For programmers in the workplace, salary and marriage are often two important criteria for judging their personal success. There is a common belief in the market that a well-paid man should be very sought-after in the marriage market. After all, who wouldn't want to spend their life with a partner who is financially stable? However, in the real blind date scene, things don't always seem to go so smoothly.
At a popular workplace forum, a 32-year-old programmer was at the center of the conversation. He works at Alibaba, earning an annual salary of up to 2.8 million after tax, however, he was repeatedly rejected on many blind dates during the Spring Festival, and he lamented that he did not seem worthy of marriage. This has attracted a lot of attention, after all, according to the imagination of the average person, such an income level should be enough to attract many suitors.
However, after digging deeper into his post, the truth gradually emerged. The problem is not that the woman is not satisfied with him, but that the conditions he himself puts forward are too harsh. He hopes to find an only daughter born in the 90s, who is at least 162cm tall and has a monthly income of no less than 10,000 yuan, and hopes that the other party is willing to have two children and devote herself to the family after marriage.
He also admitted in the post that he is a so-called "phoenix man", that is, he comes from a relatively ordinary family, and his parents do not provide much help. Despite this, he is now self-sufficient, owning a car and a house, and is willing to buy another home for his future partner's parents.
Although the programmer's conditions seem to be enough to meet many people's expectations, the marriage market is not only about material conditions. Other factors, such as personal charm, lifestyle, and the personal preferences of the blind date, often play an equally important role.
Although the profession of programmer is envied by some people because of its high income, it is also discriminated against by some people because of factors such as long hours of overtime and high work pressure. Some people think that programmers lack social skills, are too introverted, and have a boring life, and these stereotypes make some women have reservations about marrying programmers.
In addition, the concept of "matching the door" in the marriage market cannot be ignored. Even if the programmer lowers the requirements, it may be easier to find a partner, but it will undoubtedly be more difficult for him to find someone who fits his expectations exactly. The women he seeks are likely to have their own set of selection criteria and expectations. If the conditions and expectations of both parties can be perfectly matched, the challenge is naturally not trivial.
So, what do you think of this programmer with an annual salary of 2.8 million? What do you think about blind dates and marriage? Everyone is welcome to leave your views and stories in the comment area, and let us work together to ** the complex intertwining of workplace and emotion.