Author: Wen Qiusheng.
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Once a man leaves love outside of marriage, marriage is like broken porcelain, although there are many ways to repair it, but there is no way not to leave a trace.
For women, marriage is the most important thing in life. Even if a man betrays his marriage, he will choose not to divorce because he is reluctant or because he does not want the family to break up.
It's just that how many women have endured all kinds of grievances, but in exchange for another betrayal by men. It wasn't until later that I realized that the man had not been cut off.
Extramarital relationships, if they are not broken, men will behave, and women should pay attention.
My best friend's husband is a taxi driver, and he runs outside every day and is often away from home.
After knowing that he was with her first love, her heart was broken. The husband begged her for forgiveness, and he broke off contact with his first love, and wrote a letter of guarantee that he would give all the money to his wife to take care of.
But it didn't take long for him to return to his original cold, indifferent attitude.
I don't want to go home for dinner, and I don't attend various family gatherings with my wife.
When his wife celebrated her birthday, he prevaricated with the sentence "I took a big job and wanted to go out of town", no time, no gifts, and even "happy birthday".
The girlfriend was completely disappointed, feeling that his heart did not return home, and he was still nostalgic for extramarital feelings.
Whether a man betrays his marriage or not, whether he returns to the family, can be seen from his attitude towards his wife.
Men who truly return to the family will care about their wives' feelings and work hard to restore the trust between them.
Zhang Ailing wrote in "Red Roses and White Roses": "If a person doesn't have time, it's because he doesn't want to have time, if a person can't leave, it's because he doesn't want to go away, and if a person makes too many excuses for you, it's because he doesn't want to care about you." ”If a man doesn't love you, he will ignore you, don't care if you're lonely or lonely, and don't want to spend time and effort to make you happy.
There is no change in the attitude towards his wife, not coming home, not comforting, not explaining. The state of getting along between the two people is still very bad.
Qi Chenggang in "Children of the Qiao Family", before marrying Qiao Simei, was expelled from the army because of "style problems".
Later, he married Simei, and when Simei was pregnant, he betrayed her.
Simei chose to forgive, thinking that with his daughter, he could take care of himself and live a good life.
But it didn't take long for him to choose betrayal again and ignore his family.
Simei was completely desperate and made up her mind to divorce Qi Chenggang.
Kuang Fu wrote in "Can't Answer": "In this quadrant of joy, anger and sorrow, if you get along with each other every day, it will be very troublesome for two people to always be in the same area. ”Women are bent on running a good family, but men use various reasons to ignore the family, which is a manifestation of nostalgia for extramarital relationships.
Because his heart is still outside of marriage, he still doesn't care about family affairs and can't help a little. It's as if the family is only for the woman and has nothing to do with him.
His heart is not in the family at all, like a wild horse that has escaped from the leash.
The man's verbal confessions and assurances have long been worthless.
"Love in the Time of Cholera" says: "The duty of marriage is not to love each other for a long time, but to overcome mutual boredom." ”After a man betrays his marriage, he may not be able to take back his sincerity.
How many women, after forgiving their husbands, the relationship between husband and wife is not angry, although the man made the decision to turn back and keep the marriage, but still did not give her tenderness, and still did not feel safe.
He never talks to you, you can't guess what he's thinking. He also doesn't want to have much emotional interaction with you, and he doesn't even want to be in the same room with you.
Say a few words to you, and he hurries away. When discussing things with him, he has an indifferent attitude.
Even if the woman wants to live a good life and express more love, he still does not cooperate and does not respond.
If you don't love, your feelings for each other have no temperature. Even if you try to get closer to him, it will be in vain.
Feelings need to go both ways, he doesn't love you, and he has long closed his heart to you.
You can't get into his heart, you can only wander outside his heart, and you can't manage each other's feelings. It's better to accept the reality and plan more for your future.
Marriage requires two people to run it together.
Love requires trust and loyalty. Although the relationship outside of marriage is good, it hurts the marriage a lot.
You can't have it both ways, you want everything, and you end up with nothing.
Firmly guarding your marriage, loving your wife well, and running your family wholeheartedly is to protect the happiness of your old age.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, who makes a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.