Love is to look up, is to appreciate, is you feel that the previous life accumulated great blessings so that you met such an excellent him in this life, he is precious to you, even beyond everything, you can only be with him when you can strongly feel each other's magnetic field after the burst of huge energy, this energy will make you radiant, destroy all difficulties and troubles, with the blessing of love, you feel that everything is worthwhile, everything is beautiful.
But that kind of short-term happiness only exists in the early stage of love, and the initial love only explores and experiences, and does not calm down and think, your mind will all focus on the good of the other person, and you will be obsessed with it until you fall into it. Truly loving someone is something that is barren and lacking in your heart, which just happens to exist in the other person. This feeling is like a broken mirror reunion, tightly making up for the huge shortcomings in your heart, for you, this kind of love is salvation, the other party in the cold and decaying world will salvage you, you will see this love as a life-saving straw, you hold on to it tightly, for fear of a mistake you fell into the abyss.
In fact, if you really love someone, you will not be happy most of the time, because you will pay special attention to the other person's attitude and feelings, and even you will doubt her loyalty out of thin air, even if the other person is a person of good character, you will still have such delusions. The only antidote to the problem is to get a response and equal love from the other person.
But love is a kind of empty feeling, not a commodity, you can't ask the other party to give you how many catties of love, equivalent to exchange love, this is a false proposition that is difficult to achieve. It is also difficult to make the other person develop according to the love route you expect from your psychology. Independent personality is the reason why you love her, and letting the other party be a marionette in love, following your emotions at your mercy, is itself an act that makes love lose its charm.
When you value love too much, even beyond your own life, what love can give back to you will be all cruelty and pain. Love is like flying a kite, if you want the kite to fly high, in addition to the kite string must be long enough, the size of the wind must also be appropriate. When the wind exceeds the carrying capacity of the line, the kite will break free from your shackles and leave you.
Therefore, a long-term and stable love is when both parties are equal in strength, and both physical and mental levels can take what they need, rather than unilaterally taking it, and this kind of love will dry up sooner or later. In your childhood, you suffered the original family injury, adult love can not help you, you treat love as a treasure and infinitely greedy to ask, can only push love farther and farther. The shadow of childhood takes a lifetime to go**, and love can't help you.
If you are experiencing love, because you are deeply trapped and unable to extricate yourself make you feel unhappy, then please let your love loosen, give the other person breathing and free space, the right distance can produce beauty, good feelings are like a healthy body, can make people radiant, happy and happy.