The meaning of this sentence is that although the children are not biological, the process of raising them is arduous, and this kindness cannot be repaid in any way. For most people, in the face of such a situation, their choice must be to do their best to repay the favor.
In 2015, a news about an American couple adopting a Chinese abandoned baby, and the girl returned to China 20 years later, caused widespread discussion in the society. Everyone wondered if the Chinese girl would choose to embrace her biological parents or return to the United States to take care of her adoptive parents who had raised her for two decades.
What is the truth of this event? Why was the girl abandoned, how did the American couple come to China and adopt her, and what would she choose in the end?
Xu Jingzhi was born in August 1995 in Suzhou, Jiangsu Province. However, instead of bringing joy to the family, her birth was filled with sorrow. Why is that?
It's not hard to see why. At that time, China had just implemented the family planning policy, a key policy related to the development of the whole country, which was supported by the majority of the Chinese people. However, there are some more feudal-minded families who disagree.
Xu Lida and Qian Fanxiang originally had a daughter, and this time they wanted to have a boy when they were pregnant with their second child, even if they had to pay a fine. However, Xu Jingzhi's birth shattered their expectations, and there was no boy, no inheritance, and the burden of a huge fine, which was unbearable for the Xu family.
In order to avoid the dilemma of selling the house and paying the fine, the couple made a painful decision, that is, to give up Xu Jingzhi.
Three days after Xu Jingzhi was born, her parents took her to the noisy vegetable market. They found a more prominent junction, dropped her down, and slipped a note into her swaddling clothes.
The note read: "The youngest daughter Jingzhi was born at 10 a.m. on the 24th day of the seventh lunar month in 1995. We hope she can find loving parents, and we are deeply grateful. If there is fate, ten or twenty years later, on the morning of the seventh day of the seventh month, we will meet on the broken bridge of the West Lake in Hangzhou. On the morning of the 29th day of the seventh lunar month, the ruthless parents will bow down. ”
After that, the good Samaritan picked up Xu Jingzhi and sent her to an orphanage. And her parents saw their daughter being taken away, so they held back their tears and returned home. Xu Jingzhi's encounter in the orphanage made her adopt by an American couple, which was completely arranged by fate.
In Michigan, USA, there is a Burler couple who love each other deeply, and they raise two lovely boys together. However, American traditions make them realize that as children grow up, they will inevitably need to live independently and start their own lives.
This was the case with the Burler brothers, who began to live independently as minors, busy with socializing and school, and returning home less and less. This left the Boulders feeling deeply lonely, especially Mrs. Burler, whose longing was often expressed in tears, and even suffered from mild depression.
This distressed Mr. Burler. In order to help his wife get out of the predicament, he had an idea, that is, to have another child, preferably a girl, to give his wife more companionship and love.
Although Mrs. Burler is in good health, having a child can be risky because of her age. To do this, they consulted several hospitals, but did not find a doctor willing to perform IVF surgery for them.
In this case, they decided to consider ***
Why did the Burlers choose to adopt in China? The reason is simple. One is that they have always been full of curiosity and yearning for China, and this trip is just right to fulfill their wishes.
The second is that Mr. Burler's sister was adopted from China by their parents, and their whole family has a deep love for China. Under these circumstances, they soon decided to travel to China and arrived by plane to the Suzhou orphanage, which has a partnership with an international adoption agency, a full year after the Xu family abandoned Xu Jingzhi.
When the Boulers first arrived at the orphanage, they were anxious. Looking at the crying baby in front of them, they broke out in a cold sweat, and even had the idea of giving up.
However, when they walked up to a one-year-old girl, the girl's behavior changed them. The girl's name was Xu Jingzhi, and unlike the other crying children, she first stared at the foreigner in front of her with big eyes, and then cautiously walked to Mr. and Mrs. Burle, and gently tugged at the corner of Mr. Burle's clothes.
As soon as they saw Xiao Jingzhi, Bole and his wife were deeply attracted by her unique demeanor and active approaching attitude, and decided that she was their destiny. On the same day, they completed the adoption process and brought Xiao Jingzhi and her belongings to the United States.
