We all seek security, certainty, and a sense of calm that keeps us calm in the face of wind and rain. We habitually seek the protection of others, crave the approval and protection of others, and expect strong relationships and emotional stability.
Life is full of uncertainties, and every soul is looking for its own refuge. A sense of security has always been considered a desperate haven in our lives. But seeking the comfort of others is the greatest stupidity and arrogance.
We are born as individuals. Whether you are happy or sad, you have to bear it yourself. It seems that from childhood to adulthood, the love of parents and the care of teachers have always protected us infinitely. As we get older, cracks begin to appear in the walls of security that we thought would never be broken. When you start expecting others to build forts for you, have you forgotten that your strongest walls should actually be built in your own heart?
It has been said that all kinds of dependencies and demands in relationships stem from the desire for security. In her book, Ain Rand writes, "Learning to live independently, without being hindered by anyone, is the first sign of maturity." What this quote tells us is that true security comes from inner independence and strength.
If you ask for too much security from your partner, you may be disappointed. Because in the world of emotions, no one can be someone else's eternal dependence. Oscar Wilde said, "Self-love is the beginning of the ultimate romance." "Self-love is not selfishness, but a deep understanding of self-worth. The more you know and love yourself, the more likely you are to find people who appreciate you elsewhere.
But that doesn't mean we should be islands. However, we need relationships. Social connections, warm friendships, and maintained family relationships are all the spices of life. However, basing one's security needs on the existence of others creates an invisible burden. This burden not only puts pressure on the client, but also on the service provider. Emotional, inspirational, positive energy quotes
Safety is not a castle built on the beach given to us by others, but like a mountain deep in our hearts, it must be strong, stable, and unwavering even in the face of changes in the external environment. We need to learn to build ourselves and find inner strength. We don't have the right to ask someone to pay us, or to expect someone else to meet our needs. Others have their own lives and values, and they are not a source of security for us.
Perhaps you rely on others to provide you with a sense of security, but you don't realize that you are your most powerful protector. The flowers that have survived the wind, frost, rain and snow are still tenacious and vigorous, and they are a mirror that reflects ourselves. Wake up every morning and say to yourself, "Today I am your own sun." My light is enough to dispel all the fog. ”
Face all the storms in life with a calm mind. Don't rely too much on others or let their actions affect your mood. Don't let dependency become a habit or rely on others for the sake of security. Remember that you are your own master, the regulator of your own emotions, and the source of your own happiness.
Like a small boat sailing on the sea, we may encounter big waves and storms, but as long as our hearts are stable enough, nothing can stop us from moving forward, nothing. Let go of dependence and unnecessary burdens, face the dawn of life with a more mature and confident attitude, and find the most reliable support in the depths of your heart. This is the life of a wise man.