Zeng Guofan said: "It is better to be illiterate than to be illiterate." ”
When dealing with people, you know people and faces, and don't be blinded by appearances.
Too many people can always disguise themselves, and they will not reveal the truth until the critical time.
Therefore, we must seize the following three times to accurately identify people.
When you are in trouble, human nature is evil.
As the saying goes, "Relatives help their relatives, and no one helps to worry about people." ”
We imagine that when we are in trouble, there are countless hands around us that stretch out to give ourselves the strength to rise again.
The scene of sharing hardships and hardships is what we are most looking forward to.
I'm sorry, there are a lot of people who fall into the well, and many people have the mentality that more is better than less.
In "Dream of Red Mansions", there is a little character "Liu Wu'er", who is the daughter of Liu's sister-in-law, an employee in the kitchen of Jiafu.
Mother and daughter usually keep their duties, for fear of offending people and losing their jobs.
Liu Wu'er is still a child, she is very innocent in everything she does, and she is friendly to people everywhere. She is very good with the Fang officials in Yihong Courtyard.
Seeing that Liu Wu'er was thin and weak, Fang Guan went to Mrs. Wang to ask for rose dew and let her drink it.
One day, Liu Wu'er got Poria paste from her uncle, and soon thought of Fang Guan and planned to send some over.
At dusk, as soon as I arrived at Yihong Courtyard, I met the housekeeper Lin Zhixiao and was interrogated for a few words. The child, I couldn't help but ask, and I looked flustered. The housekeeper believes that there is a suspicion of a thief.
Then, several maids who were at odds with Liu's sister-in-law came out and said, "Liu Wu'er stole the rose dew."
The matter got bigger and bigger, and Liu's sister-in-law, mother and daughter were imprisoned. The people who had a holiday with Sister-in-law Liu in the kitchen all ran to Ping'er and demanded that the "case" be handled strictly by giving gifts, and that Sister-in-law Liu's mother and daughter must be driven out.
Fortunately, Ping'er found out the truth, and everything was a misunderstanding. Sister-in-law Liu returned to the kitchen, but she no longer trusted the people around her.
Lu Xun said such a sentence: "The brave are angry, and they draw their blades to the stronger;The cowardly are angry, but they draw their blades against the weaker. ”If you are weak and in trouble, you will find that the person who really steps on you is often not a person from a high place, but a person who is as weak as you. People at the same level always can't see you well, hoping to crush you down, and they can mix better.
While tending to be inflammatory, while stepping on the weak, this kind of behavior is disgusting to everyone, but human nature is like this. People who usually smile at you, there are always people who suddenly become hateful.
When you get rich, your favors are fake.
As the saying goes: "Don't persuade people lightly, and don't let people be poor." ”Since when you are poor, do not go to crowded places to avoid being looked down upon. Then if you get rich, you should be able to go to the group and be looked down upon by everyone.
Actually, if you get rich, don't mix in the group. There is another saying to remember:"Respect Luo Yi first, then respect people. ”
What people like is not you, it's your money. All kinds of likes, not just liking, but coveting something.
Yan Po in "Water Margin" regretted that she had no money to bury her father, so she said bad things to Song Jiang, and promised her to her.
But after Yan Poxi married Song Jiang, her life suddenly changed for the better, but she was very restless, and then she loved other people behind her back, and took the letters of Song Jiang and Liangshan people, threatening Song Jiang and giving gold.
In the "Cornucopia" TV series, Shen Wansan became rich, and Emperor Zhu Yuanzhang respected him. Shen Wansan spent money to repair the city wall, and he was ready to give some money to make the soldiers of the three armies live a better life.
Zhu Yuanzhang thought that Shen Wansan was too arrogant, so he found a reason to send him to the frontier. Among them, whether there is a little bit of jealousy, there should be.
The richer you are, the more people you are around, and some relatives you haven't seen for many years will also pop up and always want to get naked.
If you go to a party, there are a lot of people who drink with you.
But you really don't believe that the people who keep praising you are the ones who really love you.
People who come for profit will also betray you because of profit;When the benefits are gone, the figures are gone.
The most uncomfortable thing is that you spend money to help others, but people don't appreciate it, and they dislike you for giving too little. If you stop giving money, people think you're vicious.
The person who drinks with you, once you get what you want, puts down the glass and becomes strange.
When you borrow money, people speak coldly.
There is borrowing and repaying, and it is not difficult to borrow again. This is what many people know.
If you really want to borrow money, you will find that it is too difficult.
In the 90s of the last century, I went to secondary school. Before the start of school, my mother went to her parents' house to borrow tuition.
The little uncle said: "If you can't afford to read, forget it, why borrow money?"”
The fourth uncle said: "The money is there, but it is all fixed, if you take it out, the interest will go to **?"”
felt that during the Chinese New Year, several uncles said very generously: "If you have difficulties, look for me." "Why did you change your hexagram?
Yes, you can talk generously when you talk in normal times, but if you really want to borrow money, people's words will be very stingy. After all, real gold ** can gag people's mouths, and they can also buy a few real words.
There is a line in the sketch "Not Paying It Back": "You remember, the people who can lend you money are the ones who trust you the most." When you borrow money, we are embarrassed to refuse, and when we ask for money, we are embarrassed to speak, not because we are thin-skinned, but because we have deep feelings. ”If there are one or two people who agree to borrow money very happily after encountering cold words, they are the ones who really help. Maybe they are poor, but they are very rich.
Of course, at all times, you will see both sides of people. In addition to the human aspect, the positive will also be seen.
Comparatively speaking, there are fewer positive displays of people, and there are not many people who give you "positive".
On the road of life, if there is someone, when you are in trouble, you will never give up;When you are rich, do not flatter;When you borrow money, immediately agree, this is a nobleman.
In addition, favors are two-way street, you don't just know how to take, don't know how to give.
When people are in a difficult time, you take the initiative to reach out;This is emotional foreshadowing. When you are in difficulty, people have a reason to return you a favor.
At all times, we prefer to associate with people who are the same.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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