Since having children, Ms. Min Min has observed that in the process of growing up, children of different ages will lie to their parents for various reasons.
A 6-year-old child will deny questions such as "did you break this thing" and "do you want to eat", but subconsciously avoid parental punishment, while teenagers will avoid their parents' chases by lying because of the awakening of self-awareness.
How do you teach children of all ages about honesty?
1. Before the age of three: lying unconsciously
When children are young, whether they understand the people around them and society or think in other aspects, they are actually in a more unconscious state, and this more passive way to accept things they don't like very much may cause big problems.
Most children before the age of three may have a behavior, this so-called unconscious lying, in fact, the child unconsciously behaves in this situation.
2. After the age of three: lying mixed with personal thinking
As children grow up, their brain's thinking system gradually becomes active, just as we know in life that children's memory becomes higher and their concentration increases.
In this process, in fact, the child's self-thinking ability is stronger, and they can also carry out a certain integration, once we find that the child lies around the age of three, and the frequency is getting higher and higher, parents should take into account that perhaps the child's self-conscious thinking is not the so-called unconscious. Then as a parent, you need to make certain corrections to avoid your child going down the wrong path.
3. After the age of six: the number of lies increases and becomes more tactful
In general, we find that when children enter kindergarten, or when they come into contact with other people, they are more tactful when communicating with their parents.
Most parents also said that their children entered kindergarten with them, and when they talked to themselves, they showed an increase in abnormal behavior, in addition to the number of lies, and appeared more tactful.
In fact, this situation is also relatively normal, children before entering the kindergarten, the contact is with their parents, once they enter the kindergarten such a small society, it will also cause their psychological and physical effects in all aspects.
In addition to understanding the real cause, such as excessive stress and anxiety about not being able to control a situation, it may also be just a good way for children to find lying a good way to save trouble, parents should use rational attitudes and words to communicate with their children, and tell them that lying will not only destroy the trust and relationship of others, but also pay an unexpected price. If you want to solve the problem of children lying, these 3 tricks are the most effective.
1. Understand the reasons for things and don't label your children at will
When educating their children, many parents always deal with their children in a more experienced and sophisticated state, but they never respect their children, and even sometimes choose to directly beat and scold their children because of problems. In addition, children may also experience some violence.
2. Lead by example and set a good example for your children
In order for children to become honest and get rid of the problem of lying, we must keep our word and do what we say when educating our children. When some parents educate their children, in order to be able to exchange for their children's temporary obedience, they will use some promises to ** their children, but they do not fulfill them afterwards. Lying to your child in this way will cause your child to lie in a bad way.
3. Respect children
When parents find out that their child is lying, they do not immediately reprimand the child, but give the child respect first. Although children are small, they are also human beings, and respect can open the door to a child's heart.
Children are respected in order to truly reflect on their mistakes. After discovering that the child is lying, the parents not only give the child respect, guide the child to tell the reason for the lie, and finally the parent makes his attitude clear. In this series of processes, children can feel that parents "care about themselves" and "respect themselves", so that they can truly reflect on their mistakes.
In fact, the so-called education is to start from the details, so that children can avoid mistakes and reduce the probability of going the wrong way. In fact, the most important thing isIt is necessary to focus on the cultivation of character and character。Therefore, it is very important to cultivate children's good behavior habits in a timely manner for children's growthCultivating excellent character habitsHaving a confident and optimistic attitude, learning to control their emotions, and reasonably resolving negative emotions in life are the skills that children should learn.
There are no bad children in this world, only parents who can't teach, and parents put more effort into growing upGive the right guidance and raise excellent childrenIt's actually quite easy.
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