Yesterday, I received a private message like this in the background: "Teacher, I broke up with my boyfriend for a month, although I took the initiative to mention it, but I can't let go of it in my heart."
I've been very sad during this time, and I can't eat and sleep well. I don't know if he will be as sad as me, I regret it now, I really want to get back together with him, but I don't know if he still has me in his heart, do I still have hope?”
In fact, many students who come to the teacher for consultation have experienced such a situation. When you are together, you feel nothing, but when you are really separated, and the other party really disappears into your life, you will feel sad again, feel empty in your heart, and want to redeem it.
If this man changes his attitude towards you after breaking up, alienates you, or even treats you coldly, does it mean that he doesn't love you anymore?Not really.
So how can you tell if a man still loves you after a breakup?In today's article, the teacher will tell you the answer. If he still loves you, then he will have the following 5 manifestations, from these aspects, whether he loves or does not love at a glance.
Number one, he still has emotions for you
Why does it depend on his emotions?Because this is the fundamental basis for judging whether he still loves you, and this is not only applicable in relationships, but also in other relationships.
For example, if you make a mistake at work and are scolded by your boss. The boss has emotions for you, right?At this time, many students may think, "It's over, the boss won't want to fire me." ”
In fact, this just shows that the boss doesn't want to fire you, but hopes that you can make changes and take your work more seriously. And if you make a mistake, he just doesn't say a word, doesn't scold you, and doesn't talk to you, which is the most dangerous time.
Because this shows that the boss has been completely disappointed in you, he doesn't want to spend time and energy on you anymore, and even ten likely, he will fire you.
In the same way, if your other half will vent his dissatisfaction with you, saying that you are not good enough, and quarrel with you, it means that he still has needs and expectations for you, and he hopes that you can change.
After the breakup, if he still complains about you, he will argue with you, for example, you don't have a good temper, like to hit people, unreasonable, etc., which shows that he still has emotions for you, and you should be happy because he still has you in his heart. And if he ignores you directly, it means that he has no hope for you and this relationship at all, and he is too lazy to take care of you.
Number two, he won't cut off all contact with you
If two people break up, the other party still loves you, then he will leave room for himself, what is the most direct way?It's to keep and your *** he won't cut off completely.
Even if you are blocked on WeChat, but like other social platforms, such as a certain sound, a certain book, he still hasn't canceled his attention to you, if he wants to contact you, he can still be contacted. Including some men, he is reluctant to delete your WeChat because he is afraid that he will really lose your messages from now on.
All this shows that your place in his heart is still very important. Although after the breakup, there is little or no interaction between him and you, but you can sometimes see his visit records from your social platforms, which shows that he is still silently caring about you.
Third, he will find an excuse to contact you
In the embryonic stage of the relationship, whether it is you or him, there will always be one party who will take the initiative to find or create some common topics to enhance the relationship between two people and create opportunities to be alone.
For example, "I bought two tickets for the show, my friend and they just happened to be in trouble, do you have time to go with me?""I'm dealing with things outside, I just took a look, it's very close to your company, do you want to come out and have a meal together?""I've heard that you're a good swimmer, can you teach me if you have time?"”
To love someone is to find all kinds of ways to establish contact with each other, even if it is a breakup, only the other person in your heart is the same. Because they're separated, he'll find some excuse to contact you. These excuses, which may be less obvious than before, may seem reasonable.
For example, "I just cleaned up the house and found that there are still your things, do you still want them?""Today my friend asked me how you are doing, you can contact him when you have time."
In short, it's something that seems to be normal, and at the same time, it's something that must be connected. Actually, these are all excuses he deliberately made to contact you, and he hasn't let you go yet.
Fourth, he will secretly pay attention to your current situation and ask your friends about you
He will ask your mutual friends about you, such as friends who have not been in contact with you very often, but after you broke up, he suddenly looks for you more often, and every time he asks you about your current situation.
Actually, most of this is what he asked a friend to inquire. Because I don't care about you directly, I talk to you, but I can't let go of you in my heart and want to know if you're doing well, so I can only do it in this way.
Fifth, he will try to make you jealous
For example, after the breakup, he may deliberately post some ** about himself going out on social platforms, and there are even other members of the opposite sex in **. In fact, his purpose is to show you how well he is doing after separation, and make you jealous.
Behind these behaviors of his, there is a small psychology that he wants to "take revenge" and compete with you, in order to make you regret breaking up with him and making you feel that it is a pity to lose him. The more he does this, the more it shows that he hasn't let go of you in his heart, but he doesn't want to admit it, and at the same time he doesn't want to admit defeat.
Of course, some girls will do the same after a breakup. The other person may not have much reaction after breaking up with you, but he can't sit still when he knows that you are close to the other members of the opposite sex.
He will be very jealous, maybe he will take the initiative to find you, ask you what your relationship is with that person, and say some sour words, which shows that you still have a very important place in his heart. And if he really doesn't care about you at all, then it doesn't matter who you hang out with, it doesn't matter to him, who you love, it has nothing to do with him anyway.
If a man still has these behaviors after breaking up with you, it means that he still loves you deeply. If you really can't let it go, then do your best to redeem it, don't let two people who really love each other miss out like this. If you don't have these performances, don't be discouraged, don't give up easily, in fact, there are still many skills that can be used to redeem it.
The core of redemption is secondary attraction, so instead of being entangled in internal friction and thinking about whether the other party still loves you or not, why don't you go first?First of all, improve yourself and learn the right way to get along. If you don't know how to do it, send a message to the teacher and I'll teach you to get it back!
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