I'm embarrassed to say it, because the fridge is stuffed with fruits and vegetables, so my daughter and I have a big fight, and we haven't slept all night.
My daughter asked me, "Can't you think about it for me, aren't you afraid that I will always endure psychological problems?" ”
How could I not be afraid, how could I not think about her. She only thinks about herself, why can't she empathize and think for me!
This night, I tossed and turned, I couldn't sleep well, I knew it was useless to think too much, but I just couldn't calm down.
More than a month ago, I came to Hainan with my mother and lived in a house rented by my daughter. My daughter has been working here since graduation, and she has adapted to and loved the environment and climate of the southern country, and plans to settle here, not wanting to return to her hometown in Shandong.
She hopes that I can come here for a permanent stay, first, to accompany her, and secondly, to enjoy the tropical climate, not to wear so much and so thick in winter, and to alleviate some rheumatism and cardiovascular diseases. I understand her filial piety and kindness, and I am excited to come over as soon as possible.
But my wife poured cold water on me. Young people can't live with us, with different living habits, different consumption habits, different concepts and cognitions, don't be unhappy and regret it when the time comes.
I said that my wife was scaring me, my own daughter, how could it be! But when I really live under one roof, I know that the gaps and differences in all aspects lead to too many contradictions and disharmony.
Traditionally, my daughter likes to go to bed late and wake up late, and like to be quiet and organized, but our arrival broke what she was used to. We are used to going to bed early and getting up early, eating on time, and we like to watch TV and watch Tik Tok or something, which is just the opposite of her preferences, and the contradiction arises.
She doesn't get up in the morning and skips breakfast, and sometimes she doesn't get up until lunch. In order for her to sleep quietly, we all had to hold our throats down all morning like a mute or an underground party.
These can also be improvised, but when they encounter washing problems, they are incompatible with each other.
My daughter is a night owl who does it, and she is used to sleeping when she takes a bath, and she often sleeps when her hair is not dry, and she is prone to headaches, and she doesn't listen to what she says many times. She also likes to drink ice things, whether it's milk, drinks or water, all of which have to be put in the fridge.
A girl who always drinks ice makes me unaccustomed to it, and she doesn't listen to it, or she has to argue and quarrel. It's also picky about eating, so I order takeout if the meal is not delicious, I also order takeout when the dishes appear more often, and I order takeout if I can't get stuck together in time. Is takeaway that good? Did she think she was rich and rich?
In addition, she said that Hainan is relatively humid, and she likes to be dry, so there can be no water on the floor of the bathroom, and she has to dry it with her hands. The most important thing is that I am not allowed to open the doors and windows, but the air in this room is not circulated, how can I stand it. It is understandable that the doors and windows are not opened on rainy days and back to the south, and it is incomprehensible that they do not let go on sunny days.
To stay dry is to keep it without opening doors and windows? If you can't say anything, you will secretly open the door and window when she is not at home or sleeping, just like a thief, alas.
This is about to be the New Year, and the dishes here are rising a little bit a day, and the dishes are so few. Because they were all shipped by ship, I also understood, so I thought about buying more when it wasn't too expensive in the past two days, and storing it in the refrigerator, so that I couldn't buy it when I had money to eat it.
Also, for those of us who have retired with low income, it is still necessary to save money. But because the extra fruits and vegetables were stuffed in the refrigerator, my daughter suddenly broke out, shouting, "Why don't you listen to me?" Isn't it good to buy fresh vegetables every day to eat, do you have to cook vegetables? ”
You see that you stuffed the refrigerator to the brim and got a puddle of water in it, why don't you count the wasted electricity money? I have to look for water for a long time, and I have to look for a yogurt for a long time! Then he was so angry that he closed the refrigerator and slammed the door.
I knew the fridge was stuffed and it was going to get water, but I didn't expect it to make her angry like that. Just wipe it off with too much water, as for being so angry?
Every time I see that I buy more vegetables, I chatter, and I don't eat the fruit when I buy it, and I always say that I can buy it as I eat. But things are not something you can buy if you want to, and it's very torturous to go shopping for vegetables every day, looking at a lot of dishes, in fact, you don't know what to buy every day.
If you don't have a family, you don't know the price of firewood and rice, and if you don't raise children, you don't know the kindness of your parents, alas. I still have to persuade her and explain her, but she admits death, and thinks that if I come here to live, I am willing to give me food, and I am willing to take me to play, so I should listen to her and do everything according to her ideas, and it doesn't make sense.
What should I do? Two generations live together, this is just with her own daughter, if she gets married, can she still live together with such thoughts and practices? She also said that after getting married in the future, I will help her take care of the children, but I always can't get used to my approach, can I still bring it to her?
I didn't dare to say anything more for fear that she wouldn't be able to think about it. I know that she has a lot of pressure at work and a lot of pressure in life, and for their generation, involution is already the norm, and she hasn't been lying down yet, I should be glad to be happy.
Just, what should I do?