Visiting the long-lived elderly, he found that longevity is meaningless
Longevity is precious, but I have found that if you live just for the sake of living, it may not be so good for people to live too long.
went to pay New Year's greetings to the 98-year-old birthday star in the family, he nested in a room of a few square meters, and the family was afraid that he would wrestle and almost did not let him out of the room. He stayed in the dark room every day, like an old monk in meditation, when eating, the family brought the food to the room, he trembled and slowly sent it to his mouth, but most of it fell on the bib, and the people who served him were like training children, cleaning up and scolding him, but he didn't seem to hear, and his expression was blank.
Seeing him confined to this few square meters of space, without the freedom to live, I felt a sense of sadness. I tried to chat with him, but his response was just a cold uh-ha.
He used to be a very talkative and cheerful person, who liked to chat with us juniors, frolic and take us fishing to play, but now, he is trapped in this small room, living a lifeless life, without any interest in life, as if just waiting for the last time to come.
I visited my 82-year-old third uncle again. He lost his third aunt, who died three years ago, while his two cousins worked outside the home. The third uncle used to be the manager of the supply and marketing cooperative, and after retirement, he had a pension of more than 50,000 yuan a year, but he lived in his hometown village, and he couldn't use up his expenses alone.
The third uncle's two sons and daughters had considered sending him to a nursing home, but he was adamantly opposed, and two years ago a stepwife who was a dozen years younger than him to take care of his daily life.
However, because of diabetes, the third uncle has been blind since last year, and he needs someone to accompany him all the time. When I went to visit the third uncle, his stepwife was taking care of him to drink water, but because he didn't take a sip of water, he spilled it all over the ground.
The old lady picked up a rag and wiped his mouth and neck vigorously, and kept scolding him. The former third uncle can only keep his head down now and dare not say a word.
Looking at the grief-stricken old lady in front of me, my heart was like a knife. She tirelessly told her helplessness and grief, saying that she should not have followed the third uncle in the first place, but now she has fallen into a situation from which she cannot extricate herself.
originally thought that the third uncle had a pension and could enjoy Qingfu, but it turned out that he was not as good as a nanny, and he had to take care of the third uncle's life every day like an old mother.
And the two children of the third uncle, since they had her, have become the hands of the treasurer, and they are not even willing to come back for the New Year, and the third uncle can only cry silently on Chinese New Year's Eve because he can't fight out.
I browsed my cousin's circle of friends and saw that he went out to travel with his daughter and son-in-law during the Chinese New Year, and his elderly cousin gave birth to a second child last year, and there was no one to help take care of him when he came back, and he had to cook and eat by himself, and he probably won't come back.
This situation made my heart ache even more, and I understood how difficult the old lady's situation was now. However, no matter what, we must not give up on helping and caring for her, because in this world, everyone should be respected and cared for.
On that day, I chatted with my third uncle for a long time in his smoke-filled room. We talked about the funny stories of me and my younger siblings when we were young, about the first braised pork I ate that my third uncle cooked for me, and about our respective achievements today.
A smile gradually appeared on the third uncle's face, and he began to join us in the conversation, and the laughter became more cheerful, and the whole person seemed more energetic. I sat with the third uncle for an afternoon, and when I left, the third uncle held my hand tightly, looking very reluctant, repeatedly telling me to come again, and even asked the old lady to bring me two boxes of gifts as if to please.
When I ran out of the door and looked back, I saw tears flashing in the third uncle's eyes. On the way home, I wondered, what is the meaning of longevity like the old grandfather and the third uncle?
If a person's longevity simply means the existence of the body, and loses the quality and meaning of life, is such longevity really worth pursuing?
Although I understand the difficulties of the grandfather's children in taking care of their elderly parents, I can't help but feel distressed when I see their exhaustion and helplessness. I hope they can give themselves some time to experience the beauty of life and the wonders of nature.
Don't get caught up in the pressures of life and lose sight of the value of life. As their offspring, I will also try to take care of my parents so that they can live happily and healthily in their old age.
Let's pursue the quality of life together, not just the length of life.
Life is short, we should cherish every moment, let our lives be full of value and joy, and share good times with those around us. Blindly pursuing longevity while ignoring the quality and meaning of life is the real waste.
Because, human life is not about the length of time, but whether it is wonderful or not.