Charon: Every time I go on stage to give a debrief, the thing I am most nervous about is the camera in my head, but as long as I am worried, it will always appear, and as soon as it appears, I will judge the debriefing as unsuccessful.
This camera is: I am monitoring how well I speak, whether it is good, whether there is anything wrong, and criticizing what I say badly. Then, when I realized that this camera existed, I rebelled against the existence of this camera and didn't want it to be here.
Because I didn't show my best side, but divided part of my energy to fight this thought, when I reported, I had a fierce sense of the battle between heaven and man, thinking about how this thought didn't disappear Last week, the teacher came to the microgrid classroom to listen to my lecture, because I was afraid of the teacher's evaluation and this reason, I was sweating all over my face and reddened.
I'm so frustrated, this thought has always been there, I can't get rid of it, I can't show the best of myself, I don't know if this is an excuse I made for myself.
Tai Yi: I share sincerely with a bystander, looking back on the journey, today to share the process of this observation of the small card was not before, used to fly with the white horse, although there is internal friction, but there is also a lot of growth, see your own changes?
Incomplete perception will trigger anger and aggression, don't just string together the bad ones, and look back on what you did well, maybe more than what you feel bad, as it is.
We don't want this feeling to appear, and if it does, we want to get rid of it immediately, which in itself is the "dam" in our hearts.
Every time we use the question method to solve this blocking state, it will be very fast, and we can use it before the next speech or at any time, we have a method.
Ah Huan: I went to the party meeting the day before yesterday, the secretary of our head office was with us, I didn't know anything, I prepared a 5-minute outline and raised my hand directly to speak, I was also nervous about the process, but I dared to do it, why?
Because first of all, I think life is an experience, and this secretary has only experienced it for decades more than me, and I also know that he doesn't know, and I'm not worse than him.
Secondly, I care more about my courage than the success of my speech, I think as long as I try, I will not regret it, how can life be perfect, and it would be good to have a clear conscience.
Then I believe in my own ability to express myself, mainly through continuous expression and trial and error, and slowly build up self-confidence.
Here are some of my experiences, and I hope we can make progress together to share them with you.
YU: It seems that there is an authoritative evaluation hidden in this; At the same time, it can be seen that you attach great importance to reporting, have high requirements for yourself, and expect yourself to perform well. Next time, you can really turn on the phone camera before the report, record your live performance, and see if there is really a difference between your real self and your ideal self after the report. Many times you need to give yourself some feedback from external teachers and judges, but more often, it's okay to get by, don't compete with yourself.
Authors: Charon, Tai Yi, Ah Huan, Yu
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