At the end of the year, many of the children who have returned home to visit their parents have to return to their small families and start working. Before her daughter left, 63-year-old Aunt Xu and her daughter had the third big quarrel in just 7 days of annual leave.
The daughter said angrily while packing her luggage: "Mom, I will never come back to accompany you for the New Year in the future, I gave up my vacation, gave up travel, gave up the opportunity to celebrate the New Year with my husband and children, offended my in-laws, and came to accompany you for the New Year, why are you so stubborn!" ”
Aunt Xu also cried aggrievedly: "If you don't come back, you won't come back, as soon as you go home, I will offer you as an ancestor, but you are still unhappy, I am old, I really don't know what you like, you train me every day, I am dizzy, I don't know how my life has passed!" ”
Next, Aunt Xu told us about the conflict that broke out between the two during the 7-day annual leave when her daughter came back.
Mother and daughter duo go to the supermarket. The daughter came back on the 27th of the lunar month, which was the first time in the 10 years that the daughter had been married and went home to accompany Aunt Xu for the New Year. The son-in-law lost his temper and offended his in-laws, but anyway, the daughter came back.
The day after my daughter came back, she had to take Aunt Xu to the supermarket to buy New Year's goods.
My daughter first came to the fruit section and began to choose the fruits she liked to eat.
The daughter took a fancy to the big and bright fruit orange, 179 yuan a catty, picked up the bag and filled 8.
Aunt Xu saw it and hurriedly stopped: "This orange is too expensive, look at the orange next to it, it's not small, 9."9 yuan a catty, buy 99 yuan a pound! As he spoke, he put back the one his daughter had picked and picked it herself.
At this time, my daughter began to choose watermelons again, watermelons in winter are rare, and they are also surprisingly high in time for the New Year.
The daughter picked a watermelon, the label reads, 97$9.
This ** startled Aunt Xu, she immediately put the watermelon back in its place, and muttered: "Ah, it's too expensive, the watermelon is not a product of this season, and it's not delicious, it's just a waste of money!" ”
The daughter wanted to get angry, but Aunt Xu was an old man and there were many people in the supermarket, so she endured it.
When the mother and daughter came to the weighing area, Aunt Xu originally wanted to take out the oranges in her shopping cart and weigh them, but when she saw a few bags of oranges in the clearing area next to the weighing table that had been processed cheaply due to quality problems, she changed her mind, put the oranges in her shopping cart back and took a bag of processed oranges.
When her daughter saw it, she couldn't bear it: "Mom, these orange peels are wrinkled, and they are about to rot, so you can't buy them!" ”
Aunt Xu retorted: "You also said that it is going to rot soon, that is, it is not rotten yet, and it can still be eaten, you see, ** is half cheaper, you can't eat it as soon as you go home!" After speaking, he ignored his daughter's anger and continued to visit the supermarket.
The mother and daughter were strolling in the seafood section of the supermarket, and the daughter found fresh prawns, thinking that her mother also loved to eat them, so she went to catch live shrimp, ** was 47 yuan per catty.
Seeing her daughter like this, Aunt Xu immediately stopped: "Why buy it so expensive, it's not worth it!" ”
The daughter replied, "But don't you love shrimp the most?" I remember the last time we had a banquet together, you ate most of the plate of shrimp by yourself! ”
Aunt Xu explained: "Although I like to eat, it also depends on the time and **, you see, how expensive the shrimp is now!" Or let's buy that kind of 299 yuan a pound of frozen shrimp! With that, she walked to the freezer.
However, in the end, Aunt Xu was not even willing to buy frozen shrimp, but chose a large piece of shrimp skin, saying that it can not only make dumplings, but also make soup, which is very affordable.
After that, they came to the seasoning area, and the daughter chose the best soy sauce, vinegar, cooking wine, oil consumption and other seasonings, but Aunt Xu went to the ** area and selected ** goods.
