"I've seen more than 20,000 lives and deaths before I know how to live better. —Bo Shining.I'm a greedy person who is afraid of death, so I keep a lot of secrets about the topic of life and death.
And this one I read recently"Life hangs by a thread, I won't let go".From the perspective of ICU doctors, it reproduced the various states of patients and their families in the face of the impact of the disease, which deeply touched me and made me understand the importance of life care, and at the same time know how to better cope with the disease and live better!
The author, Bo Shining, deputy chief physician of the Department of Intensive Care at Peking University Third Hospital, has been working on the front line for nearly 20 years, racing against time every day to win back patients' lives from the hands of death.
Based on years of experience and thinking in medicine, Bo Shining created the medical general education work "Life Hangs by a Thread, I Don't Let Go", the content of which is true and not pretentious, with the benevolent brushstrokes of doctors, across the cognitive gap between patients and doctors, to improve the meaning of life.
In the past two years, I have encountered a lot of things, and I have sent people close to me to emergency treatment many times, and I understand the feeling of being a family member of a patient - pinning all my hopes on the doctor.
It can be said that in the acute or intensive care ward, the doctor's words and deeds are like throwing a stone into the water, easily stirring up layers of splashes in the hearts of the patient's family.
Therefore, I agree with the author's sentence in the book: "When the patient's life is hanging by a thread, the doctor's calmness, wisdom, and rationality are above all else." But at the same time, a doctor's lifelong practice must base his emotions on rationality, and he must not only pay his emotions but also make rational decisions. It does not violate the objective law, but always adheres to the most precious goodness of human nature.
Rationality can certainly reduce the chance of making mistakes and make mistakes less easily in this society. But being excessively conventional, without any personal feelings, is always indifferent and inhumane. Especially in the face of life and death, the emotional resonance from the same kind can make people emotionally comfort and relieve pain.
My friend Lin suffered the loss of his father two years ago.
At that time, he sent the critically ill father Lin to the ICU of the hospital for rescue. Hearing the news, Shu'er and I hurriedly withdrew 10,000 yuan in cash from the ATM, hoping to relieve his financial pressure, but Lin Wan refused.
When he saw Lin, he hadn't had a good rest for four or five days, and his eyes were full of exhaustion and bloodshot. After Shu'er comforted her for a few words, Lin hid her face and cried. Shu'er was more emotional and cried along, but I was the only one who held back her tears at this time and soothed the emotions of the two until she stabilized.
Lin described: "As soon as I was sent to the hospital, three-quarters of my lungs were useless, and the blood oxygen was far below normal. At first, he was still awake, but he pulled his hair with his hands from time to time. I knew he was in pain, but there was nothing I could do but say a few words of comfort that didn't hurt. ”
My impression of Father Lin is that a simple rural man who is not good at words, like my parents' generation, has suffered from hunger and hardship, and is very forbearant in everything, so that when he is in extreme pain, he only pulls his hair to relieve it, instead of moaning and crying out in front of his wife and children.
Lin's attitude is also very resolute, even if the doctor told him that there was little hope, he insisted**.
When I got the critical illness notice, I seemed to hear my father's sigh of relief, and the doctor also predicted the ending in advance. But as I begged on my knees like crazy, the doctor had no choice but to give me a 'way out', and I rushed to the blood station to buy blood.
I know those two packets of plasma won't help.
But if I don't do my best, it will be a lifelong regret. And in the future, when facing my mother, who lives alone, the wordless guilt will consume me. ”
Letting go can save a lot of money, and it can also allow Lin's father to end the torture of illness as soon as possible, but for Lin, the guilt of "the son wants to raise but the parent does not wait" will accompany him for a lifetime.
Dr. Bo Shining understands the psychology of the families of patients with serious illnesses and understands them
Not letting go when you can't ** is not the ultimate comfort of human beings to human beings. This comfort allows the dying to die peacefully and the living to die more calmly. ”
Yes, only by persevering and not letting go, the guilt and reluctance of the patient's family will be calmed down, and they can live more firmly in the future.
I think that the greatest thing that medicine can do is to let human emotions be precipitated, so that no matter a person is born to be sick to leaving this world, there is his own kind, his relatives are helping him, this is the greatest comfort that human beings can get.
This book is also too good