The year 2023 has passed like this, and every time this time is indispensable, year-end reviews and summaries. Flipping through the notepad, looking at those reading notes, those excerpts and insights, recalling the various twists and turns and ups and downs I have experienced in the past year, I am glad that I am accompanied by books, which has allowed me to survive a difficult time.
This year, the books read are mainly newly published, library borrowed books and app e-books, counting down, there are about 75 books, including 36 new books, 23 library borrowed books, 6 e-books, and there are some professional books before the ** defense in March.
In addition, I also purchased some books, such as "Gu Cheng's Poems and Paintings", Simposka's "Everything is Silent as a Mystery", Xi Murong's "In the Name of Poetry", Fang Wenshan's "Azure and Other Smoke and Rain", "People", "Stories", "Scripts", "Dialogues", "Breathing Writing Lessons", "Chi Zijian's Prose Collection (5 volumes)" and a large box of poetry collections and bilingual** in Chinese and English.
These books will be flipped through from time to time, but they are not read in their entirety from beginning to end, perhaps because they are bought back and put on the shelves, and they always feel that they have a lot of time to read slowly, so they are not in a hurry.
Sometimes looking for books on the shelves, I often stand there and read for more than an hour, sit at the desk when I am tired, and find that I have read a book for half a day when I arrive at the meal, and I have not completed what I planned to do.
However, the time that passes in reading is not regrettable, but I feel extremely happy because I have absorbed the nutrients in the book.
Douban has made a summary of the book reviews I have written, which are basically newly published good books, and I have benefited a lot after reading them, and I can't help but want to share them with more people.
Now, I have selected 3 of my favorite books and share them with you.
The author of this book is J. J., Master of Communication, Stanford Universityp.Brian K., Editor-in-Chief of Tarcher PressWilliams, Stacy C., tutor at The Ohio State University, and manager of Brooks Cole Publishing in CaliforniaSawyer, Carl M., professor emeritus of American social psychologyWallström.
About love and marriage, firewood, rice, oil, salt and sex, single and single parents, first marriage and remarriage, work, crisis, social class. Regarding the nature of intimacy and its impact, the author provides an in-depth analysis from the perspective of psychology and sociology.
In complex social relationships, what misunderstandings we can have about intimate relationships, how to find the other half of life, and how to establish intimate relationships, the book gives scientific advice.
Throughout our lives, we are on the road to the pursuit of happiness, until the end of life, when looking back on the mental journey of a lifetime, the happy person closes his eyes peacefully, and the unhappy person regrets to pass away.
This book is like a guide to happiness that can guide you through the maze of your life and help you find the secret to happiness.
The author of this book, William B. Owen, is a Ph.D. from the University of California, Los Angeles, and a professor of philosophy at Wright State University in Ohio. In his opinion, when a person is having a good time, some techniques of Stoic philosophy can improve the quality of life; And when you're at a low ebb, Stoic philosophy can keep people calm to the greatest extent.
Among the many effective tips and advice, I have selected a very typical Stoic philosophical viewpoint to share with you, and I hope that those who read it will benefit from it.
This concept is the famous "dichotomy of control", that is: don't worry about things we can't decide, but things that we can control.
Marcus Aurelius (Roman Empire philosopher emperor) said: Anything meaningless is not worth doing.
Such counsel is still relevant today, both in the past and in the presentThe root cause of people's suffering is that their own abilities are too low and they have too many desires. Anxiety arises when a person is always craving what they can't get, and if it is not relieved in time, illness can come to the door.
Epictetudes believed that instead of changing one's surroundings to be satisfied, it was better to change one's desires so that one would not fall into the mood of disappointment because he did not get what he wanted. The slave-turned-philosopher proposed the "dichotomy of control": some things we can decide, and some things we can't. It's foolish to take the time to worry about things we can't decide, but things we can control because we have the power to make them happen or not happen.
One of my university professors said something similar, the professor was close to the sixtieth year, but he still maintained a good figure and a tall posture, and his heroic posture was so sassy that he could not tell his age at all. When asked by his classmates the secret to staying young, he said that he should have a good attitude, that is, to change what he can change and accept what he cannot change. The book also explains Stoic counsel about responsibility, social relationships, personal values, and how to react when insulted, and how to deal with grief and anger.
Stoic philosophy, known as the art of pleasure, is a philosophy of wisdom that teaches us how to face life's problems, and if you have time to read this book, you will definitely gain something.
Sometimes reading Shi Tiesheng is like entering a tunnel of time and space, a long, unpredictable tunnel, there is always a voice echoing in the ear, and it seems to be a whisper, or a wise man preaching, or a speculative self-talk.
All the voices come together and are arranged to form words, which is "Free Night Walking".
Shi Tiesheng, born in Beijing in January 1951, went to Yan'an at the age of 18 to join the team, returned to Beijing at the age of 21 due to paralysis of both legs, and died of a sudden cerebral hemorrhage at the age of 59.
After 40 years of illness, the pain of his body made him angry, sad, desperate, and self-abandoned, and finally, in loving and being loved, he chose to accept the injustice of fate and stand on the edge of death to ** the meaning and value of life.
Writing is the starting point for Shi Tiesheng's love for life, and it is also his best choice to face reality.
The original intention of writing was to provide food and clothing, in order to solve the primary problem of survival, and then the thinking and speculation on life and everything made Shi Tiesheng rich in spirit and success.
In a letter to a friend, he said: "What to write and how to write is more like fate, and has nothing to do with doctrines and genres. Once those borderless and chaotic voices that have long existed in your heart ask you to write them. It's all a foregone conclusion. ”
After forty years in a wheelchair, the physical pain can be imagined, and the only way is for the powerful invisible soul to overcome and transcend this tangible pain.
Luck and misfortune are not the judgment of the moment, not a single judgment, but the heart of a lifetime. Only by thinking outside the ordinary people, taking life as a reward, and still being grateful, can we create a lot of possibilities.
As Romain Rolland said, "After seeing the truth of life, I still love life." ”
In a wheelchair, Shi Tiesheng wrote his thoughts on life and death, his observation of people and things around him, his ** on sex and love, his speculation on body and mind, etc., breaking free from the pain of the body, seeing the world with the eyes of wisdom, and understanding real life with his heart and soul.
There are so many passages in Freedom of Night Walk that are worth reading and reading aloud over and over again, and those words make people cry and think deeply. Reading Shi Tiesheng also understands the meaning of life.
There are many good books, I believe everyone will read the books that make them feel deeply, and everyone is welcome to share the good books they have read in the comment area.