The daughter said helplessly: "Mom, good seasoning can make more delicious dishes!" ”
Aunt Xu said confidently: "The key is cooking, if you don't know how to cook, it's useless to use any seasonings, and besides, the taste is the same when you eat it!" ”
After shopping in the supermarket for nearly 3 hours, Aunt Xu vetoed all the regular-priced goods selected by her daughter, and only selected ** and clearance goods.
What made her daughter most angry was that at the checkout, the cashier asked Aunt Xu if she needed shopping bags, and she firmly refused because each bag would cost 5 cents.
The daughter asked puzzledly, "Then how do we load things!" ”
Aunt Xu took out the free food bag provided by the supermarket and said confidently: "Just use this!" ”
As a result, Aunt Xu and her daughter had to pinch the bags and things, carry the shopping with both hands, and carry the things into the car in three installments.
During the last handling, her daughter accidentally broke a bottle of sesame oil because of sore fingers, which made Aunt Xu very distressed.
As a result, the two had a heated argument.
Aunt Xu said aggrievedly: "Who is my frugality for? I can't take it away when I'm dead, it's all for you! ”
The daughter did not appreciate it and said angrily: "I don't need it! Blindly saving, it's really annoying! ”
During the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, one of Aunt Xu's nephews and daughter-in-law came to pay New Year's greetings, and her daughter cooked a sumptuous dinner with a total of six dishes. After dinner, the daughter cleaned the table and was about to throw out the leftovers, but was stopped by Aunt Xu. Auntie Xu believes that food should not be wasted and insists on preserving leftover food. Although the daughter disagreed, she still obeyed.
The next day, one of Aunt Xu's newly married nieces and son-in-law came to visit, and the daughter again prepared a sumptuous lunch with a total of eight dishes. While Aunt Xu was not present, her daughter threw out the rest of the food. When Aunt Xu came back, she found out about the incident and had a heated argument with her daughter.
Aunt Xu accused her daughter of wasting food and thought that food should be cherished. The daughter insisted that leftover food was bad for her health and accused Aunt Xu of outdated concepts. Despite the constant arguments, Auntie Xu eventually decided to clean up the dishes and save the leftover food herself.
Since then, Aunt Xu's family only cooks one fresh meal a day, and the rest of the meals are leftovers.
My daughter always prepares a table of hearty dishes whenever relatives and friends visit, but after the guests leave, the leftover meals always fill the refrigerator. The daughter doesn't like to eat leftovers, which keeps the food in the fridge backlogged for days.
On her daughter's last day away from Aunt Xu's house, she opened the refrigerator to retrieve the eggs, but accidentally pushed the plate full of leftovers down, spilling broken glass and soup all over the floor.
Aunt Xu rushed over when she heard the sound, looked at the spilled food, and sighed pity. Seeing this, the daughter was furious, dumped all the leftovers into the trash, and threw away the pickles, stinky tofu, etc. in the refrigerator. Aunt Xu hurriedly stayed, but her daughter insisted on leaving.
Aunt Xu helplessly watched her daughter preparing to leave, and sighed in her heart: "Daughters have daughters' lives and don't interfere with each other." ”
Her daughter had just left, but Aunt Xu's mood could not be calmed down, she blamed herself for not letting her daughter have a good time during the holidays in the past few days, and began to wonder if she had done something wrong.
On weekdays, I'm alone, and I eat three meals casually, so what's the point if I'm like this? I'm still alive and well! I'm old and alone, and I can't make every meal decent, delicate, and delicious, just to fill my stomach, but my daughter is too young to understand my situation! Spending so much money on food and drink is a waste! Aunt Xu sighed.
Listening to Aunt Xu's complaints, I was deeply embarrassed, this kind of parent-child relationship dilemma is not uncommon in real life, and I can't make an absolute judgment on such a situation.
However, I would like to share two wise quotes:
A sentence from the Analects of Confucius, when Confucius's students asked what "filial piety" was, Confucius mentioned "erotic difficulty", that is, the most difficult part of filial piety to parents is to be kind and pleasant, and giving parents a kind face is the highest level of filial piety!
The other sentence is "The tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the son wants to be filial but does not wait"!
I hope that we, as children, will not leave regrets about our filial piety to our parents!