In the unit, there are these 5 performances, which means that someone is testing your bottom line
In our day-to-day work, we inevitably have to deal with a variety of colleagues. In the process of getting along with people,Observe the wordsIt is a compulsory course.
Within the system, the importance of this capacity is self-evident. Sometimes,Some subtle signsIt may be a hint that someone is testing your bottom line.
Today, we will talk about the five manifestations in the workplace that may indicate that someone is testing your bottom line, hoping to help you better cope with the complex interpersonal relationships in the workplace.
1. Ask frequent and tentative questions
If a colleague alwaysUse some tentative questions to get to the bottom of it, such as, "How do you feel about this project?" Or, "What do you think about the leader's decision-making?" "It's probably testing you about somethingAttitude and stance
In this case, you need:Stay alertDon't reveal what you really think, especially when those ideas may be at odds with the team or leadership.
Asking frequent tentative questions can be a strategy to understand your bottom line in order to gain an edge in future collaborations or competitions
2. Unwarranted provocation and accusations
At work, if you findI often become the object of criticism and accusation from others, and these criticisms are oftenThere is no obvious factual basis, then it could be an act of testing your bottom line.
This kindUnprovoked pickingProbably to test your patience and reflexes to see if you can stay calm and sane under pressure.
Faced with this situation,You need to stay calmDon't be easily influenced by other people's emotions, at the same timeBe clear about your views and positions.
3. Excessive intimacy or distantness
in interpersonal relationshipsProximity changesIt often reflects some deep dynamics.
If a colleagueAll of a suddenTo you becomeUnusually intimate, or vice versa,Suddenly alienate you, which may hide the intention of testing your bottom line.
Excessive intimacy may be to gain your trust in order to gain some kind of benefit in the future; Excessive distancing, on the other hand, may be to observe how you react to loneliness and stress. In the face of this situation, you need to maintain a certain degree of vigilance, not to be easily confused by superficial intimacy, and to maintain your independent thinking and judgment ability.
Fourth, suddenly change the way of cooperation
In teamwork, if colleaguesSuddenly changed the way I work with youFor example, from active cooperation to passive resistance, or from independent action to over-reliance, it may also be that they are testing your bottom line.
This variation in the way you work together may be to test youPatience and responsibilityOr coping skills. In this case, you need to keepBe flexible and calm, not only to stick to their own principles, but also to seek effective communication with colleagues to solve problems together.
5. Frequently ask for help or give help
If a colleagueAsk you for help often, or inBe unusually generous when you need helpIt could also be a way to test your bottom line.
Frequent requests for help may be a test of your patience and boundaries, while being overly generous may be an attempt to reap some sort of reward in the future。When dealing with this situation, you need to be clear about your capabilities and areas of responsibility, both to be helpful and to avoid overpromising or sacrificing your own interests.
Working within the system, facing complex interpersonal relationships, we need:Maintain a keen sense of observation and judgment。When encountering any of the aboveTentativeWe need to remain calm and rational in our behavior, and not be easily influenced by other people's strategies.
At the same time,We also need to learn to protect our bottom lineand stick to their principles and positions. Only in this way can we be invincible in the workplace and achieve personal growth and development.
In closing, I would like to emphasize that:Temptations and trials in the workplace are inevitableBut we can't lose ourselves because of it.
We needMaintain the ability to think and act independently, learn to find a balance in dealing with others, both respectful and self-protecting。Only in this way can we go further in the workplace and realize our career dreams.
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