In this competitive and challenging society, mastering certain scheming skills can undoubtedly add points to our lives and careers. Today, I'm going to share with you some of my experiences and insights about scheming, hoping to help you become a wiser, more relaxed person.
1. Scheming is not a pejorative term
First, let's be clear: scheming is not a pejorative term. It is not the same as intrigue, but the embodiment of wisdom. Scheming refers to the use of psychology, social skills and other means to protect oneself and strive for interests when dealing with interpersonal relationships and dealing with complex situations. Therefore, mastering certain scheming skills is very beneficial for each of us.
2. Learn to read words and colors
Observing words and emotions is a necessary skill for a master of scheming. By observing details such as the other person's words and actions, facial expressions, etc., we can gain insight into the other person's inner world and better respond to various situations. For example, in a negotiation, when the other party shows nervousness and anxiety, we can give comfort and encouragement at the right time to ease the tension and achieve a more favorable outcome.
3. Be good at listening and expressing
Listening and expressing are our two best treasures in interpersonal communication. A good listener who can earn the trust and respect of others; People who are good at expressing themselves are better able to convey their thoughts and emotions. In the use of scheming, listening is just as important as speaking. We need to understand each other's needs and ideas by listening, and then communicate our own positions and opinions through expression, so as to achieve a win-win situation for both parties.
4. Maintain a moderate sense of distance
In interpersonal interactions, it is important to maintain a moderate sense of distance. Relationships that are too close can easily make people lose their guard, while relationships that are too distant make it difficult to build trust. Therefore, we need to learn to keep an appropriate distance when dealing with people, neither too enthusiastic nor too cold. In this way, we can build good relationships with others while protecting ourselves.
5. Know how to refuse and compromise
In life and work, we will inevitably encounter various requests and demands. In the face of these situations, we must not only know how to refuse, but also learn to compromise. Refusal is to protect one's own interests and interests, while compromise is to maintain the relationship and harmony between the two parties. Of course, both refusal and compromise need to be done in ways and methods to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and conflicts.
6. Develop your own insight
Insight is one of the core competencies of a scheming master. It can help us to keenly capture the essence and truth of things, so as to make correct judgments and decisions. To develop our own insight, we need to observe more, think more, and summarize more. At the same time, we can also improve our level of insight by reading relevant books, attending training courses, etc.
7. Maintain a positive attitude
Finally, maintaining a positive mindset is an essential mindset in the process of using our mental scheming. No matter what difficulties and challenges we encounter, we must maintain an optimistic and confident attitude, believing that we can overcome all difficulties. At the same time, we must also learn to adjust our mentality and face all kinds of complicated things in life with a more peaceful and calm attitude.
8. Experience sharing: my path to scheming practice
In my personal life and career, I have had countless occasions where I needed to use my scheming. Below, I will share with you some of my personal experiences, hoping to provide you with more specific references.
The use of scheming in the workplace
In the workplace, I have always maintained a cautious and sharp attitude. By observing the behavior of my colleagues and leaders, I was able to anticipate the dynamics of the company and personnel changes in advance. In competition with my colleagues, I know how to show my strengths without being too sharp. In the communication with the leader, I focus on expressing my own views and suggestions, but at the same time, I also respect the leader's decision-making to establish a good relationship between superiors and subordinates.
Scheming strategies in social situations
In social situations, I focus on making a good first impression with others. By dressing appropriately, with a confident demeanor, and a warm smile, I was able to quickly earn the favor and trust of others. When talking to people, I am good at listening to each other's stories and needs to find common topics and points of interest. At the same time, I also know how to express my views and opinions in a timely manner to show my wisdom and charisma.
Scheming practices in family life
In my family life, I also use some scheming skills to maintain family harmony and happiness. For example, in my relationship with my partner, I focus on communication and understanding, and respect each other's feelings and needs. When faced with family conflicts, I know how to resolve them in a peaceful manner, rather than exacerbating them through quarrels and cold wars. At the same time, I also focus on cultivating a sense of intimacy and trust among family members to create a warm and harmonious family atmosphere.
9. Scheming is an art
Overall, scheming is an art that requires wisdom and skill. It is not for us to deceive or hurt others, but for us to learn to protect ourselves, fight for our interests and maintain harmony in complex relationships. By mastering certain scheming skills, we can face various challenges and difficulties in life more calmly, and become wiser and more confident people.
10. How to avoid over-scheming?
However, as we mentioned earlier, scheming does not mean that we are trying to deceive or hurt others. In the process of using scheming, we must always keep a clear head and a good moral bottom line, and avoid falling into the mistake of excessive scheming.
Be sincere and kind
Sincerity and kindness are the cornerstones of human relationships. In the process of using scheming, we must not pursue our own selfish interests at the expense of others. On the contrary, we should always maintain a sincere and kind heart, respect the feelings and rights of others, and build long-term and stable interpersonal relationships.
Follow ethical and legal norms
In the process of using scheming, we must always keep in mind the constraints and norms of morality and law on us. Any violation of morality and the law will be punished and condemned as it should be. Therefore, we should always follow moral and legal norms and strive for our own interests by legitimate means and means.
Focus on self-reflection and revision
In the process of using scheming, we will inevitably make mistakes and deviations. In order to avoid over-scheming, we should focus on self-reflection and correction. By reviewing our own behaviors and decisions, we can identify our shortcomings in time and take effective measures to improve and adjust.
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1. Use your mind wisely to achieve a better life.
Scheming is an art that requires wisdom and skill. By mastering certain scheming skills, we can face various challenges and difficulties in life more calmly, and become wiser and more confident people. However, in the process of using scheming, we must always keep a clear head and a good moral bottom line to avoid falling into the mistake of excessive scheming.
In short, mastering certain scheming skills is of great significance to our lives and careers. By learning to read words, be good at listening and expressing, maintain a moderate sense of distance, know how to refuse and compromise, and develop our own insight, we can gradually become scheming masters. At the same time, maintaining a positive mindset is also an essential mindset in the process of using our mental scheming. I hope the above experience and opinions can be helpful to everyone, let's work together to become a wiser and calmer person!