Some time ago, a ** on the Internet became popular.
On a subway in Nanchang, Jiangxi, an aunt completely let herself go, treating the subway as her own living room and the seat as her own sofa.
I saw her lying on her seat by herself, holding her mobile phone and swiping it as if no one was around.
At her feet sat the only passenger brother in this row, the eldest brother looked at the mobile phone and frowned, not knowing whether he didn't like to laugh by nature, or was given by this aunt.
And the other eldest brother who just got on the subway, who had no seat and could only stand, looked at the aunt who was lying alone and occupied a row of seats, although she didn't speak, but the scolding words were in her eyes.
At this time, the protagonist appeared, that is, the male college student who filmed this **.
He smiled shyly at the camera, then unzipped his coat as if he had made up his mind.
He stood up and took off his coat as he said, "Auntie, are you sleeping cold here?" Cover it with ......While putting his coat over the lying aunt.
The aunt was shocked by this sudden warm behavior, and directly ejected to her feet, refusing the young man's kindness again and again.
On the subsequent journey, the aunt sat honestly, and no longer dared to lie on the subway seat as her own sofa, after all, she really couldn't bear such "warmth".
In the comment area, I was even more amazed by the college student's "high emotional intelligence crazy" behavior:
"Auntie has endured all kinds of eyes, but she has not endured your concern. ”
"Out of recklessness and cowardice, you have chosen wisdom. ”
"I often wonder how people can be so smart. ”
Indeed, if you directly accuse this immoral behavior, the immature college student will definitely not be able to scold the battle-hardened aunt, and if you are angry like other passengers, and secretly curse a few words in your heart, then you will also be aggrieved.
And this kind of "warm man" behavior not only effectively helped the aunt correct her mistakes, but also avoided a dispute.
Wonderful!
I don't know if you've ever heard a word:Mammatoman.
We all know that our breast health is related to emotions, and bad emotions like swallowing our anger will only make our chest hurt if we hold it for a long time.
And the appropriate emotional release can make you feel open and refreshed.
As netizens rewrote the classic quotes:
endure breast hyperplasia for a while, go crazy and open the sky; Instead of consuming oneself internally, it is better to consume others externally.
And those "breast men", the main thing is to never hold grudges, because revenge will be avenged on the spot.
I've seen a netizen's "crazy record":
Grandma is patriarchal, and when she eats Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, because netizens are girls, she is arranged to sit in the most remote position, and she can't pick up vegetables, she can only eat rice soup in a bowl.
The grumpy netizen directly lifted the table: I don't eat, no one wants to eat!
Since then, netizens can sit wherever they want when eating, and they can eat whatever they want.
The well-known writer Sanmao also talked about his study abroad experience in the book.
Before studying abroad, her father told her to be educated, to have a generous heart, to be kind to others, and to take a step back when there was a conflict.
At first, Sanmao did this, but the roommate took her enthusiasm for granted, Sanmao almost contracted the housekeeping of the dormitory, and even his own wardrobe was used as a public use, and some roommates wore her clothes directly without saying hello.
Until one time, her roommate stole wine and drank in her bed and went crazy, but she couldn't persuade her, and the school leader couldn't help but say that he would deduct the charge on Sanmao's head.
She couldn't bear it anymore and screamed and cried, picked up the broom and beat it randomly, and after the broom was taken away, she raised a large vase and splashed flowers and water on the school leader.
Unexpectedly, after going crazy, everyone was polite to her.
"I am blessed to suffer losses, but what I get is contempt. Being a person who defends oneself has earned respect. ”
Life is a process of intermittent madness, and protecting yourself with a tough attitude can not only make yourself difficult to mess with, but also make others really respect you.
20 years ago, TV dramas were popular with all kinds of bitter dramas, the protagonist suffered all kinds of mistreatment, was bullied by everyone, and endured and endured like a soft bun while crying.
Even in the finale, the protagonist has to forgive all those who hurt him and achieve a happy ending.
Here is the direct name of "The Dumb Bride", the young me and the young aunt scolded the heroine angrily while watching, and I was angry with her several times a day!
And now it is popular to go crazy and cool dramas, such as the Korean drama "Dark Glory", which exploded last year, all the members went crazy, and the heroine successfully avenged the camp step by step.
Indeed, such a protagonist is not kind enough and not tolerant enough, and I always firmly believe that these praise words are the truth, goodness and beauty of human nature, which we should pursue.
However, the premise of kindness and tolerance is to be able to protect oneself and give back to those who are also kind and inclusive.
On the contrary, in the face of oppression, blindly giving in is not tolerance, but cowardice.
The "madness" of young people now is not a vexatious demon.
It is the justice that sees injustice on the road and "goes crazy";
It is a legitimate "madness" to defend one's own interests;
It is the "madness" that refuses to play the emotional card of Our Lady
It is a "madness" that is not a powerful psychology of self-internal friction.
I really like a quote from a painter:
"Just because I'm not angry doesn't mean I'm out of temper. Just because I don't care doesn't mean I'm good-tempered. If you have to touch the bottom line, I can tell you that I am not good. ”
You can be kind, but you have to have thorns.
When you encounter a difficult situation, when you meet a villain, you can at least throw away your dignity and scold.
Maybe it's a defense mechanism to let yourself loosen that string before a strong difficulty, so that you don't get too tight.
Maybe this is a brave counterattack, so that those obstacles, those injuries understand that they are not a soft persimmon to pinch.
Life is long, you must put yourself in the first place, be a person who is not easy to mess with, Tianwang Lao Tzu does not care if I am crazy or not!