2024 Book of Answers When you meet someone who is obedient to you in every way, who is devoted to you, don't fall into it easily, such a person, often he doesn't love himself, and naturally he won't have any real ability to love others. If you encounter this kind of self-sacrificing, high-concentration love, I advise you to keep your rational judgment, because in any relationship, as long as there is sacrifice, it means injustice, and at some point, this injustice will ask you to make amends in disguise.
1. Behind excessive giving, there is actually a kind of power control. A person who seems to love you selflessly often satisfies you by suppressing his own needs, but his needs exist objectively and need to be satisfied, and the person who can provide satisfaction automatically becomes you. Because he is good to you, you have to give him the same or even twice as good, otherwise you will become a greedy person and may even ruin the relationship with your own hands. Everyone around you will probably tell you how good your partner is to you and how blessed you are, it's like a moral shackle that binds you. 
2. Habitually wronging oneself is essentially disagreeing with oneself. People who lack self-identity fall into paranoia when they love others, gaining recognition and love by being nice to others in order to prove their worth. When such a person enters an intimate relationship when he grows up, he will spontaneously bind himself and his partner deeply, and in order to maintain this bond, he can only constantly wronged himself to please the other party. But due to the lack of heart, the love they can show is powerless and vulnerable, and a little friction is enough to shatter this love. 
When you want to give someone an apple, you have to have at least one apple, otherwise you can't give it. That is to say, a person who wants to love you, first of all, he must love himself in his heart, he will not wronged himself, let alone twist his jaw to internal friction, only when his heart is rich, he can give the other half the same upward and free love.