Xu Xian, whose name is Chinese, comes from a family in Qiantang. The family has been in business for generations, pays attention to integrity and morality, and makes a living by selling medicinal herbs. However, Xu Xian's parents died early, and he could only grow up alone. During the Qingming Festival, he came to the grave of his parents to worship, but he didn't want to encounter the stormy weather on the way home from swimming in the West Lake, so he met the woman who made his heart move. He didn't know the woman's name or identity, but it felt like a fateful encounter.
The memories of 18 years ago are still clear, and the finale of that classic TV series is very moving. Xu Shilin rescued his mother Bai Suzhen under the Leifeng Pagoda and married his cousin Li Bilian. Xu Xian, Bai Suzhen and Xiaoqing were all able to soar to immortals, and everything was so complete. However, looking back on this drama again 18 years later, it made people see the twisted marriage of Li Bilian, a kind woman.
Xu Shilin is deeply in love with Hu Meiniang, a jade rabbit essence, and their love goes against the way of heaven. And Hu Meiniang's death made Xu Shilin miserable. However, he did not choose not to marry for life, but complied with the marriage contract with Li Bilian. Their marriage seems to be just a formality, and the husband and wife look at each other and smile at each other, as if all the past has been blown away by the wind.
However, in this marriage, Li Bilian seems to be just a victim. She didn't know that Xu Shilin had never been moved by her, but only married her out of gratitude to her aunt and uncle. She never turned down the marriage, but silently endured everything. She knew she should love this man because she knew it was her duty and morality.
I have to say that Li Bilian is a good girl. Even if Xu Shilin didn't have her in her heart, she didn't refuse this marriage. She thought she should love that man, even though she had never developed feelings for him. Her love is deep and amorous, but more of a bondage of responsibility and morality. If Xu Shilin's life story had not been revealed, and if their marriage contract had not been announced to the public, perhaps Li Bilian would have felt that Baoshan was her destination.
Some people may think that marrying a champion is a great blessing in life, why be so hypocritical? However, one of the scariest things about marriage is that the person you marry has someone else in mind. Even if Hu Meiniang has passed away, it does not mean that Xu Shilin can accept Li Bilian as his wife. For Li Bilian, this is a seemingly perfect marriage but full of helplessness and pain.
In life, we are faced with many choices and decisions, and sometimes we cannot foresee their consequences. Marriage is important for everyone, but not all marriages can be happy and fulfilling. Sometimes what we need is not only material abundance and superficial perfection, but also spiritual harmony and sincere feelings.
In Li Bilian's story, we see the persistence and helplessness of a kind woman, and it also makes us think about what true happiness and satisfaction are. Li Bilian and Xu Shilin have never had love between men and women, but under the weight of responsibility, she has to pay deep affection. But such a marriage lacks a happy love, as if it has lost its soul. When faced with two terrible factors, will people still think that marrying a champion is a blessing? How can material life compare to willing love?
Li Bilian, a virtuous and sensible girl, she understands everything and understands everything. She will not affect the interests of the Xu and Li families because of her selfish desires. Xu Shilin is a literary and opera star, he shoulders heavy responsibilities and has gone through ups and downs. He gained fame, saved his mother, and married Li Bilian, all of which were to repay his kindness and filial piety. However, Li Bilian's dedication is for this kindness and the overall situation of the two families.
There is nothing more painful in life than a loved one not loving you. Li Bilian endured this pain, and although Baoshan showed her love many times, she couldn't be moved. The worldly marriage contract and the constraints of reality prevent her from pursuing her own happiness. She knows the cause and effect of everything, accepts it calmly and faces it bravely. This makes people feel distressed and sighs at her wisdom.
When she learned all the causes and effects of her marriage, Li Bilian unreservedly paid for the future and life of the two families and Xu Shilin. She doesn't ask for thanks, gratitude, or approval from anyone. Assuming that Hu Meiniang is not dead, the unrecognized love will eventually have no result because of Xu Shilin and Li Bilian's marriage contract, then Li Bilian will become a "spare tire". How sad is this? In any case, she cannot be the only woman in Xu Shilin's heart, because Hu Meiniang's love for Xu Shilin is life and death and extremely romantic, which Li Bilian can never replace.
Since knowing Xu Shilin's true identity and marriage contract with herself, Li Bilian has lost herself. Her dedication is confused, and her marriage is confused. Everything is so clear and so helpless. No one asked her how she felt inside, and no one thought about her thoughts. In the eyes of his parents, Xu Shilin is the best match, but in Xu Shilin's opinion, he just kept his promise to marry her. Uncle,
My aunt's belief in intimacy and mutual assistance seems to have become the creed of this woman who has given everything for the family. However, how many people understand that this woman skipped the romance of youth and went directly into the blandness of life, how much helplessness and bitterness are hidden behind it? Despite her title of Lady Champion, in the realm of love and marriage, do fame and material things really mean everything?
The combination of Xu Shilin and Li Bilian seems to be happy, but there is much reality and helplessness in it. Their marriage is more like a fulfillment, a kind of consummation, and there is more respect for each other than affectionate love. There is a saying in life: "If you love, please love deeply, and if you don't love, don't hurt." But what I want to say is: "If you love, please love deeply, if you don't love, don't make do." ”
Although Xu Shilin has the aura of a champion, he may not be as good as Baoshan in terms of giving happiness. At least, Baoshan can give Bilian that complete love, and Bilian can also maintain herself in love and respond to true feelings. No matter how good a man is, if he doesn't have you in his heart, it has nothing to do with you. No matter how virtuous and sensible a woman is, if she is not the person in a man's heart, it is just a sad existence.
The perfection in the eyes of everyone is the unspeakable sorrow in Bilian's heart. The good name of Mrs. Zhuang Yuanlang is a bitter pill with a sweet cloak for her. Not eating is a dilemma between morality and marriage; If you eat it, you will bear the wordless misery alone. For Bilian, whether her marriage is a fire pit or a happy nest is all up to her.
Destiny is in your own hands, and the choice is yours. If you love, go all out; If you don't love, don't force it. I would like to warn all those who are choosing marriage to listen to their hearts. Suggestions from others can be relied upon, but your own ideas are just as important. Just like Bilian, from beginning to end, none of those cultivators, Zen people, and kind people really cared about her feelings.
There is only one life, and a good marriage can bring happiness for the rest of your life, while a wrong union can be an ordeal. One day you will understand that people who have wronged themselves too much and lost themselves will always be able to experience the pain or pain they endure. Because no one will really empathize with you.