Chatting with a good friend two days ago. Talk about work, family, children. She also wants to create a great environment for her children. And I took a sentence that I later thought made sense: I think that when I am with anyone, I must be myself first, and then others, and the parent-child relationship is the same. It's not selfishness, it's that only when we are healthy and happy can our children feel that we are doing well, and that they can be doing well. If I don't have a good life myself, then my love for my children is not powerful. Sometimes, love without power is bound to hurt. Healthy and confident parents are the best homeschooling.
In today's society, all kinds of pressures are endless, such as unpaid mortgages, unfinished milk powder, unfinished classes, and aging self, all of which are constantly under pressure, so we are destined to need more strength and wisdom than before. If we don't have enough mental energy to take on this, these pressures can turn into emotions attacking us. When we are all unhealthy, we will definitely pass on these bad emotions to our children. Because the child has no ability to resist, he can only accept and is willing to accept, and his acceptance is also out of love for his parents. So as a parent, mental energy is really important. That day, I heard Dong Yuhui say something very reasonable: "Psychological strength can be inherited." Really, we are the ceiling of the child, and if our ceiling is there, it will be difficult for the child to surpass us.
A while ago, I always watched a very good teacher's **, mainly children with depression in middle and high school or parents looking for him to help solve it. After listening to a lot of cases, I concluded that in fact, the root of depression is those few articles, just to see if parents can understand and do it:
One, let the child be a child. Don't interfere too much with your child's mind, body, mind, and communication. Let him grow according to his own rules.
Two: Let parents become high-energy themselves. Parents live their own lives, work hard, live well, study hard, and work out. When our parents become relaxed and confident parents, our contagiousness will invisibly affect the children, and the children will come out of the haze of depression faster.
Three: Accept the child completely. If the child is depressed, negative, withdrawn, playful, day and night upside down. These seemingly unhealthy lives, our parents should not be anxious, do not interfere, and should fully accept them. Even parents should set a rule for themselves in their hearts: "My child will never achieve anything in the future, and we can accept it". When the child feels that his parents are fully accepting of him and can fully grasp his emotions, he can accelerate his health.
Hotspot Engine Plan Although the above items seem simple, they actually require our sufficient energy to support. So we don't keep staring at our children, you know, whether we stare at them or not, they will all grow up. First of all, do a good job of yourself, adjust yourself into a healthy and confident personality, study, read, work, and fitness. Just be a good role model for your children.