Return gifts, sister-in-law is displeased.
The most exciting part of the Chinese New Year is the children, which is especially vivid in my childhood memories. Whenever the winter break approaches, I already start looking forward to the New Year, because there will be a lot of food and drinks at home, and I can also wear new clothes and shoes.
In addition, the children can also receive a lot of New Year's money, which is something that makes every child cheer. Compared to children looking forward to the New Year day and night, adults may not be so relaxed.
So why is there such a big difference between the two?
During the Chinese New Year, relatives at home bring their children to visit the family, but you don't have children yet. Although you have to pay for the children of relatives, it also makes your small salary very small.
In the past, the New Year's money only needed a few or dozens of yuan, but now with the improvement of living standards, the amount of New Year's money has also risen to a few hundred yuan. If you have many relatives and many children, it is really a big burden.
What's even more troublesome is that there are a lot of people in the New Year's money, and if you don't handle it properly, you may offend others without knowing it.
I have a friend who also caused a lot of trouble because of the red envelope issue. After receiving a red envelope from her sister-in-law to her child, she returned the gift of 400 yuan, but she did not expect to be blamed by others and dissatisfied with the family.
My sister-in-law's family came to her house during the Spring Festival to pay New Year's greetings, and she gave her warm hospitality, and the two families ate and chatted happily together. When the sister-in-law finished eating, she gave the children a red envelope of 200 yuan each, and the children happily accepted it and opened it to see how much.
When her best friend gave a red envelope in the New Year, she chose to give her sister-in-law's family a big red envelope. She believes that red envelopes are not only good luck, but also need to pay attention to courtesy, and it is fair to put 400 yuan in a red envelope.
The girlfriend was very satisfied with her approach, but the mother-in-law felt that this figure was unlucky and suggested giving 288 or 300 yuan. The husband told his mother-in-law's words to his best friend, and the best friend felt very aggrieved, but she still insisted that her approach was a courtesy exchange and did not think about taking advantage.
But she didn't expect that this behavior offended the family.
In the hometown of best friends, the custom of pressing New Year's money is different from that of her husband's family, as long as you avoid the number with "4" in the mantissa and too many "4" in the red envelope. Although girlfriends are not married far away, there is still a certain distance between their hometown and their parents' family.
This bothered her best friend a little. So, when the situation of the children on both sides is not equal, how should the gift be reciprocated? New Year's money should be the blessings and expectations of the elders to the younger generations, and the important thing is the heart and lively atmosphere, not the size of the number.
Each region has its own unique customs and habits, so the distribution of New Year's money is also a technical job.
For families with an unequal number of children, how should parents respond when giving out red envelopes? First of all, you can refer to the local customs. The customs vary from place to place, and when you are a child, you only need to accept the New Year's money, and the elders will consider how much to give.
However, after becoming a parent, how much money to send and how to send it has become the primary consideration of parents. It is very important to learn to deal with human feelings. If you are not familiar with local customs, it is best to consult with your elders to avoid unnecessary embarrassment.
Understanding and following local customs is the key to giving out red envelopes.
When the disparity in the amount of red envelopes bothers you, you may wish to ask your elders for advice. The amount of the red envelope is not important, the key is that the difference in the amount given by both parties is not too large. In addition, the parent with only one child in the family may encounter some difficulties when greeting the New Year.
For example, some relatives will give their children a large red envelope, and you need to return the gift. If this happens frequently, it can affect your financial situation. In this case, you can first ask your relatives about the amount of red envelopes and then make a decision based on your financial situation.
This avoids some unnecessary financial stress.
It's not easy for everyone to make money, don't put financial pressure on yourself because of the New Year's money. No one wants that to happen. In this case, it is okay to give a little less New Year's money, just a symbolic expression of blessings.
New Year's money is originally an auspicious behavior, and there should be no comparison.
Chinese New Year is not only a day for family reunions, but also a good time for moving around and connecting with relatives and friends. Although some people have suggested that the New Year's money be abolished, it is actually just a way to express blessings and family affection.
If the elders really don't want to give too much money, they can also choose to give a small amount of red envelopes, and the children will also be happy, and at the same time, it will not put financial pressure on the elders. So, do the elders know how to distribute the New Year's money?