When you go home for the New Year at a low point, it s best not to do these 3 things

In life, there is no relationship that is not full of holes, and no road is smooth sailing......

It's another year of homecoming season, a few families are happy, a few are sad, and the joys and sorrows of adults are always linked to money.

People who have made a lot of money outside have already bought their New Year's goods and are happily waiting for the moment to reunite with their loved ones. And people who have been running for a year but have not earned any money are full of sadness and do not know how to go home for the New Year.

Some people joked that now the flavor of the New Year is getting weaker and weaker, but the "human touch" is getting stronger and stronger.

"What do you do now?

How much is a month's salary?

Has the year-end bonus been issued?

Have you talked to someone?

When are you going to get married?..

It is said that there is no money to go home for the New Year, and the New Year is not only about the sophistication of the people, but also the reunion of relatives, so for the reunion of the year, don't be too entangled in the current gains and losses, after all, life is a marathon, maybe it would be good to change the track next year.

Life is not afraid of the trough period, only afraid of being in the trough and doing "stupid things", for adults who have not earned money, please remember these 3 things not to do when you go home for the New Year.

In her essay "Under the Umbrella", Zhang Ailing said a fable: "When it rains heavily, some people carry umbrellas, and some people don't bring umbrellas. Those who don't have umbrellas are next to those who have umbrellas, trying to get under the umbrellas to hide from the rain. But the rain continued to flow down the edge of the umbrella, and it was more fierce than the rain outside. In the end, the people huddled under the umbrella not only did not hide from the rain, but their hair and necks were soaked by the rain. ”

When people are vulnerable, they hope that someone will hold an umbrella in the wind and rain; When you're down, you always want someone to lend a hand. But in reality, there are very few people willing to help us.

As the saying goes: "No one asks about the poor in the downtown area, but the rich have distant relatives in the mountains."

Hate people have, laugh at people don't", this is human nature, don't overestimate the relationship with anyone, many people always want to talk to their relatives about their hard work and hardship this year when they are at a low point, but they don't know that the joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same, your grievances can not be comforted, and perhaps they will be looked down upon by relatives even more.

When you encounter certain problems in your life and are experiencing certain stress, don't expect your relatives to help you. Because at this time, they are happy in their hearts, and they breathe a sigh of relief when they see that you are not doing well.

A netizen said that although he was the only college student in the village, because the company's business was not good in the past two years, he not only did not earn any money, but also lost his job before the Chinese New Year. After graduating from junior high school, the children of relatives went to work in a factory in Guangzhou, and in the past two years, they have not only made a small profit by following others to do e-commerce, but also built a new building in the village. In order to broaden his employment ideas, he asked the other party for the secret of success with an attitude of humble learning, but the other party directly ridiculed him in public and said that he would not make money if he studied well, which made him very faceless.

The world of adults, the river that should be flowing, and the suffering that should be crossed, must be crossed by oneself in the end. Instead of going around telling your suffering, press the mute button and be your own ferryman. The so-called "no money to rest in the public, no need to find relatives in distress" is this truth. If you don't have money, you don't have to be ashamed, but if you are known and ridiculed, you shouldn't be.

During the Spring Festival, the once red lanterns and warm reunion dinner gradually faded out of people's memories, and were replaced by a first-class competition. In this battlefield without the smoke of gunpowder, every wanderer who returned home became a warrior, holding their "trophies": glamorous appearances, famous brand clothes, and topics that could sparkle in front of relatives and friends.

A generous gift, a new car, or even a new piece of clothing can be a bargaining chip. For adults who have not earned money, in such an environment, it is like ants that have been hot, and every dinner and New Year's gift is like sprinkling salt on the original wound.

If you lose, you don't lose the battle, no matter how you mix this year, you must at least "pretend" to be decent, so as not to be looked down upon. If you can't return to your hometown, you have to "rent" your hometown. Driven by self-esteem, some people choose to slap their swollen faces and become fat. Obviously, I didn't save much money when I worked outside, but in order to save face for the New Year, I didn't hesitate to choose to borrow money or rent a car.

Some netizens said that in their village, there will always be a large number of luxury cars during the Chinese New Year, Mercedes-Benz, BMW, Audi, and even Porsche. At first, he thought that everyone was really getting rich outside, but after careful questioning, he realized that there were really rich inside, but there were also many rental cars to fill the façade. After all, if you make money outside, others won't ask you to make a deposit, but whether the car you drive is good or not, and the cigarettes you smoke are not up to the mark, others will see it.

