Title: There are only 7 days left before the Chinese New Year, and my mother-in-law frequently urges me to go home, how to skillfully refuse the trouble of not wanting to go back?
I had a big fight with my husband last night, and I was so angry that I couldn't sleep all night.
I usually don't drink alcohol, so I sat at the coffee table and drank some liquor.
After drinking, my esophagus felt hot and I threw up my dinner.
The moment I vomited, I felt as if I was about to die.
The reason I quarreled with my husband was that he wanted to go back to his hometown for the Chinese New Year, and I didn't agree.
At first, he was just hard-mouthed, but then he said that I was selfish: "Your parents have died, you don't need to go back to visit, my parents are almost 70 years old, shouldn't I be worried about them?" Hearing my husband say this heart-piercing sentence, I instantly became angry and was about to choke his face, but he saw that the situation was not good and quickly avoided it.
My parents are my bottom line, they have been dead for many years, every time I quarrel with my husband and am wronged, I always think of them, and then lie there and cry bitterly.
My parents only gave birth to one daughter, and they only had me in their forties, so it can be said that I am a middle-aged daughter! They are very pampered and will find a way to get anything for me as long as I like it.
I remember one time, I found out that a female classmate in the class brought a doll to school, I was very envious, and when I got home, I told my father, and he did not hesitate to let me stay at home honestly, and then ride a bicycle to the county seat.
At seven or eight o'clock in the evening, my father came back, and he was so frozen that his whole body was stiff, and his legs were no longer obedient, and he fell to the ground after just two steps.
Hearing the sound, I ran over to see what was happening, and my dad was holding the doll in his hand and looking at me with a smile on his face.
Seeing this scene, I regretted asking for the doll very much, and I felt sorry for my father.
He went to the county seat for hundreds of kilometers round trip, and he rode a bicycle.
Walking up to my father, I wrapped my arms around his neck and pressed my hot face against his cold face, my stubble tickling me.
Thank you, Dad. ”
I'm your dad, and I'm willing to do things for you.
We're family, you're welcome. ”
Dad put his hands on my shoulders and said to me seriously.
This kid has made you spoiled. ”
My mom walked by, pretending to be angry.
Of course, his daughter has to be spoiled. ”
Dad stared at me with a grin, the corners of his mouth slightly raised.
With the love of my parents, my childhood was full of fun and I spent every day carefree.
I thought this happiness would last forever, until when I was 15 years old, my parents were in a car accident and everything was gone.
On that day, they were riding a motorcycle to visit relatives, and on their way home, they were hit by a truck dozens of meters away, and lost signs of life before they could be taken to the hospital.
When I learned the depressing news, I sat on the ground and burst into tears uncontrollably.
After my parents passed away, my second uncle and second aunt served as my guardians.
After that, my personality changed, I became reticent and hid in the face of strangers.
The second uncle treated me very well and treated me like a daughter, however, the second aunt was very partial to me.
She always carried me behind my back to buy snacks for my cousin and cousin, and she also asked me to do housework every day.
If I didn't want to do it, she would cry out, "I'll feed you, I'll feed you, I'll make you work, what's the problem?" If you don't like it, get out. ”
The house they live in was built by my parents.
Before my parents died, my second uncle and second aunt lived in my second aunt's house, and they didn't have their own house.
After my parents died, my second uncle expressed his willingness to support me to grow up, so he moved to my home.
But now they occupy my home, saying that everything in the house is their hard work, and that every grass and tree in the yard has nothing to do with me.
After I dropped out of school at the age of 18, I didn't want to live under the same roof as my second aunt.
So, I secretly took 1,000 yuan in cash and went to work in the city.
While working part-time, I met my current husband.
He cared so much about me that we got together after more than half a year of courting me.
My husband understands my experience and solemnly promised before marriage that he will only be good to me in this life, not let me be wronged, and give me the warmth of being loved.
Looking at his serious expression, I was moved to tears on the spot.
I didn't expect that in this world, in addition to my parents, I could meet someone who loved me as much as they did.
When I first got married, my husband was really nice to me, but then I realized that it was all just scratching the surface.
Whenever I had a conflict with his family, he would not hesitate to stand on his side, treating me as an outsider.
Take the Chinese New Year as an example, it has been seventeen or eighteen years since I got married, and every year the Chinese New Year is at my mother-in-law's house, and there are six people in the family.
Sometimes, I would complain, and my mother-in-law would say that she had come over like this, and when I became a mother-in-law, I would start to enjoy it.
My father-in-law is very picky and doesn't eat green onions.
Every time I cook, I have to put out a plate of green onions in advance, and then put chopped green onions in other dishes.
I remember one time when I was cooking fish, I forgot this detail and didn't prepare a fish without green onions in advance, but my father-in-law lost his temper and said that I deliberately made trouble for him during the Chinese New Year, and then threw a plate of fish outside.
I kept apologizing to my father-in-law, but he still didn't give up and ignored me.
I felt aggrieved and started crying.
And my husband not only did not comfort me, but rebuked me: "You have been in this family for so many years, how can you forget that your father does not eat green onions?" It feels like you're doing it on purpose. ”
I can understand that my in-laws treat me as an outsider, but it is difficult for me to accept my husband's statement.
often ran back to his hometown secretly and cried happily in front of his parents' graves.
There were many times when I wanted to get a divorce, but looking at my young children, I didn't want them to experience love without their parents, so I had to put up with it again and again.
A Chinese New Year has passed, and it is the third day of the first month.
Several sisters have returned with their families, at least more than 30 people.
The family continued to laugh and laugh while I was busy in the kitchen.
I worked hard for a few days, but I couldn't get a word of praise.
Therefore, I am now very afraid of going back to my in-law's house for the New Year.
Since the beginning of the lunar month this year, my mother-in-law has been urging me to go home early for the New Year.
She told me that she was going to invite a few big sisters to get together this year and have a lively New Year.
I checked the call log yesterday, and there are still 7 days before the Chinese New Year, and my mother-in-law called me 25 times**, all of which asked me to go back for the New Year.
However, I really didn't want to go back, I was too tired.
I want to stay outside, work hard to make money, and strive to buy a house in the city in the future, away from my in-laws.
My husband said it was selfish for me not to go back for the New Year, so we argued for more than half an hour, which eventually led to an escalation of the quarrel.
I don't want to quarrel with him anymore.
After the Chinese New Year, we will go through the divorce procedures and will not interfere with each other from now on.
After all, I could never be accepted into his family, who never treated me as one of their own.