Refuse to compare, respect for oneself, and "severing family affection" during the Spring Festival has become a new trend
During the Spring Festival this year, I don't know if you have encountered an interesting phenomenon: visiting relatives and friends seems to have decreased a lot, and the gift boxes in the supermarket have slowed down, especially young people, to put it bluntly, young people nowadays are unwilling to let themselves be hindered by traditional etiquette.
But this incident also led to one of the hottest words of the day –"Separation"。
Actually, the term is easy to understand: young people no longer want to have much communication with family members other than their parents. However, in the past, people just talked about it, but this year, many young people have taken direct action.
Of course, when it comes to separation, it is necessary to distinguish between urban and rural. Most of the cities are dominated by only children, which means that the post-80s, post-90s and even post-00s groups in the city actually do not have many relatives and siblings, and there will be fewer and fewer people who gather together for Chinese New Year's Eve dinner every year. The rest are some relatives, such as the seven aunts and eight aunts, who have already formed new families.
Most of the relatives and friends who come to visit now are mainly relatives and siblings of their parents, as the saying goes"One generation of relatives, two generations of representatives, three generations and four generations overthrown", albeit slightly brutal, but that's the way the city is today.
This phenomenon should be much better in rural areas, but why also appear in large quantities"Separated relatives"This?
I don't know if you have figured it out, now the flavor of the New Year in the countryside seems to be getting weaker and weaker, and the original happy scene has become a comparison conference, and the content of the comparison is very complicated, from national events to food, clothing, housing and transportation, and even wives and children will be compared.
Of course, this phenomenon is not present in all rural areas, but it is more or less present in most areas, and it is one of the main reasons why young people choose to dissolve their marriages.
There is also a question of etiquette. The traditional etiquette of most cities in the north is indeed very heavy, no matter how high your status is and how well you mix, you still have to bow down when you return to your hometown.
There are also red envelopes, many rural areas will give red envelopes to the elderly and children every year, and the amount of money in the red envelopes determines a person's face and also determines a person's filial piety. You must know that most of the young people who go out to work in rural areas do not have children or are even married. However, young people of the same generation who live in rural areas have at most a third child, so from the city to the countryside, the red envelope alone represents a significant expense.
There is a large generation gap between the elderly in the countryside and the young people in the city, and there is not much emotional foundation. If you can't talk about it every year, then"Break up"It's also a matter of time.
However, I think everyone has their own answer to who is right and who is wrong in this matter. Some people think that we should be considerate of our relatives living in the countryside, but of course some people think that this is because they are meddling in their affairs, hoping that we will be poor and afraid that we will be rich.
But nowadays, it doesn't seem to matter who is right or wrong, because some young people are beginning to choose to distance themselves from their relatives, and the money saved can also be used for travel, and for those relatives who will be cynical from time to time, it is better not to turn a blind eye and not to care.
After the Spring Festival this year, the main tourist attractions have experienced unusually hot weather, which has made young people take out the money they have saved to spend.
In all fairness, it's better to spend money on this than to be compared by relatives, rather than taking it out to see the scenery and let it go.
Why not tackle the loneliness of young people in the New Year and boost the economy at the same time?
So"Severed affiliation"It's not that it's not good to see what's so-called"Severed affiliation"It's not completely cut off, it's just a little less detour, after all, some relatives always seem to be finding fault and being sarcastic, so for the first time"Severed affiliation"It's also a relief for some young people. Severed affiliation"It's also a relief for some young people.
To be honest, the so-called good relatives and good friends are generally in constant contact, because the form of visiting relatives and friends during the Chinese New Year is not very necessary. At first, we worked for a year, we were already very tired, and the New Year's vacation was not very long, so there was no need to work so hard.