**Wan Fan Incentive Plan If you want to keep your energy from being disturbed, the best way is to be physically isolated, try to choose people with similar magnetic fields to socialize, and the relationship without interest exchange is not important and can be ignored. There is really no way to avoid it, just nod and smile and remain polite, the other party's behavior is a condensation of his thoughts and patterns in this period of life, everyone is not at the same level, there is no need to talk awkwardly.
If you don't dwell on the decisions you have already made and the things that have passed, no matter how much you try to open your heart, it will be in vain, and it will only increase the mental burden.
Tangled, that is, repeatedly pulling, unable to figure out in all kinds of chaotic thoughts, and changing ideas one by one.
Independent and sober people seem to be difficult to approach, and will have a sense of distance from others, and only when they meet like-minded people will they open their hearts.
Without dwelling on this matter, you can think about it from several aspects:
Family. Since childhood, when I have not yet been able to be independent, my family will help make various arrangements, and it would be good if I could hand over the initiative to myself when I grew up, otherwise it would be easy to become a giant baby.
What's more, parents pay for the purchase of a house and decoration, so even after the child establishes a new family, he will have to come in from time to time and become the controller of the two families.
So the conflict arises, the source of many family tragedies is that there are too many people involved in decision-making, the most important people in the new family are husband and wife, and everyone else is on the sidelines, because a good relationship between husband and wife is the foundation, and without this family will be dissolved sooner or later.
Many of the ideas of the older generation have been passed on to the next generation, cultivating the younger generations to be almost the same mold as themselves, but they do not know that everyone is an independent individual, will have their own thoughts, behaviors, and personalities, and are unwilling to unconditionally obey the will of others.
Emotion. For example, in a common romantic relationship, the two parties can stay together for a long time, it must rely on mutual attraction, or the external force is too strong, such as too many interests involved, if they don't occupy it, there is really no need for too much internal friction.
If it is not suitable for you, even if you force it to stay by your side, it will increase the burden on both parties.
Sometimes jealousy and anger can make people lose their minds and think that everyone should not think about it.
As a result, both sides lose.
Giving up the entanglement of the past and letting go of a relationship is also letting go of yourself.
Interpersonal relationship. The more stable your emotions are, the less you will be able to dwell on right and wrong.
Many people quarrel to the back in fact, in order to vent their evil anger, even if they know that they are wrong, they will not bow their heads and admit their mistakes, but continue to quarrel with their necks, as if as long as they stand firm, it is enough to overcome everything.
Sometimes you don't need to entangle with people who are obviously lower than yourself, because once you bow your head, you will lose, and the other party's purpose is to pull you down, and you will fall into the quagmire like him, and you are not afraid to wear shoes barefoot.
Is it interesting to think about this debate?
There are all kinds of scolding wars everywhere on the Internet, but what do these people gain from this?
Only those who set off a scolding war can get benefits, because these flows are money, but the people who participate in the scolding war continue to lie down and be cut leeks in addition to venting their emotions.
So don't get entangled in trouble, or solve it cleanly and neatly, so that you can feel relaxed. Either hand it over to others and don't do anything beyond the scope of one's own responsibility, if people live in such a state for a long time, they will collapse.
We must be clear that the most important person in this world is ourselves, and as long as what others do has no impact on our interests, then it is okay to eat melons quietly and be a spectator, and there is no need to invest energy and lose ourselves.
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