Introduction
Blindly tolerating or pleasing is not kindness, but weakness that you don't want to admit. Only by straightening your back and showing your edge, the world will give you everything that belongs to you. You don't have to put yourself too low. What belongs to you must be actively strived for: what you don't want to do, you don't have to force yourself to do it; What you have endured for a long time, you don't have to endure it again and again. You have to show your attitude towards your life. You can maintain your kind and faithful nature, but you might as well add a little edge to your kindness, you should be kind and powerful. Learn to protect yourself, know how to strive for the opportunity to succeed, and kind friends will be able to live their own wonderful life and harvest their own happy life.
This book is also too goodTable of Contentschapter 1
Why am I kind-hearted, but not respected?
Your kindness, be a little sharp 002
Helping you is love, not helping is duty 005
Kindness doesn't count in return, but kindness has to be worth 008
Be kind and think more about 010
Leave kindness to those who know how to be grateful 013
Help others appropriately and receive help appropriately 015
If necessary, know how to "swing the shelf" 018
chapter2
You can't help but give everything to people, no wonder you are bullied.
Treat people with kindness and sincerity, but with a scale 022
Don't easily reveal your hole card 024
Blind kindness will put you in danger 027
If you know how to refuse, you won't be entangled in 030
The person who points to your death hole is often someone close to you 033
own past, said 035 with reservations
chapter3
The bottom line is fortified, and kindness can not be **.
Dig yourself a few more "bomb shelters" 040
Don't do thankless work 042
Repay grievances with virtue or repay grievances with straightforwardness 046
The bottom line fortification can not be ** 048
The more "zealous" you are, the more you have to guard against 050
Don't be fooled by appearances 052
Be honest and kind, but not stupid 053
chapter4
It's all a person, why let you.
Kindness must know how to be tactful, and you must also have the courage to show your sword 058
It's all a person, why let you 060
No matter how righteous you are, you can't be sloppy about money 064
If there is a price, you have to "bargain" 066
Prevent hypocrites, and repay them with their way 069
If you suffer a loss, you must also understand 071
Interpersonal interactions must be mutually beneficial 074
chapter5
If reason does not exist, goodness is meaningless.
Tell a good lie, and the deceived are also grateful to you 080
Be kind to others while being vigilant 082
The "good guys" may be the lamp that doesn't save fuel 084
Mo Xin is straight in the middle, and he must guard against benevolence 087
You can't have the heart to hurt people, and you can't have the heart to prevent people 090
If you shouldn't be busy, try to worry less about 094
Help naturally and appropriately 096
chapter6
Don't be emotionally charged when you should be using your brain.
Illiterate people are bullied, and illiterate people are ridden by 100
Don't take the other person's side of the story 102
You can't be smart, you can't be careless 105
To get things done, first look at people badly 108
Hello, I'm really good 110
It is not advisable to communicate with each other 114
Credulity is the beginning of being calculated 116
It's good to say bad things, but it's hard to tell the truth 120
chapter7
It's okay to think about others, but live for yourself.
Don't give up your rightful benefits lightly 126
There is no such thing as a matter of course 129
Rotten good people can't do 133 all the time
It's okay to be used, but it's absolutely not okay to be used as a gun 136
Adjust the way of communication according to the characteristics of the other party 138
Compromise, but never go along with 140
Be a "friend" in moderation 144
chapter8
Society is not a kindergarten, don't take imagination for reality.
Don't be "buddies" between friends 150
Be honest, but don't be "honest" 153
People are floating in the rivers and lakes, how can they not be knifed 155
Don't take the scene seriously 156
Clever words make color more trap 160
You can make friends, but you can't** 163
Be more mindful of the villain 166
Don't trade secrets for friendship 170
chapter9
The reality is so cruel, what to pretend to be innocent.
Equity is not a fundamental principle of society 174
The key to exploiting and being exploited 175
There are things to learn to rot in the stomach 177
Not everyone who pulls you a hand is your friend 180
Everyone is a selfish ghost who seeks good fortune and avoids evil 182
Be good at improvising and beware of misfortune coming out of your mouth 186
You can't throw away a piece of heart 187
chapter10
Knowing the world but not being sophisticated is the mature kindness.
In a society full of **, be an upright person 192
When you are proud, you can look down on others, and when you are frustrated, you can look down on yourself 195
More "co-flow" with colleagues and less "co-pollution" 198
Friends who don't get along have to make 199
When you can support the game, you can support the game, and when you can avoid it, don't tear down the stage 202
Small favors are not enough to worry about, and great kindnesses are not publicized 204
Look at those who don't like it, and look at things that don't like it 206
Don't show off 208 in front of frustrated people