“If I were a young woman, would that person be arrested? Grandma Hyo-jeong calmly asked the police ......
On the recommendation of a friend, I watched the movie "The Old Woman".
The film mainly tells the story of 69-year-old Xiaozhen's grandmother who was violated by a 29-year-old nurse, but no one believed her, and chose to seek help outside the rule of law after she had no way to sue.
The film focuses on the elderly women, a socially disadvantaged group, exposing the situation of elderly women and calling attention to their physical and mental health.
Your legs are beautiful
The 69-year-old Hyo-jung is a swimmer and still has a slim figure. There are also many people who have praised her for looking young, well-dressed, and outstanding, not like a nurse at all, like a rich wife.
Hyo-jeong usually needs to go to the hospital for physiotherapy due to joint discomfort. However, during a certain physical therapy, he was violated by a male physiotherapist, and it was a young man who was 40 years different from Hyozhen.
"Your legs are beautiful and your back is like that of a young girl".29-year-old male nursePraised69-year-old grandmother Xiaozhen, but then followed by the sound of clothes and men's gasps, Xiaozhen, who has joint discomfort, has no ability to resist.
Afterwards, Hyo-jeong kept the evidence but did nothing. After a few days, she finally made up her mind to file a lawsuit. Grandma Xiaozhen came to the police station and said: I want to call the police, the male *** in the hospital has killed me.
However, when he learned that the male ** was 29 years old, the police almost laughed.
This assault case is also because of the 40-year-old age difference, which is so ridiculous in the eyes of the police, which is also destined to make XiaozhenThe road to appeal has become difficult.
* Soon a male nurse named Li Chonghao was locked according to the hospital's schedule.
Because Xiaozhen kept the ** left by the physiotherapist on his clothes, he couldn't deny that he had a relationship in front of the evidence, and he actually said it directly"We all volunteer".
In the follow-up investigation, the police found that Xiaozhen had the habit of "forgetting things", and suggested that she take a dementia test to see if she had amnesia or Alzheimer's disease, which led to memory confusion and wronged Li Chonghao.
Hyo-jeong's friend, a young nurse, said something that seemed to care about her, and it was a fatal blow:"Why weren't you careful? Xiuzhen just asked obediently:"How can I be careful? ”
My friend Dongin's son is a lawyer, and Dongren wants his son to come forward to help Hyo-jeong, but he not only refuses but also says directly: "I don't object to your cohabitation, but it doesn't mean that the mess of her private life wants me to clean up." ”
No one believed in Xiaozhen, even if she had liquid-stained clothes as evidence, even if she passed the ** polygraph, her appeals were all rejected.
Because the judges in South Korea held that:"There is no possibility that a young man will assault an older woman. ”
Victim guilt
The abuser continued to go back to work in the hospital with peace of mind, but Hyo-jeong contracted PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) as a result.
She would be thrilled when someone complimented her on her good temperament, good figure, and youth, and these words reminded her of the nurse that night.
After the tragedy, praise all became a curse on filial piety.
She began to think that her young body and good clothes were the fuse of her abuse, and under the constant hints of others, she began to fall into the "victim guilt theory".
Although Hyo-jung has no money and suffers from PTSD, she has never given up fighting for her rightful rights. She insisted on doing exercise instead of drugs**, and she didn't have the money to hire a lawyer, so she looked up the relevant information and wrote a lawsuit for herself.
Xiaozhen even showed the denunciation letter to Li Chonghao's family, only to find out that Li Chonghao had a pot-bellied wife who was still in college, but the children were about to be born.
After Li Chonghao learned about it, on the contraryDrag XiaozhenA roar: ".YoupcsCrazy woman, I did it for you! I sleep with you, I look up to you!
Hyo-jeong returned home and picked up a pen to write a confession letter about the incident, and then she climbed to the top floor of the hospital step by step with two thick stacks of confession letters. She put the letter on the rooftop, the wind danced the letter, and the justice she wanted was at ease in the hearts of the people.
The ridicule of the police in the story, the guilt of the victim of the little **, the judge's rejection of the complaint when the evidence is conclusive, the distrust of the outside world, etc., all highlight the current situation of elderly women suffering secondary injuries.
The cold eyes of everyone in the film on the murder of Xiaozhen reminded me of a passage from Minglan in "Do You Know":The board is not hit on oneself, it does not know that it hurts; As long as you don't die of your own family, you can be generous to others.
It is this attitude of each family sweeping up the snow in front of their own doors that makes the victims' resistance more powerless, and makes the evil ones go free, even more rampant, and do whatever they want.
The cost of violating an elderly person is low
In real life, according to the South Korean Public Prosecutor's Office, the number of victims of sexual violence against women over 60 years old increased from 442 in 2014 to 728 in 2018, an increase of about 65%.
For example, in 2018, a 22-year-old man in Sichuan tried to ** a 74-year-old lady, and the other party shouted for help, so he beat the grandmother to death with the back of an axe.
The verdict was announced afterwards: "Wang did not deliberately kill people, and the detail of carrying an axe means that he has a certain degree of control." ”
Hotspot Engine Project The old people who are in their old age have worked hard all their lives. When they should have enjoyed their old age in peace, what awaited them was these devils in human skin. The reason for this is that the cost of violating an elderly person is very low.
According to the investigation of "Old Woman" director Lin Shanai, the elderly who successfully filed a complaintInvasionOnly 1% of the victims were killed. They didn't dare to call the police, they were not trusted, they lost their access to society, and even some elderly people were paralyzed in bed, deaf and dumb ......
When we see this kind of incident, we should not slander the victim with the "victim guilt theory". In addition to condemning the perpetrators, we should also think about the lack of care for the elderly.
Whether it is the sexual violence they suffer or the discrimination they suffer in their daily lives, they all want to be confronted and improved. There must also be a sense of rights protection, in fact, helping others is helping yourself.
Only when this phenomenon is taken seriously by the public will the chances of people being harmed become smaller. Only if you dare to say it will there be hope, and if you don't say it, there will never be a day.
It's like "Black Box" author YiFuji ShioriSaid:"If we remain silent, the consequences of its appeasement will be reflected in our future lives like looking in a mirror.
I hope that you in front of the screen will be saved from misfortune, as a bystander, do not slander the victim twice, care for and encourage the victim at the same time, and have the courage to expose injustice.
To be kind to others is to be kind to ourselves.