Author |Mindfulness student Li Jun.
The first |Dr. Zhang relieves anxiety.
I always thought that I was very stable, and I had almost learned mindfulness. But when faced with emergencies in life, we know that this is our biggest test.
On the afternoon of the 28th, my wife suddenly asked me about a family's financial problems, and the first second I heard it, I instantly felt extremely angry (because I felt that I had done a good job), and the anger was so strong that the whole emotion was seriously out of control, and all this happened before I knew it. To my disappointment, that desperate thought resurfaced in my mind. All kinds of discomfort in the body have appeared again, and this may be a powerful habitual thinking! It's unguardable, how scary!
What's wrong with me? How did I go back again! Haven't I learned mindfulness so well? Why did such a problem arise again, and let me fight back to my original shape? With these problems, I followed the trend in time to pass the traceless teacher**, he told me that I have entered a kind of inertial thinking of automatic navigation, who suffers and who changes, I am self-sufficient, and changing myself is the root of solving the problem. After putting it down, I calmly thought about it and thought that I must find a solution to the problem.
Through in-depth communication with my wife and my expression of her needs, everything changed.
Through communication, I learned that there was a deep misunderstanding between us, because the state we were in, unconsciously, did not fulfill the responsibilities of a husband, which made her feel very disappointed. Through expressing her, I crave her love and support, which is especially important for people like us.
Through communication, I saw my shortcomings and my need for her, and as a man, I bravely admitted my mistakes, and sincerely said that I would make up for my shortcomings with love in the future and find love back. At this moment, my wife seems to feel my true feelings for her, and the husband and wife who have lived together for forty years have been through ups and downs together, if they can't get along in harmony, what a disaster it will be, and it will make you never have peace, and we have finally reconciled! A storm ended like this, and I saw the rainbow after the rain. We will re-establish a harmonious and loving relationship as husband and wife. I took the initiative to heal our relationship and also heal my heart. I'm grateful for the difference that problems and setbacks have made for me.
Through this incident, my realization is that when all problems occur, find the problem from yourself, face the problem bravely and solve it, and the bad thing becomes a good thing! It not only heals ourselves but also warms each other! A harmonious and warm relationship between husband and wife was born!
Gratitude for mindfulness is indeed amazing, grateful for the tenacious and unyielding self who has worked hard and diligently, and also grateful for mindfulness and the guidance of those wise people. Special thanks to Mr. Feng Guo without a trace for his timely guidance and guidance! Although we are a group of unfortunate people, we are fortunate that this group has a strong cohesion, and there are so many loving and compassionate people who nourish and heal us, and we are not alone and helpless. We are a group that resonates at the same frequency, and we are grateful to meet you on the road of cultivation, and it is good to know everyone!
Be grateful for the problems and setbacks in life, and you will meet a better version of yourself.