As the saying goes: "If you are in love, you can't tell if you are in love." "Whether the troubles in love are lucky or unfortunate in life depends on personal preferences and values.
Some people are keen on this kind of passionate love, believing that only in this way can they truly live, as beautiful and bright as brilliant fireworks, leaving wonderful and unforgettable memories.
But there are also people who are deeply disgusted by this way of falling in love, because everyone's values and understanding of love are different. When encountering a noisy person of the opposite sex, these people often immediately feel disgusted and disgusted, and decide to keep their distance and no longer have in-depth relationships.
The more a person loves you, the more he likes to make trouble, this is not an accidental phenomenon, but is determined by character.
Those who are usually cold and cold, once they fall in love, they will become real, because love gives them the freedom to be their true selves, so the more they love, the more noisy they are, and the more they like it, the more they express themselves truly.
Those who are insecure will express their love through pestering and interruption, preferring to give desperately rather than quietly waiting to be loved and cared for.
There are also some people whose value orientation is vague, who does not have a clear definition and direction of love, who is at ease with what they encounter, adapts to the hardships of reality, and slowly loses their personality and preferences.
While the first two personality traits are easy to understand, the last one is often confusing. In real life, more people may fall into this third type. They show extreme stubbornness and rivalry in love, and once they decide to fall in love with someone, they will continue to accompany and wait, and will not let go easily. They will not leave easily unless they are faced with a decision to end.
01: Gao Leng Fan, who pretends to be too tired on weekdays
The love is as deep as the sea, and it is difficult to hide the cold state. "Under the cold appearance, those who hide deep affection of the opposite sex often show a kind of obsession and feelings.
When they are shallow, they are polite and distant from you; When the love is deep, it becomes foolish and willful, showing a rebellious personality. This kind of behavior is actually a natural outpouring of sincere feelings. The more genuinely they love you, the easier it is for them to inadvertently show their dependence and authenticity.
Those who seem to be tsundere and confident also have a vulnerable and soft side inside, but they selectively show these emotions.
In front of people who know themselves, they are more likely to show their flaws and shortcomings. If these traits are still accepted, they will feel truly confident and optimistic, and they will work harder to be good and give more.
In getting along with the opposite sex, cold people are more willing to pay and invest, and do not hesitate to sacrifice and change. They are strict with themselves, equally responsible for the people and things they love to the end, and naturally take on a lot, but they do not want to share and share. They are more willing to give than to receive mercy and love.
People who are cold and cold, become casual and real when they are in love, and decent and elegant when they are not in love, and their performance is just the opposite of ordinary people.
When the cold person is no longer willful and troublesome to you, it may mean that they have chosen to give up and alienate, whether it is because of disappointment or insight into the truth or falsehood, once they leave, it is difficult to recover.
02: Lack of security
The heart is homeless, and the love is so deep. "In the crowd, there are people who do not deliberately strive for perfection, but openly admit their shortcomings and are willing to express their love.
There is often an entanglement hidden behind this behavior. They show great thoughtfulness and care, constantly giving and going the extra mile, and once their hearts are moved, they show madness.
Such people are often insecure and need tangible actions to prove that their love is taken seriously and protected. Otherwise, they will feel sad and sad.
People with a lack of security will become overly dependent and entangled because of love, showing the following characteristics: 1. Willing to change for each other, adapt to each other's preferences, and even achieve selfless love; 2. The other party needs to constantly love words and vows, even if these words may not be sincere; 3. It is easy to be influenced by a third party and will be overly sensitive to any information about your lover.
Insecure people, the more they love you, the more they like you, the more noisy they are. Getting along with them is like struggling with hardships every day, but after leaving, you will fall into indifference and alienation. Entangled because of love, sticky because of love, this is a direct manifestation of insecurity.
03: The value orientation is very vague
There are three thousand floating worlds, and the love is unfathomable. "For some people, their values in life are vague and lack clear goals and pursuits, for them, a stable and happy life is enough, and the boundary between true love and future is not important. They do not pursue the refinement and luxury of life, but they are happy to make do and compromise.
Everyone's three views are different, some people are satisfied with the ordinary, and some people pursue excellence. We can't be disgusted with the ordinary life that others have chosen, and we can't exaggerate our own worth too much.
Everyone's choices have their pros and cons, the key is to pursue what you love and cherish your choices.
People with ambiguous value orientations tend to be more emotional in love. They believe that once they fall in love, they are in love, and the definition and pursuit of love are not clear. They are content to be loved by someone and do not pursue the warmth and romance of love.
Their understanding of love and marriage can be vague. There is less pursuit and exploration in life, and more of an ordinary and Buddhist attitude, everything seems indifferent, and tends to be flat and relieved.
Life should not be casual or docile, but it needs to have some qualities to support curiosity and exploration of the world. In the relationship between the opposite sex, the nonsense and willfulness brought about by the ambiguity of this value orientation are manifested as persistence and madness in feelings, and they are unwilling to let go easily.
When encountering such people, it is often difficult to separate easily, because they are accustomed to a simple and peaceful life, do not like twists and turns and turbulence, and will desperately seize even if they are given the slightest opportunity.
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