Allowing children to showcase their talents at family gatherings can be seen as an encouragement and recognition that helps to build a child's self-confidence and stimulate their enthusiasm for learning and expression. But if this display becomes forced or over-expected, it can cause stress and anxiety for the child, or even backfire.
Parents and educators need to understand their child's personality and preferences. Some children like to show themselves, and some prefer to keep a low profile. Therefore, listen to your children and respect their choices. Family gatherings should be used to promote family and friendship, not to be an occasion for children to compete and compare.
Allowing children to perform their talents at family gatherings should be a voluntary act, not a requirement imposed on them. The original intention of allowing children to show their talents in family gatherings is to create a positive and inclusive family atmosphere, so that children can grow up in an equal and warm environment. Positive guidance can be done in the following ways:
The first is to respect the child's wishes. Parents should first ask their child if they would like to perform. If the child resists, their choice should be respected and other ways to involve them in family activities should be offered.
The second is to consider the child's personality. For introverted or shy children, parents can consider small, less formal performances or create a relaxed environment where the child feels comfortable. Parents should also be confident and positive role models. Let children learn how to face difficulties and setbacks and stay confident and optimistic.
The third is to avoid excessive expectations. Parents and elders should set reasonable expectations and not put too much pressure on their children. Even if the performance is not satisfactory, the child should be encouraged and supported. Attend family gatherings to help children learn to look at their own shortcomings positively, encourage them to face challenges, and believe that their abilities can be improved through hard work and learning.
Fourth, it is necessary to provide a variety of choices. Parents can organize a variety of games and activities for their children to find their own ways to participate, such as drawing, writing, sports, recitation, crafts, etc., and parents can encourage their children to show their strengths and gain success and confidence in their own areas of expertise.
Author: Ren Ruimeng **China News" newspaper "Education Weekly" February 7, 2024 edition).