Happy Chinese New Year, in addition to the celebration of reunion with your family, have you been urged to get married?
Before the holiday, a colleague of mine complained about me. In fact, he didn't want to celebrate the New Year at all. I said it's not good to reunite with family? They had no choice but to say that his family urged him to marry and planned to arrange a blind date for him. He just wants to have a simple New Year, but the marriage urging at home is not a year or two.
A is not a fiancée, but judging by his life and work, he is now more focused on personal interests and careers.
In addition, more and more young people are gradually fading the concept of marriage, and the concept of independence and individuality is becoming more and more popular.
Marriage urging refers to the phenomenon that when a person reaches the age where he should consider getting married and having children, but has not completed these life tasks, his parents or other relatives will feel worried and urge him or her to complete them as soon as possible. Urging marriage is a common social phenomenon in China, especially during the Spring Festival.
The China Working Committee for the Care of the Next Generation released the "Survey Report on the Current Situation of Forced Marriage in China". According to the report, more than 70% of respondents were urged to marry by their parents; Among them, singles aged 25-35 are the most stressed, and 86% of singles in this age group are affected by the urge to get married. Reasons for urging marriage may include the following:
First of all, parents may consider marriage and children to be an essential stage in everyone's life. They want their children to follow this traditional trajectory and avoid being seen as "aliens" by society.
Second, they may be worried about their child's future. Many parents believe that marriage can provide their children with more security and security, and that building a family and raising children after marriage is also a responsibility and obligation that they believe their children should bear.
Additionally, some parents may feel anxious and worried about their children. They may worry that single children will face various difficulties and challenges such as loneliness, anxiety, stress, etc., so they want to alleviate their worries by urging marriage.
Finally, some parents may consider marriage to be an investment. They believe that marriage can bring a stable life and future to their children, so they hope to create a better future for their children by urging marriage.
How should young people in contemporary society respond to parental urging? Parents and children on the conflict of the concept of marriage.
1.Communication and understanding.
Young people should communicate with their parents so that they are aware of their ideas and plans, as well as their parents' concerns and expectations.
2.Stand your ground.
Young people stand their ground and don't sacrifice their own happiness in order to meet the expectations of others.
3.Expand your social circle.
Young people can expand their social circle and increase their chances of meeting the opposite sex by participating in social activities and joining interest groups.
There are many reasons for urging marriage, including the conflict between traditional and contemporary realities, worries about children, and investment in the future. However, we need to recognize that marriage and childbirth are personal choices. We should respect everyone's choice and autonomy, and pay attention to and solve all kinds of problems caused by urging marriage.