The family of origin, as the first school where the child grows up, has an environment and atmosphere that is crucial to the child's growth and development. A healthy and harmonious family environment can nourish children's growth; And a family full of problems can leave indelible scars on children.
I often hear people comment that the original family is terrible, why is it terrible? The reasons for this may be due to the following:
1. Domestic violence and abuse
The environment of the family of origin can have a profound impact on a person's psychological, emotional, and social development. If there is violence or abuse in the family, it can be extremely harmful to the child's physical and mental health. Children may feel fearful, helpless, and hopeless as a result, which can affect their mental health and personality development.
2. Lack of love and support
If parents or other guardians do not care for and support their children enough, children may feel lonely, helpless, and not understood. This lack of love can lead to a child's lack of self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth, which can affect their relationships and future development.
3. Family upbringing
Different parenting styles can have different effects on a child's personality, behavior, and values. For example, overprotective, overly interfering, or overly permissive can all cause problems in a child. An authoritarian parenting style may make a child depressed and emotional, while an indulgent parenting style may make a child lack self-discipline and responsibility.
4. Family economic status
A family's poor financial situation can have a negative impact on a child's education, life, and future development. For example, children from poor families may not be able to receive a good education, limiting their career options and development opportunities.
5. The influence of the role of family members
In the family, each member has their own role-plays that may affect the child's growth and development. If a family member's role-play is inappropriate or biased, it can cause the child to feel confused, helpless, and unable to adapt.
6. Family conflict and
Conflict and ** in the family of origin can have serious effects on a child's emotional stability and mental health. Long-term arguments, cold wars, or divorces can make children feel uneasy, anxious, or depressed, and even affect their academic and social skills.
7. Family expectations and pressures
Sometimes, a family's expectations of a child that are too high or too low can have a negative impact on a child's development. Expecting too much can cause your child to feel overstressed, anxious or frustrated; Low expectations may lead to a lack of motivation and goals, affecting their self-development and achievement.
8. Lack of education and guidance
If parents or other guardians lack the necessary education and guidance in their child's upbringing, the child may lack the right values, morals, and outlook on life. This can lead to children not being able to make the right decisions when they face challenges and difficulties as they grow up.
9. Domestic violence and apathy
In addition to outright violence, indifference and neglect in the family can also have a detrimental effect on a child's development. Children may feel neglected, unvalued, or not understood, leading to a lack of self-confidence, self-esteem, and a sense of self-worth.
10. Mental health problems
If a parent or caregiver in the family of origin suffers from mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, substance abuse issues, etc., they may not be able to provide a stable and healthy home environment. This environment can have a negative impact on a child's mental health and increase their risk of developing similar mental health issues in adulthood.
In summary, adverse factors in the family of origin can have a profound impact on a child's growth and development, including physical and mental health, emotional stability, academic achievement, and social skills. Therefore, we should pay attention to the influence of the family of origin and strive to create a healthy, harmonious and supportive family environment to provide good conditions for the all-round growth and development of children. At the same time, we should give enough care and support to children who have been adversely affected to help them get out of their predicament and achieve self-growth and development. February** Dynamic Incentive Program