Hello, my name is Zhu Dabao!
Is it called selfishness for a woman to get married and have children, but she still puts herself first?
Internet celebrity papi sauce said that her important order in life is that she has two partners, three children and four parents. I have been married to my husband for five years, I have never set up wine, no wedding, no honeymoon, my parents have never met, I have not met my in-laws, I and my husband are busy with their own careers after marriage, they have never cooked, and they go back to their respective homes every Chinese New Year.
Her approach was questioned by many men, who felt that she was too selfish to look like a married woman. But Papi sauce believes that the more selfish you are in marriage, the happier you are, even if you have a child, Papi sauce does not have the idea of "being a mother is strong".
Many people advise her to breastfeed, which is better for the child, and if the milk is not enough, she must chase the milk and save the milk. But she said that because she gained 20 pounds because of pregnancy, she became very unconfident, and she didn't dare to wash her hair hard. So when it comes to breastfeeding her child, she has the right to make her own decisions, and she decides that everything is as fate and not as forced.
When many people heard her say this, they began to call her selfish and that she was irresponsible to her children. This brings me to a word calledMotherhood punishment, as long as women become mothers, must be fully responsible for the child, put the raising of the child in the first place, once the child has a headache and brain fever, the mother will bear the brunt of the accountability, but the father is not even in second place.
Motherhood in marriage gives married women too much pressure and responsibility, papi-chan's views on marriage and parenting have jumped out of the inherent framework, and she does not follow the paradigm of strong men and weak women and self-sacrifice when she treats marriage, and she does not advertise herself as a superhuman mother when she becomes a mother, and she directly admits that she does not want to be a victim of the concept of "motherhood is strong".
Going back to the question at the beginning, is she selfish? I don't think so, I think she's true self-love. As a woman, you are yourself first, then your wife, mother and daughter. There is nothing wrong with putting yourself first, and there is nothing wrong with putting the relationship between husband and wife before the parent-child relationship
Parents who say "everything I have for you" to their children all year round may feel very tired and guilty.
Why does a woman who chooses to live as herself, who can truly make decisions about her own life, become selfish? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section.
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