As the saying goes: "There are only men who can't marry daughters-in-law, and there are no daughters who can't marry." ”
This is not entirely true, as every place has its own unique situation and cannot be generalized.
But if you put this sentence in a rural area, it is simply true.
"Leftover men in the countryside began to marry second-married women".This hot search came unexpectedly, seemingly unexpected, but it was reasonable.
In order to have a family of their own, and in order to complete the inheritance of the family that has been passed down for thousands of years, the leftover men in the countryside have to choose those second-married women who have experienced wind and rain.
This is a microcosm of an era and a portrayal of a society.
The emergence of leftover men is not accidental, but is based on various factors such as the imbalance of gender structure, the intensification of rural population mobility, the high burden of bride price, the pressure of buying a house and a car, and the change of marriage and love concepts.
1. The ratio of men and women is out of balance
In rural areas, traditional attitudes are still deeply entrenched, and men generally believe that marrying a wife and having children is an important part of life.
However, with the advancement of women and the acceleration of urbanization, more and more women choose to go out to work or study, resulting in a decrease in the number of rural women.
The current situation of a serious imbalance in the ratio of men and women in rural areas has undoubtedly exacerbated the phenomenon of surplus men.
2. Economic constraints
Because there are more men than women, the price of marrying a daughter-in-law in the countryside is not low, in addition to the bride price, three gold, matchmaker money, and banquet fees are not small expenses.
For men from ordinary families, they simply cannot afford the financial pressure of getting married.
Because of the imbalance in the sex ratio, rural men are more competitive in the face of marriage and love, which makes some men with poor conditions at a disadvantage in the marriage market and find it difficult to find suitable partners.
Third, the level of education is insufficient
The lack of educational resources in rural areas deprives many men of the opportunity to receive a good education, and the lack of vocational skills also makes it difficult for them to find employment and start a business.
This situation not only restricts their personal development, but also exacerbates the phenomenon of surplus men in rural areas to a certain extent.
The lack of education has become a stumbling block to a better life, and it is also a problem for them to integrate into society and find a suitable partner.
The choice of second-married women by leftover men in rural areas involves a variety of complex social and cultural factors.
On the one hand, marriage options are limited.
Due to the imbalance in the gender ratio in rural areas and the influence of traditional attitudes, many men find it difficult to find suitable partners at marriageable age.
In this case, the second-married woman became a marriage option for them.
Although this choice may face family and social pressures, it is undoubtedly a way for rural leftover men who have been unable to find a suitable partner for a long time to fulfill their marriage aspirations.
On the other hand, the traditional idea of incense is continued.
In rural China, family values and traditional ideas are still deeply rooted.
For many families, the marriage and birth of sons is seen as an important way to continue the family lineage.
Therefore, when leftover men in rural areas face the dilemma of not being able to find an unmarried woman as a partner, they may choose a second-married woman as their wife, hoping to continue the incense for the family through her fertility.
Although this choice is challenged by modern social perceptions, it still has a certain universality in rural areas.
Of course, the choice of second-married women by leftover men in rural areas is not entirely out of helplessness and compulsion.
In some cases, this choice also reflects their true expectations of marriage and family.
Many rural leftover men may pay more attention to factors such as their partner's character, personality and family background, rather than just paying attention to the other party's marital status.
As a result, second-married women may be more in line with their marital expectations in some ways.
The phenomenon of leftover men marrying second-married women in rural areas is a complex and multi-dimensional social phenomenon, which involves many aspects such as personal choice, social concept and marriage concept.
First, respect individual choice
Everyone has the right to make decisions that are best for them based on their preferences, values, and life experiences.
The choice of leftover men in rural areas to marry a second-married woman is a personal choice they make according to their own conditions and marital expectations, which is a way for them to pursue happiness.
Marriage is a matter between two people, who have the right to choose their partner as long as both parties are willing and in accordance with the law.
We cannot discriminate or blame certain social labels or prejudices simply because of their choices.
Everyone has their own lifestyle and values, and these choices are based on a combination of factors such as their personal experience, family background, economic situation, and social environment.
Second, focus on social issues
The phenomenon of leftover men in rural areas and the status of second-married women in the marriage market actually reflect the social problems in rural areas.
We should pay attention to these problems, find solutions, and contribute to the development and progress of rural areas.
All sectors of society should increase investment in rural education, improve the education level and vocational skills of men, and create more employment and entrepreneurial opportunities for them.
At the same time, it is necessary to strengthen supervision and guidance of the rural marriage market and break the shackles of traditional concepts.
Third, promote the concept of diversity and inclusiveness
We should advocate the concept of marriage equality and the advancement of women, and eliminate discrimination and prejudice against second-married women.
Marriage is a process in which two people choose and respect each other, and should not be interfered with and influenced by external factors.
We should respect everyone's marriage choices and lifestyles, and create a fair and equal marriage environment for everyone.
At the same time, education and training for women should be strengthened to improve their overall quality and ability level, so as to win them more respect and choice in the marriage market.