearance is determined by the first encounter, the trust is built for a long time, the personality is compatible or not, and the money is stable.
True love needs to go through many tests before it can be beautiful.
You have to be sophisticated, it's feminine dignity. Yang Lan wrote in "Why I Believe in Judging People by Their Appearance" that a person's image is like a business card, although we emphasize that we should not only look at the appearance and ignore the inner quality, but the influence of appearance cannot be ignored. People with outstanding appearance will have a smoother life, especially in love, and the influence of appearance is magnified. Love at first sight, the first thing is to "see", and appearance often becomes the primary factor in whether you are considered when both parties first meet. Physical appearance determines to some extent how far your relationship can go.
However, even though the two are already together, the importance of appearance cannot be overlooked. If a woman becomes raunchy in her daily interactions, the other person may feel disappointed, like the gap between the "buyer's show" and the "seller's show". Women should be aware that men tend to be more tolerant of beautiful women. No matter where you are, a beautiful face and a well-dressed person can be a woman's passport.
Therefore, women should keep themselves sophisticated, because no one is obligated to look beyond your scruffy appearance to discover your excellent inside. Please cherish your image and show your dignity and charisma.
Trust, always on the opposite side of deception, determines how long two people can stay together.
And the love between a man and a woman usually dies on trust.
To be honest, men are very annoying for women to check their mobile phones, check their posts, and look for lipstick, long hair and perfume smell in the dark corners of their shirts, after all, the feeling of not being trusted is still quite uncomfortable.
But women, by nature, are sensitive, and if they are more than real, they are the female version of Sherlock Holmes, and seem to be happy with it.
I once participated in a debate competition, and the topic was whether women should check men's mobile phones.
The boy feels that he should have privacy and that both parties should have independent space.
The girl thinks that if the boy doesn't let him look at his phone, he will be particularly insecure, maybe he is chatting with several women at the same time.
There is never a right answer to the topic of feelings, and the most peaceful solution in reality can only be for both couples to regress.
And, if the two have come to this point, it must be someone on both sides who has a problem, and the man needs to reflect on whether some of his words and deeds have caused the woman's misunderstanding, and the woman should also think about whether she is really catching the wind.
At this time, it is best for the two of them to sit down and have an open and honest talk.
Even if there is no unreserved trust between lovers, there must be no endless suspicions.
Personality fit is essential for two people to be together. I once heard a story about two quick couples who eventually separated because of their strong personalities and frequent conflicts. Although they have superior conditions, their incompatible personalities lead to constant family disputes and eventually the breakdown of their marriage. This made me feel that in marriage and love, it is very important to choose a partner with a similar personality.
Just like the relationship between feet and shoes, the right partner allows us to run freely in life, while incompatible personalities can make it difficult for us to walk. Some people say that there is no natural perfect match, and they all need to run in with each other. It is true that there will inevitably be friction and conflict in marriage, but the key is whether both parties are willing to cut their edges and corners for each other's happiness and seek to live in harmony.
A happy marriage does not happen overnight, it requires the joint efforts of both parties to go through the years of tempering and growth. Therefore, when we choose a partner, we should pay more attention to the compatibility of the personality to ensure that the future married life can be full of harmony and happiness.
Some people come together because of love, and some end up apart because of bread.
Marriage, to put it bluntly, is firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar tea, trivial, bits and pieces, a vulgar market, otherwise how to say that marriage is the grave of love.
I often see articles written, do you choose bread or love in your final marriage?
A long time ago, someone asked me this, do you want bread for marriage? I said, love doesn't need it, marriage needs it.
You can understand this sentence after reading it a few times.
We have to admit that most of us are ordinary people who have struggled all our lives to survive.
It's like I go out to the supermarket and buy a bag of rice, and I say to the cashier, I love my husband very much, so can this bag of rice be free? The cashier will say to me, cash or WeChat?
Poor couples mourn everything, love without bread will end sooner or later, bread without love can only be regarded as a hard life for one person at most, and they can partner with each other.
The best marriage is because of love, but it doesn't give up bread because of it.