Yang Jiang once sighed that life will inevitably experience some difficult days.
In her work "Walking to the Edge of Life", she also mentioned the difficulty of life: in this society full of material desires, it is indeed full of hardships to spend a lifetime.
Our lives are often unsatisfactory, and it seems that everyone is busy on their own path, and there is always something that makes people feel powerless.
But no matter how hard life is, we must persevere.
In this life full of uncertainties, we need to learn to be our own savior, stay calm and calm, and face all the unsatisfactory things in life.
If you feel stressed about your life, it's important to get rid of those negative emotions on a regular basis. When you find yourself caught up in an emotion that you can't let go, think back to these words.
We who are busy with life and work often do not have time to indulge in troubles, which reduces a lot of unnecessary anxiety and self-consumption.
If people are too idle, they will take the little things too seriously.
So, a tip to deal with inner turmoil is to never sit idle when you feel anxious or sad, which will instead focus your attention on the emotions in the moment. You should endure it and continue to do what you are supposed to do, bad moods will always pass, they come and go like labor pains. During labor pains, whatever you do can be uncomfortable.
Psychologists tell us that the whole process of emotions is only about 90 seconds, and if we refuse to accept it, the pain will be prolonged. The best way to deal with it is to go with the flow and let the emotions go with the wind.
In "My Liberation Diary", there is such a profound sentence: "Fate is a matter of peace with what happens, don't keep thinking about it." The more desperate you want something, the more you know in your heart that that thing may not be able to match you. People, knowing that they can't get it, the sense of urgency in their hearts will become more and more unbearable. ”
I finally figured out why I wasn't happy with my life. Because I'm always hoping for something. For example, when I read this book, I hope that I can become more thoughtful and meaningful; When you run, you want to succeed; A clockwork message, waiting for someone else to repeat it. If these circles drawn in advance become real, then I will be triolated; If it doesn't work out, then you can only sulk with yourself.
Things, don't expect too much. The more I look forward to it, the more I love movies in my head, and as soon as all kinds of unexpected things appear, things don't go as planned, and my mood naturally falls to the bottom.
Where in the world is there a standard answer?Some people live to be in their twenties and die, and some people are still tough in their nineties. Some people disappeared all at once, and some people lay in a hospital bed for ten years before going. Those rules and regulations are all set by people, and they are the meanings given by people. If you're careful, it looks pretty weighty;If you don't care, it's nothing.
People with high education are delivering food, and those who don't have any diploma may be their own boss. The good-looking people are still single in their fifties, and the average-looking ones have already started a family. Capable people are so busy that they can't see a few families all year round, and there are also ordinary people who can reunite every day although their days are dull. Some people can live a long life without leaving their hands to smoke and drink every day, and some people work hard but die young. What's right or wrong, it's not accurate, you just have to feel comfortable in your own heart. In this life, we can't do it all over again, we have to live as happily as possible, don't make ourselves too anxious, our life is just improvisation.
I suddenly understood what the teacher said, marriage is indeed the product of impulse. In the cheers of the crowd, in the hustle and bustle of the world, driven by dopamine, everything seems to freeze in an instant, giving people the illusion of icing on the cake. If you calm down and settle accounts rationally, it seems that the glittering ring will not be able to be worn.
When I was 20 years old, it was enough to like it, and I wanted to marry my beloved, and I didn't care whether he had a financial foundation or family conditions. Even though the road ahead is bumpy, I still believe in the power of love;Even if it's a quarrel over money, or a quarrel because you're young and immature, as long as you have mutual affection, it's enough.
When I was twenty-five or sixteen years old, my requirements changed, I wanted to be financially independent, I wanted the other party to be mature and stable, have a certain economic foundation, have a car and a house, and look forward to a carefree life after marriage. Love may no longer be the first priority, what matters is mutual loyalty and a sense of responsibility to the family. I can even choose not to get married and not need love because I understand that love is not the whole of life.
This quote is very therapeutic: "You have to learn to cover your ears and ignore the noise;No one in this world can be smooth sailing, and the only one who can really help you is yourself. ”
The ideal state of life is: do not expect anyone, do not envy anyone, do not despise anyone, do not laugh at anyone, do not rely on anyone, work hard silently, and become the most ideal self.
Every stage has its scenery, and your age should be the glory of your life, not an excuse for sadness. Even if there is a story in the eye, the face can still be unwavering.
All the injustices and grievances you swallow will eventually lead to a broader vision....