On the stage of life, we often encounter various roles and situations. Sometimes, because of our own persistence and principles, we seem out of place with the people around us. Some people call it "clear high" and "high cold", but is that really the case?
I was once consulted by a girl who was confused by the differences between herself and her new colleagues in the office. That little girl is good at dealing with people and knows how to build a good relationship with her boss and customers. And she herself always felt that it was cheesy to do so, and she didn't bother to try it. She asked me, "Am I too high?" ”
I smiled and said to her, "Actually, you are not really high, but a little inferior. "Everyone has their own way of behaving, and there is no absolute right or wrong. But if you reject others because of your own insistence, then you may be stuck in a state of self-isolation.
I've had a similar experience. In my early years as a book editor, I rarely took photos with people and took *** At the time, I thought that these were all manifestations of vanity, and I didn't need to rely on them to prove my worth. However, as I got older, I began to realize that there was something wrong with this thinking.
The root of the problem is that I don't treat those big names as equal "people", but as "gods" who are high up and only have money and power in their eyes. In fact, regardless of status, everyone has emotional needs and needs to be cared for and respected.
When I started to realize this, I also started to try to change my behavior. Once, I heard that the father of a well-known editor-in-chief had died, and even though I was poor and incapable at the time, I still wanted to do my part. So, I collected all kinds of chocolates, candies, and biscuits, and made a seemingly rough but heartfelt snack gift box for her. Unexpectedly, this simple act moved her very much.
Years later, when I published the book, the editor-in-chief personally arrived and presented me with a large bouquet of flowers. At that moment, I deeply realized the true meaning of the sentence "people are emotional, people are still rational, but people are emotional after all".
Therefore, I would like to say that sometimes what we call "pure and high" is actually just a manifestation of low self-esteem. We are afraid of being different from others and being ostracized, so we choose a way to protect ourselves in a way that seems arrogant but is actually closed. However, true maturity and self-confidence is the courage to face one's own shortcomings and dare to make authentic connections with others.
So, stop worrying about your "learning won't come to work", and don't easily define yourself as "Qinggao". Try to understand, care and respect others, and you will find that the world is actually much better than you imagined.
Hello, I'm Mono the Career Pathwalker
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