In addition to renting a car, some people will even rent brand-name bags or clothes, the person in charge of the operation of a rental platform once revealed"As soon as the Chinese New Year arrived, the booking demand of some light luxury brands began to be large**, but because many users will renew their leases directly, many users have not rented them. ”

In "Super Speaker", contestant Zhang Xiaolei has a thought-provoking passage:Face is the most expensive luxury in the world, how many people have let go of their own limits for it, removed their own principles, to take care of other people's faces, to observe other people's eyes.

Although renting "Jin Huixiang" looks very decent, but in the end it is just a blind toss, after all, the life is lived by yourself, and in the end the rent has to be borne by yourself. Even if you don't have money, you have to pretend to be a big sum, but it's just to cover your ears and steal the bell.

To be a man, to have a respectable face, you must first be a full insider. When people are at a low point, the province is provincial, and slapping a swollen face and becoming fat will only make the already not wealthy family worse.

In life, we are polite and polite to outsiders. And to his family, he is always unreasonable, and he presents his unbearable side without reservation.

Qian Zhongshu once wrote such a plot in "The Siege": After Fang Hongjian and Sun Roujia got married, the pressure of life followed, so both chose to vent their grievances on each other. In this regard, Fang Honggradually said proudly: I was wronged and angry in the past, and I could only keep it in my heart, and no one was my punching bag. Well, now it's not as pleasant to lose your temper with anyone as you are to lose your temper with your wife!

There is a concept in psychology called:"Regression"., which means that when you encounter setbacks, you will degenerate to the level of dealing with setbacks and stress in the same way as a child.

For people who have been busy for a year but have found nothing, it is inevitable that their hearts will collapse, but this kind of grievance and sadness is not easy to confide in outsiders, so some people choose to bring their anger home, after all, everyone is a safe haven since childhood, and family members will choose to tolerate and accept whether it is right or wrong. If you lose your temper outside, people will leave, but if you lose your temper with your family, they won't bother with you.

Although the family will tolerate everything we have and put up with our bad temper. However, home is a place of love, not a shelter for bad moods.

When you are at a low point, you can seek comfort, support and help from your family, but don't use your family as a punching bag, learn to treat your family members well, and leave your good temper to your family members, which is what a person should have.

The ancients:"Where the mind is quiet, God is happy, and God is happy. ”

The host Li Jing once shared the story of her own business, at that time, she quit her job to start a business and had a difficult start. Because she wants to pull investment, she goes out early and returns late every day, gets drunk, breaks down and cries at every turn, but no matter how many grievances she has outside, she will try to adjust her emotions before entering the door, and then face her family with a smile.

Entering the door in a different way, throwing away his temper and changing his fate.

The attitude towards family members hides a person's future. If there is a slight disappointment, if you complain about your family, your life will definitely be unhappy. On the contrary, when a person is restrained and willful, and treats his family well, his life is happy, and life is naturally smooth.

all said: "Parents are here, there is still a place to come in life, parents go, life is only a way back." ”

Life is subtraction, and some people see one side less than one side. For parents, what they are looking forward to for the New Year is not that you earn a lot of money and go home and live a prosperous life. It's just a family that simply sits together for a reunion dinner and talks about what is in their hearts.

Even if you don't have a good time outside, even if you don't earn any money this year, real relatives will never dislike and laugh at you, so whether you have money or not, please go home with a good mood to reunite with your loved ones. Your sad face will only make them angry, and your inexplicable anger will only make them cautious. Rather than making you desperate to earn money, your family wants you to be physically and mentally healthy, happy and happy.

A person's ability to precipitate when going downhill determines his vision and the height of his life. Trough**, PUBG, as long as we can bear the darkest and darkest days, we can usher in our highlight moment.

As there is a saying in "The Hunting Ground":"There will always be highs and lows in life, and when you enter the trough, all you have to do is accumulate a lot. ”

The more unsatisfactory the time, the more you must learn to calm down. Pessimistic people are accustomed to waiting for others to hold umbrellas in the rain, while optimistic people are good at following the light in the shadows, and everyone looks forward to returning to their hometown, but not everyone can get their wish.

All adversity is actually an opportunity for the soul to grow", if you have money or not, you can go home for the New Year, as long as you have a warm sun in your heart, you will always dispel the haze.

Today's topic discussion: What do you think you should pay attention to when you go home for the Chinese New Year if you don't earn any money?

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