Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the confrontation between two generations often becomes a "stumbling block" in married life. In this era of "evil mother-in-law", how daughters-in-law deal with it is another spiritual challenge that is constantly exploring. Traditional respect and filial piety, modern independence and self-realization, in this inextricable relationship, the way of getting along between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law often affects the fate of the whole family.
In fact, the quality of a daughter-in-law can also determine the atmosphere and happiness of a family; Generally speaking, to see the quality of a daughter-in-law, you can start from the following 3 aspects:
1. Respect elders
Respecting elders is not easy! A good daughter-in-law should not only respect the opinions and suggestions of her elders, but also care about their emotions and needs. They are considerate of their elders' situation and will not conflict with them because their lifestyles are different from those of their elders. Respect does not mean blind obedience, but is based on understanding and respect for the elders in order to achieve the goal of family harmony. Sometimes, daughters-in-law have to turn the pages of books, slowly pondering how to better respect their elders, which is really a university question!
Just like when we were children, respecting our elders is like a lesson, and we have to learn day after day, year after year, in order to gradually appreciate the mysteries. Sometimes, respecting the elders also requires the daughters-in-law to have a tolerant heart and understand the difficulties of the elderly, so as to get along with them better. Therefore, respecting elders is not just a slogan, but a kind of inner cultivation.
2. Industrious and virtuous
A good daughter-in-law can be budget-conscious, and housework is not an easy task. They have to be ready at all times, and they have to take care of everything at home. After all, our generation can't be like those lazy people, who don't do anything every day, and still expect others to serve them!
Industrious and virtuous, you have to start from small things. Just like learning when you were a child, you have to ponder it one stroke at a time to master it well. A good daughter-in-law has to be able to cook, wash clothes, and take care of the family's affairs, especially the elderly. They can't be like those slackers, who delegate everything to others and do nothing themselves. They do these housework willingly, after all, the happiness of their families is their greatest wish.
3. Be empathetic
Let's talk about empathy, it's not an easy thing to do. A good daughter-in-law must know how to get along with her family, she must be a little attentive, and she can't get angry when she has a little contradiction, which is not good. You have to learn to think about problems from the other person's point of view, so that you can better resolve conflicts and maintain family harmony.
Let's take a quarrel with your husband as an example, you can't always be impulsive, you have to stabilize your emotions and listen to the other party's thoughts. Sometimes, even if you are not the wrong party, you have to take the initiative to take a step back and give in. Empathy is not only about saying it, but also about it in action, so that family harmony can be truly maintained. Being empathetic is like a science, and you have to practice a good kung fu to do it. Only in this way can the family have a smooth ride.
Some people may sigh that such a daughter-in-law is rare and cannot be met in reality; Whether there is reality or not, it depends on whether you can match something, if you are not worthy, how can you meet such a daughter-in-law. As the saying goes: the right door.
A good daughter-in-law is not only the pillar of the family, but also the integrator and creator of the family. Words and deeds affect the fate and happiness of the whole family. , I hope everyone can meet a good daughter-in-law.