It is written in the "Meditations":
"Don't be slow in doing things, don't talk in a mess, don't be restless in your soul, so that life can be smooth and worry-free. ”
We can't control time, but we can control ourselves and thus take control of our lives.
You must know that the truly strong are often able to restrain their desires, manage their behavior, and have a self-disciplined life.
That is, do not delay, do not say much, and people are not anxious.
Without delay
I've read a sentence:
Action is the antidote to fear, and hesitation and procrastination will constantly nourish fear. ”
I believe that many people have the habit of making drafts in advance, and every time they think that planning in advance can be foolproof, they are only on paper and are reluctant to start acting.
Procrastination in the anxiety of day after day, fear in the center of procrastination and hesitation, and even deepening one's own anxiety and allowing oneself to fall into a closed loop of pain.
On the contrary, action not only helps us get rid of anxiety, but it also solves 80% of life's problems.
So-called"There is nothing difficult in the world of diligence, and everything in the world is resting if you are lazy. ”
It means that if you are diligent and hardworking, then nothing in this world can stump you for you;
If you are lazy and slack, then everything in the world will become a stumbling block that hinders your progress.
If you think about it, those who fish for three days and dry their nets for two days are often accustomed to procrastination on small things, and it will definitely be difficult to achieve big things.
As Stetson once wrote in the article:
"The biggest disadvantage of procrastination is not delay, but it can make you hesitate and even lose confidence. ”
I think so. When you get by and get by, you undoubtedly give the person behind you the opportunity to surpass yourself, and then lose confidence in the comparison.
After all, a tree doesn't grow in a day, and people don't become strong in a day.
So, when you think of something, do it quickly, and instead of doing nothing tomorrow and tomorrow, you should get something out of your actions today.
Not much to say
Maxims are said:
"Knowing words is enough to show my virtue, but not knowing that words are so good as cultivating my virtue. ”
As we all know, although words can reflect a person's strengths, it is often overlooked that prudent words can cultivate good character.
In other words, it is instinct to be able to speak, and it is the ability to know how to speak.
In other words, it is not only the cultivation of a person's life, but also the foundation of the world, and it is also the epitome of a person's emotional intelligence.
In the early years, Zeng Guofan, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, offended many people in the officialdom because of his open-mouthedness, and was even laughed at as "Zeng Cannon".
When he first entered the Hanlin Academy, he was arrogant, and when he talked to people, his words were even more harsh.
Once, at his father's birthday banquet, Zeng Guofan made disrespectful remarks to his friend Zheng Xiaoshan, which made Zheng Xiaoshan very unhappy.
Zeng Guofan not only didn't notice the change in his friend, but when he saw that his friend couldn't talk about himself, he also added fuel to the fire and was aggressive, and the two quarreled on the spot, and finally broke up unhappily.
Afterwards, his father also angrily reprimanded him for such behavior.
After this, Zeng Guofan realized his mistake and wrote in his diary: "Evil words do not come out of the mouth, and angry words do not come against the body, I don't know this, let alone ask anything else?" ”
In fact, you don't have to be too careful when you interact with people, you don't have to compete with people, and you don't have to be unforgiving and unforgiving, so that the relationship between you will be cracked.
* Regulation Cloud:"It is better to talk more than less; But don't be clever. ”
In many cases, it is better to say more than to say less, to quarrel is better than to give in, and timely silence is also a kind of self-discipline that can control your mouth.
People are not agitated
Xunzi "Cloud:"The years are not cold, and the pines and cypresses are unknown; It's not difficult, and you can't know the gentleman. ”
In the severe cold, the tenacity of the pine and cypress can be seen; In the face of challenges, we can see the quality and ability of a person.
When a person encounters difficulties, he must also calm himself down first.
Because the more impatient you are, the easier it is to get busy, and the easier it is to ignore the details of the problem and mess things up.
As recorded in the "Left Biography":
"Life is made by oneself, and each other is born from the heart; There is no way to bring good or evil, but people bring it on themselves. ”
Whether a person can adjust his or her mentality can change his situation more than whether he or she can have good timing.
If you have a good mentality, even if you are sailing against the current, it will be smooth sailing;
If you have a bad mentality, you will be ignored even if success is close at hand.
Therefore, you must stabilize yourself at all times, do not be anxious, do not panic, and calm down to be able to do everything smoothly.
The writer Victor Hugo once said:
"A person who knows how to control himself at the right time is a truly smart person. ”
For the rest of your life, I hope you can manage yourself, do not delay when encountering things, do not say much when you meet people, and do not be anxious when encountering difficulties, so that you can enjoy a self-disciplined life.
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