Text: Cai Leilei
It has been said that money solves 99% of your worries. 99% is not that exaggerated, but it is true that money can make a lot of troubles not exist, so this first word, it is".Poor
Everything in this world needs to be exchanged for money, and even what many people say about "lying flat" actually has to maintain life. After removing the financial freedom of a very small number of people, most people at least have a basic job, even if they fish, there is a risk of being discovered and fired by the boss, so is it really that flat? Not necessarily, they will tremble, and they will pretend to be involved, and they will still be involved in the rights and wrongs of the red dust.
As long as you can't get what you want, people will have troubles, and "wanting" is people's first instinct for better things, which cannot be eliminated, and only the ensuing "convincing yourself not to want" is a rational trade-off. In other words, if a rich person doesn't want something, it is likely that he really doesn't want it, it is a true expression, and his heart is very self-consistent; And the poor don't want a thing, it may be a trade-off, or it may be that the conditions are not met, in short, they need to consume energy every time, and they often struggle with internal friction in their hearts.
This is the ** of troubles, no matter how much you don't like money, you can't deny that if you give him enough money, a lot of quarrels can be avoided, a lot of fun can be obtained, and many things don't have to be trade-offs. That's why I said before that before young people earn their first 1 million, the first thing they can only do is make money, because under this accumulation level, there are troubles everywhere - not that there are no worries above this level, but under this value, every little increase in wealth will have a more obvious effect on the reduction of troubles, and its long-term marginal returns are greater than anything else you pursue.
The second source of trouble, which is easily overlooked by most people, is ".Idle
Many people want to be financially free, but they actually want to be "idle", which is very wrong, they jump from one source of trouble to another. Financial freedom is a means to cut your worries, but if you don't use it, you'll be blind. Financial freedom is used to do what you like, that is, you are still busy, but you have a clear goal, enjoy the process, have great social value, and be busy and happy, not idle.
As long as a person is idle, he must be a "person of right and wrong" and must be disgusted. Some housewives like to wipe the house over and over again, why? IdleBecause they are idle, they have to continue to produce in some things whose marginal value is actually extremely low after they can't find something of greater value to do. Some people may also exaggerate the harm of dirty mess to enhance their subjective labor value, but in fact, most of these are pseudo needs, for example, I asked my mother, I said that you always say that the house must be cleaned once a day, otherwise you can't live in it, so did you have it when you were very busy at work before? She said no. And she apparently lived there at the time, but it wasn't that important then.
I didn't say that housewives' work is worthless, I have said many times that their value depends on the buyer's ability and willingness to pay, it has no market value to measure, so it does not apply to the unified market standard, and the value is the buyer's final say. I'm just using this as an exampleWhen a person is idle, he may become sensitive, suspicious, suffer from gains and losses, and lack a sense of social value, so he will like to do some meaningless things and produce meaningless emotions. But people all need recognition, so there will be some meaningless needs, such as seeking emotional recognition and value recognition in some particularly small things, and repeatedly breaking and kneading some small things, which are typical manifestations of "because there is no big thing to take care of, so small things become big things".
Does it cause annoyance? Of course, its troubles are no less than poor, and those things that people care about in their leisure time do not exist when they are busy enough, but in order to rationalize their behavior, they will ** themselves These things are "very necessary". So it's very difficult to get along with idlers, because what they care about may not be what you care about, and because they have a lot of worthless time, they can keep tugging with you, just like the old man can pull for 10 minutes for a few dollars in the vegetable market, but do you say that these few dollars are important to the elderly? He may have 2 million deposits in his bank card, and he just doesn't have time to make moneySo in essence, everyone's value scale is different, so the granularity of troubles is different.
The so-called granularity is also very easy to understand, and today there is a friend in the 4 group of the crypto money club who said, why has Bitcoin risen so much? I said if you were going to ask that, you could have asked how it had fallen so much a few weeks ago, but if you're a guy who was in jail a month ago and has just been released, you wouldn't ask any fart questions because it hasn't changed. So the granularity of the annoyance is how wide range of things you are looking at, you are free, you just find a glass of water to stare, it is full of bubbles, all troubles, you can take a tube, bubbles to poke it; You're busy, and you drink it all in one gulp, and you don't feel any troublesBecause you take a glass of water as the smallest unit, you don't have time to look at the structure of the water, so the trouble of bubbles naturally does not exist.
Here's Jobs' desk:
Does he need someone to clean up for him? There is no need at all, so the matter of "helping him clean up" is of zero or even negative value to him, because it will cause him to find something.
But what if a person is too idle? For example, when we went to the office of the ** leader, it was neat and tidy, and we went to see the folded quilts in the troops, like tofu blocks. Why? It's too idle, and people always have to find something to do, so even whether things are stacked or not, and what they are folded into, is enough to become something worth caring about, and forcibly find some meaning.
Why do people always have sentimental emotions at night? In essence, it is idle, and the things that you don't need to care about become the top priority.
Therefore, for life, poverty is one poison, and idleness is another. If a person is poor and idle, then basically this person is difficult to get along with, and it is very easy to overdemand others and morally kidnap, you wait and see if this is the case around you. In essence, this person is poisoned and urgently needs other people to spend their time and energy to help him detoxify, so if you get close to him, you are actually being consumed by him all the time, giving him blood transfusions to continue his life.
So two suggestions:
1.Stay away from such people;
2.Stay away from yourself like this. ENDS).
I'm Cai Leilei, thank you for reading.
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