Hey old friends, listen to me, as our hairline recedes more and more, so does our wisdom. Today, I want to take you to listen to three "senior" experts share their personal experiences, about the four types of busyness in old life, even if you are idle and grow grass, you can't just meddle, otherwise you may ask for trouble!
In the society we live in, we will always encounter all kinds of people and things. Some people are helpful, while others have suffered the loss of helping. Among the people I know, there are three uncles, who were ignorant when they were young, and they used to help people and suffer losses. However, with the precipitation of the years, they have summed up a truth: some are too busy to help.
These three masters are ordinary people living at the bottom of society. When they were young, some were strong, some were enthusiastic, and some were kind. They used to selflessly help others and wanted to be recognized and respected by others. However, they gradually discover that not all busyness will be rewarded, and even some busyness will bring endless trouble to themselves.
The first is Uncle Hong, who is 68 years old this year. He once helped a relative move. That relative had a lot of heavy furniture and items in his house, and the uncle carried all the burdens alone. However, during the handling process, the uncle accidentally broke a valuable porcelain. The relative not only did not understand the uncle's hard work, but blamed him for being careless and asked him to compensate for the loss. The uncle was speechless, and he was extremely aggrieved.
The second Uncle Liu is 71 years old this year. He once helped a friend borrow money. The friend said that his mother was sick and needed money**. The uncle was soft-hearted, so he lent him his savings. However, that friend was a **, and disappeared after taking the money. The uncle lost his savings because of this, and his life was in trouble.
The third Uncle Zhao is 75 years old this year. He once helped a neighbor repair his house. The neighbor was a lonely old man with no one to take care of him. The uncle kindly helped and used his pension to buy repair materials. However, after the renovation was completed, the neighbor said that the uncle had stolen his money and bought inferior materials. The uncle had a hard time arguing, and his heart was very painful.
After these things, the three masters summed up a truth: they are a little busy and can't help. They believe that there are four kinds of favors that cannot be helped:
First, money can't help. Lending money to others can put yourself in financial trouble; Helping others invest can be a huge risk. When it comes to borrowing money, you have to hold on to your purse strings. Don't think that lending money to friends is to send charcoal in the snow, and if you don't make it turn into "sending snow in the charcoal", you will shiver from the cold!
Second, you should think twice before you act. Don't be the "back-to-back man" easily, otherwise other people's pots will not be carried and your own will be smashed first. In addition, a favor involving legal liability cannot be helped. Helping others to confess and commit perjury may expose you to legal responsibility.
Third, you have to stand far away from family conflicts. Other people's housework is like a mess, don't make trouble to be that "messy decryptor", and you may end up getting yourself into it.
Fourth, you have to take it easy when making big decisions for others. Everyone's life is a unique drama, don't think you are a "life director", blind command may lead other people's lives into a tragedy.
In old age, there is a lot of fun, don't look for excitement in these "busy". Remember, keep your distance, protect yourself, and smile at life, this is our way to survive in old age!