In ancient times, men were dominant, and women were often seen as subordinate. In the marriage system, men are basically unfettered, while women need to follow many rules such as "three obedience and four virtues".
In ancient times, when men chose a marriage partner, there was an important criterion, that is, "I would rather die poor than have a wife". A biological wife is a woman who is married but her husband dies or runs away from home.
Li Ling, the grandson of Li Guang, a famous patriotic hero in the Western Han Dynasty, was forced to surrender in a battle against the Xiongnu due to lack of rescue. However, Emperor Wu suspected that he had surrendered to the Xiongnu on his own initiative, so he forced his family to explain why.
Later, Emperor Wu found out that he had wronged Li Ling, so he sent someone to try to persuade him to come back. However, Li Ling replied: "The old mother is dead, and the wife is gone." He explained that his mother had died, his young wife had remarried, and he had no home to return to.
Therefore, he decided to stay in the Xiongnu.
In the ancient institution of marriage, the man had greater decision-making power, especially with regard to the dissolution of marriage. For those who do not meet"Seven out and three not in"The woman who asks for it, the man can choose to divorce his wife, so that the woman is no longer the man's wife, that is, she becomes a "biological wife".
The term "wife" here mainly refers to a woman whose husband has not died, but has left her husband, and this situation is generally achieved by repudiating the wife. Therefore, an important reason for the emergence of "wifebearing" is the ancient marriage system and the requirements for women.
In ancient times, people put all the burden of inheritance on women, and if they could not have children, they were regarded as useless, or even abandoned by their husbands. Such a phenomenon is no longer conceived in modern society, but we should still recognize that women should be treated equally and respected, regardless of the era.
May all women have the right to choose their own lives without having to suffer unfair treatment because of reproductive issues.
In ancient times, a woman's code of conduct was very strict, and loyalty to her husband's family was seen as the most important quality. They are not allowed to go out at will, they are not allowed to have personal contact with men other than their husbands, and they are not allowed to behave in a way that damages the reputation of their husbands.
Once a woman's behavior is deemed inappropriate, the husband's family will take her off in order to maintain her dignity so as not to be blamed and laughed at by the neighbors. Therefore, the norms of behavior of women in ancient societies were very strict.
In ancient times, behaviors that were considered ** may have been very common among modern people, such as having a lively personality, not liking to be restricted, and liking to go out and play secretly. Talking to a strange man may have been considered taboo in ancient times, but in modern times it may seem like just making friends or having a simple conversation.
However, in ancient times, marrying such a lively, uninhibited woman was seen as a cuckold and would be looked down upon. In ancient times, disobedience to in-laws may refer to an aunt who is not in charge.
In traditional Chinese ethics, filial piety occupies an important position. When a wife marries into her husband's family, she becomes a member of her husband's family, so according to the ancient etiquette system, filial piety to her in-laws is a must.
Such behavior not only contributes to the harmony of family relationships, but also reflects the quality of family education. In ancient times, although there were a very small number of evil women, but in most cases, the husband's family made things difficult for the woman, in addition to taking care of the mother-in-law's daily life, it was also necessary to fight back and scold.
In ancient times, when husbands had the idea of divorce from their wives, they might use this as an excuse to accuse their wives of being unfilial, so as to achieve the goal of divorce. As a result, women who are divorced by their husbands are often blamed for being perceived as rude or for having shady secrets.
Some women have even been dismissed for inappropriate speech. Inappropriate speech here refers to three situations, one is to provoke right and wrong and destroy family harmony, which was strictly forbidden in ancient times.
Ancient society attached great importance to etiquette, especially women must know how to etiquette, otherwise it will hurt the reputation of the husband's family. At the same time, women had a low status in feudal society and were not allowed to have their own ideas"A woman's lack of talent is virtue"It's just an excuse for a patriarchal society, and they are afraid that women have their own ideas that will subvert the patriarchal position.
Therefore, men do not dare to marry women who do not understand etiquette or have their own ideas. As for the daughter-in-law of the family stealing from the outside world, it may be because she is forced to be helpless, but this situation is not common.
Both situations make people feel sad, one is that the family is poor, and the wife has no choice but to steal in order to subsidize the family, but if it is not discovered, the husband's family may ignore this situation; But if it is discovered, the husband's family may directly file for divorce and dissociate the relationship.
There is also a situation where the in-laws suspect that the wife has embezzled the financial subsidies of the husband's family, and once they find out, they will also be driven back to their parents' house by the husband's family. Scientific studies have shown that women's jealousy is related to physical characteristics, especially during the menstrual period, when hormone levels rise, which can lead to suspiciousness and jealousy.
But why was it that in ancient times, women's jealousy was also blamed or even divorced by their husbands? What are the deep social problems behind this?
1.Jealous women may face a variety of problems: they are prone to being suspicious of their partners, which can ruin the relationship between husband and wife; The resistance to foreign ** is weak, and it may deviate from the norm; Worse still, in ancient times, they may not have been able to cope with the demands of order within the family and were dismissed by their husbands.
2.Historically, jealous women may face multiple challenges: they may be suspicious, leading to strained partnerships; It is easy to be attracted by outsiders, and may even derail; For ancient families, they had to be generous and decent, otherwise they might not be able to maintain family harmony or even be abandoned by their husbands.
3.Jealous women may face a variety of dilemmas: they are prone to distrust of their partners, which affects the relationship between husband and wife; They may not be able to defend themselves against outsiders and have cheating; In ancient times, they could also be dismissed by their husbands because they could not maintain internal order in the family.
4.In ancient times, jealous women could face many challenges: they could become suspicious of their partner and ruin the relationship; They may not be able to resist outsiders and may cheat; In addition, they also need to have the quality of generosity and decency in order to successfully run the extended family, otherwise they may be abandoned by their husbands.
5.Jealous women may experience a number of problems: they may be suspicious of their partner, leading to tension in the couple's relationship; It is easy to be attracted by outsiders, and may even derail; For ancient families, they had to be generous and decent, otherwise they might not be able to maintain family harmony or even be abandoned by their husbands.
In feudal society, when a wife is seriously ill, the husband's family has the right to drive her out of the house, which is undoubtedly a tragedy of the ancient concept of marriage. In this patriarchal view of marriage, women are in a subordinate position, unable to pursue freedom or control their own destiny.
They struggled with the rules of marriage that could not express their wishes, and the feudal concept was deeply imprinted in the marriage concept of the ancients. ”
Despite the existence of mutual respect and support between husband and wife, the ancient"Seven out and three not in"Ideas are deeply ingrained in society. The attitude towards marrying a wife, the concept of marriage in the feudal era and the male-dominated social power are the main reasons for the phenomenon of "preferring to die poor rather than have a wife".
In men, however, such rules are almost non-existent, and these so-called "rituals" are actually invisible bindings on ancient women, making them the perfect wives in the eyes of men.
With the progress of the times, people's understanding of marriage has become more profound, and the law has become more and more perfect. Nowadays, the relationship between husband and wife no longer needs to be bound by feudal yokes, and women have gained real freedom in the process.