If you can't take care of your children because of work or other reasons, are you willing to send your children back to their hometown in the countryside to bring their grandparents?
Xiao Wang from Henan was indignant about this, she said that the grandparents of the children before said in front of her that they loved the children and loved them more. She believed that because she was very busy at work and had no time to take care of the children, she chose to take the children back to her hometown and hand them over to her grandparents.
Later, she learned that as soon as she left, her mother-in-law thought that the child was noisy and delayed her to play mahjong, so she threw the mobile phone to the child and let the child look at the mobile phone every day. And every time he goes back, the child is always dirty, like he hasn't taken a bath for a long time, which makes Xiao Wang feel sad. Xiao Wang said that he was planning to resign at this stage and take care of his children full-time, although it was hard, but the healthy growth of his children was more important than anything else.
Coincidentally, Xiaoxia has also been worried about the child's affairs recently, she said that her child is a girl, more than 7 pounds when she was born, and she took the child with her at that time, and raised her white and fat, but because she was working in other places, she had a lot of financial pressure to hire a nanny for a long time, so she had to hand over the child to her mother-in-law and take it back to her hometown. It's only been a few months. Xiao Xia happened to take leave to go home and saw that the child was black and yellow. Xiao Xia was angry and distressed, because the child had drunk imported milk powder since he was a child, and her mother-in-law was reluctant to give the child to drink, so she soaked the bottle of milk powder with boiling water and gave the child water to drink. When making milk powder, the amount is always insufficient. As for diapers, it is more to save money, and after the child uses it, he directly takes it to the sun to dry and then use it.
In fact, the money to buy milk powder and diapers was all from Xiaoxia. And Xiao Xia also gave thousands of living expenses every month, so she was afraid that she would suffer the child. Who would have thought that the mother-in-law would even deduct the money for the child's meal, and she asked what to feed the child? Basically, it's all soy sauce bibimbap, and the best one is steamed eggs, but I rarely eat them, and I'm even more reluctant to buy meat and fish for my children. Her grandfather is too, he wants to eat two boiled eggs every day, but he is reluctant to share one for his child to eat, and complains every day that the child does not eat, saying that the child is a picky eater.
Xiao Xia was very busy with work, but she felt sorry for the child, so she still found a weekend to pick up the child. The first thing to do is to bathe the child. The child exudes a sour smell all over his body, and he wears clothes from all seasons to his body. She cooks for the children, and the children gobble them up. After eating, I immediately took the children to buy clothes, and bought a new set of clothes from the inside out and handed them to my mother-in-law. But I didn't expect my mother-in-law to give the child no clothes, so she gave it to her daughter's child. Including the cream and body lotion that Xiao Xia bought for her child, all of them were given to her daughter's child.
Xiao Xia's daughter ** is prone to allergies, and she is uncomfortable and itchy with allergies, so the family only scratches her and never takes her to the hospital to see. On the belly, on the back, there were blood marks everywhere. Xiao Xia's husband works outside and has been separated from Xiao Xia for a long time, Xiao Xia told him that he hopes he can communicate well with his mother-in-law and take care of the children. As a result, her husband didn't take her words to heart at all, and her mother-in-law's family still didn't care about the children.
Later, Xiao Xia gritted her teeth and took the child back, although she was very tired, but the child was well fed and clothed. The child doesn't eat takeout or goes to the restaurant, so he likes to eat the food cooked by Xiaoxia. Every time, after eating, she lifted her clothes and let her see her belly bulging by food and said, "Mom, your cooking is so delicious, I can't fit it in my stomach, what should I do if I still want to eat?" Xiao Xia was relieved and happy. Although I work and take care of the baby, I am very tired. Especially when she was sick, she didn't dare to fall down easily, for fear that no one would take care of her. Xiao Xia said that even if she was tired to death, she would never want to give the child to her mother-in-law again.
Mr. and Mrs. Zhang, from Beijing, have been thinking about how to make up for the "lost three and a half years" of companionship for their children.
Mr. Zhang's family is in a third- or fourth-tier city, he worked hard in Beijing, and after buying a house and giving birth to a child, considering various factors, he sent the child back to his hometown for the elderly to take with him, and did not take the child back to Beijing until he was three and a half years old. Children are spoiled by the elderly, not only "unfamiliar" with their parents, but also very extreme, in the face of their parents' education, they always threaten each other in extreme ways, such as jumping off the building if they are not allowed to play with their mobile phones. The child's series of behaviors made Mr. and Mrs. Zhang regret their original choice very much. In order to educate the child well, the daughter-in-law chose to resign and take care of the child full-time at home, hoping to "make up for the loss", educate the child well, and accompany him to grow up.
As a young generation working hard in the city, it is a common choice for many people to send their children back to their hometown and let their parents help take them.
In fact, this is very detrimental to the growth of children, in the book "Psychological Nutrition" talks about the sense of security as one of the six major psychological nutrients needed by children, 0 3 years old is the critical period to gain a sense of security. If this lack of security will cause children to have low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence in the future, always retreat when encountering things, lack of enterprising spirit, fighting spirit, and fear of interpersonal communication. Therefore, if there is no good guidance, it is likely that it will be difficult to make up for it in the later stage. What's more, at the beginning of life, children are a blank slate, and it is very important to cultivate good habits. Not to mention the concept and way of dealing with people, in the book "Capturing Children's Sensitive Period", it is a detailed introduction to the various stages that 0 6-year-old children's psychological growth needs to go through, each stage is related to the way adults deal with it, which will directly affect children's emotions, behaviors and other aspects. Sometimes, although the elderly help take care of the children, the young people should be grateful, but it has to be said that most of the old people's concepts and methods of taking care of children are backward, such as suppressive education and cramming education.
As a parent of a child, only by accompanying the child can the relationship between the child and us be close, and the child will listen to our words, and this needs to be slowly cultivated in getting along day and night. If there is always a lack of companionship, then in the eyes of the child, there is no difference between parents and strangers, let alone disobedient.
Therefore, no matter how hard it is, it is important to take the child with you, and the company of parents is very important. Mother-in-law with baby Will your child let your mother-in-law take her back to the country? #