The first wave of hot topics in 2024 - the "old three phenomenon"!
Whether you are deeply tracking the hot drama "If You Run to Interpret My Life", there is a high probability that you have encountered the hotly discussed comparison between the original match of the immortals and the "third child" precipitated over the years.
Netizens are hotly discussing a mysterious **, speculating about the subtle relationship between the two and even the mystery of gender.
It's like the classic episode of the cheating man in the play being blamed by **:
"You're so hungry! ”
In the midst of the public's ridicule and sharp comments, the phenomenon of "the third child" broke out of the cocoon and instantly swept the whole network, triggering a boom of "third evaluation" with the participation of the whole people, and everyone followed suit to test the emotional loyalty of their other half.
What is surprising is that the man in the play gave up his youthful and energetic original partner and threw himself into the arms of an elderly woman with prominent nasolabial folds.
What did he want from her? Is it the mature charm accumulated over the years, or the support that can provide deep emotional value, or the potential power to help him rise step by step in the workplace?
Although we joke about whether wildflowers are really more fragrant than house flowers", behind the joke, the seriousness of the intimate relationship reflected by the "third child" cannot be ignored.
A film and television work, just one line from the screenwriter can make its influence surpass the series itself, which is undoubtedly a manifestation of its artistic strength.
Theoretically, the essence of the junior does not depend on its age attributes, but carries the burden of morality, regardless of whether it is young or beautiful. The construction of the new buzzword seems to suggest a distorted set of values: if the person who intervenes is a young and beautiful woman, the man's betrayal seems to have obtained some kind of "rationalization" excuse.
In the process of fermentation, some netizens not only stayed at the level of playing stalks, but even crossed the line to personally attack the actors involved, speculating groundlessly that she brought money into the group and had a strong background behind her. The underlying logic behind these remarks is undoubtedly a reinforcing and acquiescing in traditional prejudices.
Let me ask, does the third party have to be limited to young women?
Can a beautiful third party escape moral judgment and condemnation by destroying the feelings of others? Obviously, anyone who adheres to normal values will resolutely give a negative answer.
However, the reality is not so black and white. I would like to point out that for some men, the moral bottom line can indeed be shaken by beauty. When they indulge in appearances and succeed, they often follow a set of tacit unspoken rules.
Taking Wang Sicong as an example, the words and deeds of this top rich second generation reflect the mentality of many men to a certain extent. Once one of his controversial comments was like a mirror reflecting the inner monologue of some men:
I really don't blame Liu Yang, if it were me, I wouldn't be able to hold it. ’
In just four words, "I can't hold it", it contains rich meanings. Wang Sicong's attitude towards such incidents is obvious, he completely ignores the moral flaws on Hanzang Forest, and bluntly expresses his passionate yearning and desire for possession of his pure appearance and ** figure, which has also resonated with many like-minded people in the message area.
It can be seen that in their eyes, the beauty status of the third person seems to override morality.
As for Hanzang Forest, she is the Internet celebrity who entered the public eye with a set of hotly discussed ** and complex emotional entanglements.
There was once an Internet celebrity known for his fresh and innocent style, which can be called the ancestor of pure desire.
However, because she intervened in the love life of her friend Aqin, she secretly communicated with the scumbag, and finally became scandalous**.
Today, Hanzo Forest is still an ideal object in the hearts of many men.
With the advancement of artificial intelligence technology, the cloned Hanzo Forest came into being. For a fee, you can easily spy on her circle of friends and communicate with her.
Who cares if she's playing the role of a third party?
As you read this, you may be surprised by the tolerant attitude of men towards young "third parties", and wonder: Is it true that appearance is above all else?
If you hold such a view, it just means that you have not yet deeply understood the true face of the love field and the essential laws of human nature.
In fact, although the "third party" seems to have earned some kind of immunity by virtue of its beauty, behind it is at the expense of its own sexual value and moral condemnation, a phenomenon that has always followed both ancient and modern times, both in China and abroad.
The contempt for third parties is not unique to women, and men are also suspicious, but in a more subtle form.
As Mo Yan said, in the world of the wise, beauty is the most basic and perishable capital, and what can really match the quality of a hero is not just a beautiful face, but inner excellence and talent.
The "third party" who seems to have the privilege of beauty is often nailed to the pillar of shame in the end, but the men involved can often quietly withdraw after the turmoil.
Looking back on the past two years, Zhang Dayi, known as the "strongest junior", once staged a high-profile farce called "Xiaoshan's debut", which triggered a huge anti-"third party" denunciation movement on the Internet.
At that time, as the favored party in the center of the storm, Zhang Dayi faced a hot search blockade under Jiang Fan's thunderous means, and even the Weibo voice of the original wife was quickly banned, and it was forbidden to publicly argue with him.
However, this derailment incident is just a short-lived farce on the stage of life after all.
Although she is like a fly seeking into a gap, the core of the problem is not all about her active intervention, Jiang Fan, as the protagonist of the incident, chose to retreat into the background in the fierce duel between the two women.
Subsequently, although Jiang Fan was punished with a demerit and a one-year income cancellation, how much impact could this short-term punishment have on him?
Even eight months later, he was still recognized as a high-level talent in Hangzhou, and one of the requirements of this title is that "the applicant should be exemplary in abiding by laws and regulations, moral standards, public order and good customs".
Combined with the book "If Running Is My Life", when we blame the third child, we actually ignore the real beneficiary behind the beauty and moral competition - the cheating man.
Isn't this a true portrayal of real life? How ironic!
Men always salivate over the beauty of a third person, and women are jealous. However, a man's coveting of beauty does not necessarily lead them to marry a third person.
When intimacy is threatened by external factors, women tend to develop strong hostility towards potential surrogates or competitors, and the focus is often on the other person's beauty, age, figure, and other aspects of sexual attractiveness, rather than the other person's career or wealth.
In this way, the original sin of emotional betrayal is quickly transferred to the female competition and game between the original partner and the third party.
In the past, the original partner caught the junior, and now the original partner catches the third child, after all, it is just a feminist false carnival.
Beauty is not a passport to all the game levels in life.
It is unknown whether a beautiful girl can profit from being involved in other people's relationships, but she will inevitably bear a serious personal moral crisis. If you just regard beauty as a tool, then you are willing to gamble and lose, and you deserve to be scolded.
I'm afraid that a third party is greedy for the warmth, affection and emotional value brought by a man's temporary dopamine spike ......Even if it is because of love, it will not be forgiven.
Beauty is supposed to be a bridge to guide us to goodness, but in reality, it often contradicts and opposes goodness, which is regrettable.
In the world of love, there are two truths that cannot be covered up for a long time: first, when you have no affection in your heart, but pretend to love each other passionately; Second, when you are hiding from one person, you have a love for another person in your heart.
While it is understandable to feel resentful of a third party who intervenes in the feelings of others, it is also important not to ignore the person who really provides the opportunity for the intervener to retreat into the emotional void.
Indulging in anger will only cost us more, and the rational approach is to teach them a lesson by letting them experience the consequences on the premise of self-preservation.
Of course, I sincerely hope that everyone can avoid such difficulties, and that everyone can find and embrace their own happiness.
After all, love, like the eyes, can't tolerate any tiny grit, and needs to be carefully cared for and purified.