Among them, including the letter left by the Xu family, although the Burler couple did not understand Chinese, they still read it roughly. They thought it was a farewell letter from their biological parents, so they put the matter aside for the time being and began to study the future life of their daughter.
Xu Jingzhi began a new life in the United States, and for convenience, the Burlers also gave her an English name - Katie Boller.
Xu Jingzhi transformed into Kati, and the change of this name not only symbolizes the birth of a new identity, but also indicates that the future life of this one-year-old girl will be turned upside down.
Her daily life is no longer lonely, and her two older brothers are extremely happy to hear that there is a Chinese sister in the house, and they will stay at home every day to spend happy time with their sister.
Looking at the warm picture of a family of four, Mrs. Burler's depression gradually **. The arrival of a Chinese daughter brought such a huge change to the family, which the Burles did not expect, so they saw Katy as a gift from God, and their love for her increased day by day.
However, despite her family's love for Kati, she faced many challenges and difficulties as she grew up.
Kati's ** color contrasts with her white parents, which makes her ridiculed quite a few of her classmates at school. This caused a great deal of distress for young Katy, who often thought about it on her own, and even wanted to skip school to escape the doubts.
After learning the truth, the Burlers initially chose to hide it and concocted several white lies. However, over time, they realize that deception is unsustainable.
So when Katie was nine years old, they decided to tell her the truth. They said to Kati, "Kati, you didn't come out of your mother's womb, your biological parents were a couple in Suzhou, China. But this does not affect our love for you, no matter what you think, we will always treat you as our own child, always love you and care for you. ”
As soon as they had said these words, Mrs. Burler, who was more nervous, turned her head away and burst into tears.
Even Mr. Burler stepped aside and lit a cigarette. However, they clearly overestimated Katy's comprehension. Katie didn't take their words seriously, instead thinking that it was cool that her parents didn't give birth to her, but they were so nice to her, so she laughed.
Looking at their confession of love, but being indifferently ignored by their daughter, the Burlers were helpless. It was then that they remembered something important - that old note!
Although they did not understand Chinese, they vaguely remembered the word "ten years" mentioned on the note. Their daughter, who is now more than nine years old, decided to find a friend who can speak Chinese, Ms. Wu, and ask her to translate the contents of the letter.
When Ms. Wu heard about this, she was shocked, and the promise of a ten- or twenty-year covenant made her think about the feelings of the Borough couple. She wondered if she should tell them the news so that it wouldn't hurt them psychologically.
But after much consideration, she decided that she should still tell them about it, because she couldn't see the kind couple worried about the unknown future. Upon hearing the news, the Burlers were at first a little shocked, and then showed deep reluctance.
They are afraid that once their daughter knows the truth, she may refuse to leave them for fear of leaving. Therefore, they agreed to Ms. Wu's kindness and hoped that she would go and see the situation before making a decision.
Despite the Boulers' ardent hopes, Ms. Wu returned to China on the day of Qixi and eventually got in touch with the Xu family through **.
However, because the impact of this matter was too great, and even spread to the United States, out of the protection of Kati's privacy, and also afraid that Katy was too young to withstand such a storm, they had to ask Ms. Wu to urgently terminate the attempt, temporarily cut off contact with the Xu family and his wife, and this severance lasted for a full decade.
Ten years passed quickly, and the Burles did not mention it to Katy, leaving her with a carefree childhood. However, the arrival of Carty's twentieth birthday made the Burles begin to reflect.
They realize that they have not been in contact with the Xu family for ten years, and Kati has grown up, and if they hide the truth from her again, their hearts will be difficult to calm down. So, they finally revealed the truth to Katie on her twentieth birthday.
The note awakens the secrets of twenty years, and Katie has mixed feelings in her heart. She didn't want to chill her adoptive parents, and she couldn't bear to wait for her biological parents by the West Lake for a long time. After much deliberation, she made a decision to return to her home country and meet her biological parents.
Faced with the dual consideration of blood and emotion, what choice did Katie make? After visiting her biological parents in China, did she choose to stay in China and follow the bloodline? Or do you choose to return to the U.S. and focus on feelings?
The answer was revealed, and Katy chose the latter. She stayed in China for only a few days, fulfilled her biological parents' dream, and then immediately returned to the United States to live with her adoptive parents, where she remains to this day.