Middle-aged women are synonymous with calm elegance. Meticulous skills are required to maintain one's image and relationships in social situations.
Especially for women after the age of 40, no matter who they are in front of, they can't show these 4 hole cards, it's really stupid.
Once these hole cards are exposed, they often leave a negative impression on people, and their image will be greatly reduced, and many people are likely to stay away from you and look down on you.
01. Repeatedly mention the shadow that you can't get out of.
Confiding in others about your painful experiences can elicit sympathy and concern from others, and perhaps there will be kind people who will reach out to help you.
It is helpful to talk about it properly, and the so-called "crying child has milk" is the truth.
However, if a middle-aged woman always mentions to others how difficult it is to have her past, or even tears in her eyes every time she talks about it, with a sad and desperate face, not only will she not get sympathy, but also make people disgusted.
A person's excessive negativity will produce a low-pressure magnetic field, which will envelop the mood of himself and others with depression.
Everyone's life is not easy, there are annoying trivialities, everyone yearns for a positive and optimistic lifestyle, and psychologically rejects this kind of social interaction that has been poured cold water over and over again.
Over time, it is natural that others will flee and be reluctant to approach you.
If you want good popularity, you must show your positive side to everyone, and a healthy and upward life will naturally attract more people.
It's not that those who are good haven't suffered a lot, but that they will handle it in their hearts and won't let outsiders know.
02. Real-time broadcast of disgraceful little things at home.
Most middle-aged women will talk about some family trivial matters in social interactions, and in order to find topics, they will involve partners, children, family conflicts and so on.
A wise woman never mentions dishonorable things about her family members, and there are many things that you don't say, but others don't know about them.
Even if the family members are not excellent, a smart woman will still praise and maintain the image of her family.
And some women are very stupid and go around preaching, for fear that others will not know, and laugh at their own family members madly before others laugh at them.
For example, if the child pees his pants because he is nervous about the exam, he will say that the child is unpromising and timid.
The husband picks his feet when he doesn't take a bath and eats, who in the family is constipated, etc.
and all kinds of contradictions with my in-laws, what my mother-in-law says is unpleasant, and what she says is even more ugly.
A middle-aged woman who likes to promote the privacy of her family will make others feel that she has no ideological connotation, can't keep secrets, is an unreliable person, and is not worthy of deep friendship.
03. Show off your eating and drinking.
It's a happy thing to live a good life, but it's not appropriate to show off everywhere, such a character seems cheap.
For example, when everyone is chatting, someone talks about their poor hair quality and dandruff.
At this time, someone suddenly belittled her for not having a good shampoo, and she used a certain high-end brand, and always went to the store to care for her hair, how much is it at a time.
This kind of show-off can't usher in the envy of others at all, and belittling others without understanding the situation will make people feel disgusted in their hearts.
Always showing off that she has eaten and seen and used the best things, such a woman puts her position too high, and it is easy for the people around her to have a resistance of "what is so great about you".
04. Blindly show your abilities.
The gap between women will grow after middle age, because everyone's opportunities are different.
Don't blindly show others your abilities, know any powerful big people, and participate in high-end dinners.
Always showing off that you are very close to a certain leader, it will make people feel that this person is very speculative and utilitarian, giving people a feeling of not being sincere and down-to-earth.
For example, a middle-aged woman talks about the ** welfare benefits of her unit at a dinner, trying to arouse the envy of others, or showing off how successful her education is, which often gives people a sense of self-aggrandizement.
Truly capable will naturally be sought after, rather than bragging about yourself to others when you have the opportunity, even if it is true, it will make others feel flashy.
In social interaction, middle-aged women should pay more attention to their words and deeds, and do not let others misunderstand and resent them.
Don't show these four hole cards easily, and once someone has formed a certain impression of you, it's hard to change it.
Middle-aged women can choose to listen more in social interactions, learn more from others' positive attitudes towards life, and when they share themselves, they mainly focus on health and happiness, and they can also show some of their positive insights and views.
When you show positive energy and optimism, you will naturally attract the attention of others, and when you express your positive attitude and opinions towards life, you will naturally show your rich inner world and be recognized and respected by others.